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1. 0:03Well, hi. This is Elaine Glover and I'm
2. 0:06the wife of Bishop Adrien of the Old
3. 0:09Catholic Apostolic Church and I'm the
4. 0:11bishop of the crossdenominational
5. 0:13mission because
6. 0:15I've helped many people on mission in
7. 0:19difficult situations. Well, anyway,
8. 0:22a week ago was Tuesday evening.
9. 0:26Adrian had got to bed and then he got up
10. 0:29to the toilet and I heard crush bang
11. 0:32wallet bang bang bang bang bang
12. 0:35and um
13. 0:38I found that he was stuck between the
14. 0:39bath and the toilet. I tried to get him
15. 0:42up and I didn't really know what's wrong
16. 0:44with him but I realized then that he'd
17. 0:46actually had a stroke and I was going
18. 0:49hysterical because I didn't know what to
19. 0:51do and he kept point point. I didn't
20. 0:54know what he was talking about. So
21. 0:55anyway, run the 999 and they came
22. 0:58pretty, you know, pretty quickly
23. 1:02and um
24. 1:04they tried to get him out the toilet,
25. 1:07but they couldn't.
26. 1:12So anyway, what happened then was
27. 1:17the ambulance came. They put him in a
28. 1:21funny fold up thing and put them on the
29. 1:23stretcher and I asked if I could go and
30. 1:25they said yes. So I went off with them
31. 1:28and uh then they stopped at Turley Mall
32. 1:30which is a bit of a not a very nice
33. 1:33place. Let's put it like that. He used
34. 1:35to be a drug addict's home with petrol
35. 1:38bombs and things, but they the
36. 1:40helicopter came and dropped off some
37. 1:42more paramedics. So he went to
38. 1:44Bournemouth Hospital, had a CC CT scan
39. 1:49or whatever you call it, and they saw
40. 1:51that he'd not only had one stroke, but
41. 1:53they he'd had an old one six months ago,
42. 1:57which actually I knew because he tried
43. 1:59to get in my driver's seat when I was in
44. 2:01the middle of a a busy road about to
45. 2:04drive off waiting for Adrian, but sadly
46. 2:06he's tried to sit on top of me, which is
47. 2:09very out very out of his character.
48. 2:13Adrien's very articulate. He's very
49. 2:15clever man. I mean, he really is. He's
50. 2:17very workaholic.
51. 2:20And uh poor old Adrian. So anyway, off
52. 2:23we went. And um
53. 2:27uh you know, I heard that he got two
54. 2:29strokes and he got a blood clot on the
55. 2:31brain. So we had to go to Southampton.
56. 2:37Anyway, I wanted to go there because I
57. 2:39don't know how I was going to get home
58. 2:41and I can't I didn't think I could drive
59. 2:43that far.
60. 2:45So, off we went and I said to the man
61. 2:48who was a very chief con chief
62. 2:50consultant of brain injury
63. 2:54and um I said to him, "Are you a
64. 2:56Christian?" And he said, "Why do you
65. 2:57want to know that as if I was going to
66. 2:58say you're Muslim?" I said, "Because I
67. 3:01want to pray with you. They want to pray
68. 3:02that God will use your hands to um heal
69. 3:07Adrian and that there's no problem on
70. 3:09the way, that he won't need a ventilator
71. 3:12and that God will help you. And he was
72. 3:14bit shocked. So anyway, I sat at the
73. 3:17front and the driver was absolutely
74. 3:19fantastic. He was very quick, knew what
75. 3:21he was doing. There was no need for any
76. 3:24ventilators, no need for anything. And
77. 3:26when I got there, he gave me the biggest
78. 3:28hug. And I was really chuffed because
79. 3:31God is the God of the miraculous, isn't
80. 3:34he? So anyway, he had the uh brain clock
81. 3:37taken out, the whole clock. Thank God.
82. 3:39I've been praying about this.
83. 3:42Um and he eat a tomato cuz I'm really
84. 3:45hungry. So anyway,
85. 3:52they said he got three clocks in because
86. 3:55he got the old one and then on the other
87. 3:57side he got a middle one and a second
88. 3:59one.
89. 4:01But I believe that God is a healer. And
90. 4:03I told him that my God is a healer and a
91. 4:06restorer. Heal me from cereable malaria.
92. 4:09I'm still alive. I should be dead
93. 4:10actually, but I have got brain injury.
94. 4:12And people don't recognize
95. 4:15that I've got brain injury and I
96. 4:17struggle with stress.
97. 4:20So, um,
98. 4:22he rang me up one night and he said
99. 4:24about if the if he has a swollen brain,
100. 4:27they're not going to cut the skull open
101. 4:29and give him room
102. 4:32for the um, swelling to go down because
103. 4:35they said he's going to be a cabbage and
104. 4:37disabled.
105. 4:39And I was livid because I mean I live
106. 4:41with him. He was in my my late husband
107. 4:44Nigel
108. 4:46was in a wheelchair.
109. 4:49Adrian, not Adrian, Nigel had muscular
110. 4:52destroy. He could walk. He had to have a
111. 4:55knee to eat for his arm to move up and
112. 4:57go across so that he can eat. But he did
113. 5:00amazing things. He went into Glen Park
114. 5:03youth offenders and ministered to young
115. 5:06people with a criminal record.
116. 5:09He went street preaching. We had street
117. 5:11parties
118. 5:13with um wonderful testimonies of, you
119. 5:17know, being in prison, drug addiction,
120. 5:19and all the things, you know,
121. 5:24I was not happy with him at all. I
122. 5:26called him an antichrist.
123. 5:29So anyway, um I said, "Lord, can you
124. 5:32open his eyes the following day?" And
125. 5:34his eyes opened.
126. 5:38And um it was wonderful really cuz he
127. 5:41was writing him off already. He'd only
128. 5:43had a stroke for a couple of days, but I
129. 5:45know that people are healed from
130. 5:47illnesses and people become better after
131. 5:50strokes.
132. 5:53So people were praying for him all over
133. 5:55the place, all around the world from his
134. 5:58church OCAC.
135. 6:00One lady came to see him and we had
136. 6:02communion and it was getting really
137. 6:05better. Then his daughter Emily came.
138. 6:06He'd not seen her for a long time cuz he
139. 6:09got divorced from Karen, his ex-wife.
140. 6:11But I mean, has nothing to do with me.
141. 6:12It's not my fault.
142. 6:16And um
143. 6:21so
144. 6:24he was so pleased, but I could see he
145. 6:27was working it out because I could be a
146. 6:28bit jealous when I want to be, but I
147. 6:31wasn't jealous of her at all. I was so
148. 6:33glad she came because I knew that her
149. 6:36presence would really pick him up.
150. 6:41And then the next thing I knew, Adrian
151. 6:43went to Bournemouth without nobody told
152. 6:45me, without ringing me up or telling me.
153. 6:47And I ended up going to Southampton.
154. 6:50Complete waste of journey and a complete
155. 6:52waste of a hotel for two nights so that
156. 6:54I could have a rest. And I had to drive
157. 6:57back to Bournemouth.
158. 6:59But the thing is
159. 7:02God gave me strength. God gave me
160. 7:04strength because sometimes I fell asleep
161. 7:06at the wheel because I have got brain
162. 7:08injury.
163. 7:10Um
164. 7:11but I know that God gave me a scripture
165. 7:14about him saying I will live. I will not
166. 7:17die. I want to testify for the Lord
167. 7:20and about delivering him. I know that he
168. 7:23will get better.
169. 7:26But anyway, being in Bournemouth
170. 7:27Hospital is a different matter because
171. 7:31the nurses are quite bossy. They they
172. 7:34treat him a bit like a baby and Adrian's
173. 7:37not a baby. He fed himself when I gave
174. 7:40him his yogurt and I got told off, but I
175. 7:43could see that actually he was doing it
176. 7:45himself.
177. 7:48But yesterday had a bit of a setback
178. 7:50because he was fighting with his glove.
179. 7:52He was trying to get out of the bed and
180. 7:54he takes the nose thing out which can be
181. 7:56very painful for him.
182. 7:58Well, he hates his boxing glove
183. 8:02and uh he kept doing this to me for two
184. 8:05hours. He was driving me bonkers.
185. 8:08But I've been praying today and the Lord
186. 8:10helped him to calm down. wasn't kept
187. 8:13poking the glove at me
188. 8:17because I think in a couple of days that
189. 8:19he will
190. 8:23have the nose tube out and have his hand
191. 8:25thing took off but you know he's getting
192. 8:28better I think and he's getting
193. 8:30frustrated
194. 8:31but we need to pray that one his brain
195. 8:33doesn't swell up two
196. 8:37that he can have the nose thing out and
197. 8:39that silly thing on his hand took off
198. 8:42and that um he would begin to speak.
199. 8:45Now, my friend Liz prayed that he would
200. 8:48speak and then all of a sudden he went
201. 8:53like this and I didn't know what he was
202. 8:55talking about. But he had a speech. He
203. 8:57had a language.
204. 9:00So, I'm praying that he'll learn to
205. 9:02speak properly. Then I can understand
206. 9:03what he's saying. But it's a big thing
207. 9:06for me. I'm shattered.
208. 9:11and thank my friends for giving me two
209. 9:13nights and the other friend for a hotel
210. 9:16because without that I don't know what
211. 9:17I'd do and it was a nice hotel. It
212. 9:19wasn't a crappy one
213. 9:22and I needed really time to rest for me
214. 9:25because being at home you want to do
215. 9:26housework, clean it up and trying to get
216. 9:29the house so it's relatively clean and I
217. 9:31don't need to bother with it.
218. 9:35But it really is a nightmare, honestly.
219. 9:37And I'm left in a position where
220. 9:41he's got six months pay, full pay, but I
221. 9:45can't get into it. I've got to get a
222. 9:46power of attorney, and that'll take a
223. 9:49few months.
224. 9:51Um, I've managed to found, praise the
225. 9:53Lord, his um, national insurance number
226. 9:56so I can claim PIP. But it's just
227. 9:59terrible because I'm left in a terrible
228. 10:01position.
229. 10:03And at the hospital, I can't do right
230. 10:05for doing wrong. And it really is very
231. 10:07difficult completely. But I just keep
232. 10:09trusting in God and then have a bath
233. 10:11when I come home and go to bed, tidy up,
234. 10:13and then get up in the morning and start
235. 10:15again.
236. 10:18I should be doing my plants, but the
237. 10:21problem is in my plants.
238. 10:24Um, there's so much to do and I I'm so
239. 10:27tired. And I've just been having to sort
240. 10:30out Adrian's stuff because I needed to I
241. 10:34found it actually. Praise the Lord. And
242. 10:36I found the sheets which I had that I
243. 10:38knew that we had filled in and signed
244. 10:40for the um
245. 10:44what you call it
246. 10:48the
247. 10:50or I can get money out of Adrian's bank
248. 10:52and pay bills because he pays all the
249. 10:55bills. I don't know how much he's got. I
250. 10:57don't know anything and it's just awful.
251. 11:02I would appreciate it if his son Ben
252. 11:05went because that'd be a big pickup for
253. 11:07him
254. 11:09and it would be a help for me.
255. 11:13I got a bit cross with his daughter, the
256. 11:15other one, because I think well they
257. 11:18told me that they' told her that he was
258. 11:20going to Bournemouth and nobody told me
259. 11:22and I just say I spent some money on a
260. 11:25hotel and I don't know whether I've lost
261. 11:26the money
262. 11:28because he wasn't at that anyway. So
263. 11:32yes, it's very difficult. Then you start
264. 11:34thinking about they said he might have
265. 11:37to be in hospital for a long time.
266. 11:41Then they said that um he might be badly
267. 11:44disabled. So then they've got to get the
268. 11:47house adapted and people say you don't
269. 11:49need to worry about it now.
270. 11:53Really? Of course you do. You got to
271. 11:55plan. Got to plan for it.
272. 11:59But I can't keep up with this. I'm going
273. 12:00to have to have some time for myself and
274. 12:02I can't afford it. I'd have liked to
275. 12:04gone to the hotel off the
276. 12:10off from the hospital for Saturday and
277. 12:12Sunday so I could just walk across the
278. 12:14road and I can have time for me in a
279. 12:16breakfast and rest.
280. 12:19But I can't afford £300 and something
281. 12:22pounds. I have got money from my mom,
282. 12:24but I can't spend that because that's
283. 12:26for me to live till I die. And you know,
284. 12:30I need money. I need to be able to I
285. 12:32don't want to spend all Adrian's money.
286. 12:33I just want to pay the bills.
287. 12:36So, it's not easy. And I'm really
288. 12:37stressed about all that's going on. And,
289. 12:40you know, I don't like to see him upset
290. 12:43about this looks like a boxing glove
291. 12:46thing.
292. 12:51And I feel alone.
293. 12:53I know Andy, his brother's brilliant. I
294. 12:56just feel alone. You know, you've been
295. 12:58you've been you've slept next to
296. 12:59somebody for nearly 10 years and then
297. 13:03you have an empty bed and it's horrible
298. 13:04waking up without Adrian.
299. 13:07And I love him. You know, we have
300. 13:09terrible RS cuz I'm a big gobby and he
301. 13:12can be vicious,
302. 13:15but I still love him.
303. 13:20People say, "Well, you know, we'll do
304. 13:22anything for you." But they don't even
305. 13:24offer to go and see Adrian
306. 13:26or give me a little bit of money here
307. 13:28and there so that I can
308. 13:31um one person I know very well from
309. 13:33Northern Ireland, he's helped me. I
310. 13:35haven't got the money out cuz I don't
311. 13:36know how to do it.
312. 13:39Oh, and you know, if only people that
313. 13:43have got a little bit of money could
314. 13:44help me a little bit, that'd be great.
315. 13:46But they don't. They say they'll help
316. 13:48me, but if you ask for money, then
317. 13:51you know, but it I'm not wealthy. I
318. 13:54haven't got any money. But the point is,
319. 13:56I can't get Adrian's money out either.
320. 13:58And I don't even know how to pay the
321. 14:00bills cuz he pays for everything.
322. 14:03And you know, I'm just finding it a real
323. 14:06struggle. And Adrian, I said to Adrian,
324. 14:08but he's not in the land of the living
325. 14:10really, is he's a bit all over the
326. 14:11place.
327. 14:13Um, so yes, it's very difficult. and uh
328. 14:17take over an in OCAC. I don't like that.
329. 14:21You know, I shouldn't be having all of
330. 14:23this. I shouldn't be having these
331. 14:24conversations. I shouldn't be worried
332. 14:26what they're doing. I shouldn't be any
333. 14:28of that. But no, it's been an absolute
334. 14:31nightmare.
335. 14:32But I pray that Ben comes to see Adrian.
336. 14:37and I pray that
337. 14:41well
338. 14:42they don't go
339. 14:45and I feel very alone and I feel that
340. 14:48everything's on top of me and I'm being
341. 14:50swallowed up by all these problems.
342. 14:53Anyway, I'm going to go now. God bless
343. 14:55you. God keeping. I hope that's an
344. 14:57update. Bye.