Achieve Your Life Vision By Focusing on Your Habits | Jon & Missy Butcher with Vishen Lakhiani — Transcript
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- 0:02[Music]
- 0:06so in this session we're gonna answer a
- 0:09couple of questions that you tribe
- 0:11members tossed at us earlier right these
- 0:13were cashton's questions that came up on
- 0:14Twitter and this was also the original
- 0:16intent for this 50-minute session this
- 0:1950-minute session is designed to help
- 0:21remove inertia often we have a vision
- 0:24there's inertia and the inertia could be
- 0:27that we have a mindset problem maybe we
- 0:31we its perseverance maybe it's lack of
- 0:34motivation maybe we have difficulty
- 0:36keeping up to habits I know I have that
- 0:38problem as well sometimes depending on
- 0:40the goals I'm going for mm-hmm Ronen who
- 0:42was here in the audience asked a couple
- 0:43of important questions which I know you
- 0:46guys want to answer such as if we're
- 0:47looking at 12 things what happens to the
- 0:49concept of singular focus right or how
- 0:52do we execute flawlessly day in and day
- 0:54out even during those days when we feel
- 0:56dark a negative or just lazy so this is
- 1:00what we're gonna be addressing in this
- 1:01conversation and the same Twitter rules
- 1:03apply if you go to app vision on Twitter
- 1:06you can reply to that message with your
- 1:08questions for join and Missy Butch and
- 1:09you can also see what other questions
- 1:10people are asking all right here we go
- 1:13so what we're gonna frame this up is in
- 1:17our second level class or mastery class
- 1:20we've got five modules all designed to
- 1:23help you execute on your life vision I'm
- 1:25going to take you through these concepts
- 1:27as quickly as I can I'm hoping to keep
- 1:29it to 20 maybe 25 minutes so we can have
- 1:32times for questions afterwards but if
- 1:34you just write down these five things
- 1:36you can go home and I mean we spend a
- 1:39year in life book master we spend a year
- 1:42working on these things and and
- 1:44executing an accountability program so
- 1:47where this starts is it starts with your
- 1:50life vision after you go through life
- 1:52book you've dialed in your life vision
- 1:54across twelve categories then you roll
- 1:57it off up into one big life vision
- 1:59that's where this next program starts so
- 2:02we're sort of assuming that you've got
- 2:05your life vision relatively dialed in I
- 2:07know that some of you are still working
- 2:08on it
- 2:09take these notes anyway I think this is
- 2:11really gonna help
- 2:12so I think what I'll do first we do you
- 2:15have to help me with this here you think
- 2:16I should just here here's what I'll do
- 2:18I'm gonna I'm gonna give you this list
- 2:21and then we're gonna go back around and
- 2:23we're gonna just dive in a little bit to
- 2:25each one of these items the first thing
- 2:27that we do out of life book is we do an
- 2:30exercise called right-sizing your life
- 2:33vision right-sizing your life vision
- 2:36getting it ready to build because we
- 2:39want to make sure that you've set the
- 2:41bar in exactly the right place for you
- 2:44this is super important and there are
- 2:47four questions that you can ask yourself
- 2:49that if you answer yes to each of these
- 2:51four questions you can know with a
- 2:53pretty high degree of certainty that
- 2:55you've set the bar in the right place
- 2:56you set the bar too low you're not going
- 2:59to feel fulfilled even if you achieve it
- 3:01you set the bar too high you're not
- 3:04going to achieve it so that's where
- 3:05we'll dive into that a little bit we
- 3:07want to make sure that look the reason
- 3:10that we do this why do we bother to
- 3:13visualize what our future could be like
- 3:15why do we do that
- 3:16we're the only animal that can do that
- 3:17or our brains are the only brains on the
- 3:19planet that can think about later and
- 3:21that high quality away and why do we do
- 3:25that we do it so that we can make it
- 3:27happen
- 3:28this isn't mental masturbation we need
- 3:30we want to make this go and so that's
- 3:33what we really focus in making sure that
- 3:35you've got that bar set at exactly the
- 3:37right place the second thing we take a
- 3:39look at is aligning your goals with your
- 3:42life vision super super important and
- 3:45we've got a nice little process for that
- 3:46the third thing we do which may be one
- 3:50of the most powerful things that we've
- 3:51ever discovered and applied to our lives
- 3:54is we spend some time taking a look at
- 3:56your daily habits and making sure that
- 3:59your habits are aligned with your goals
- 4:01and your life ition the fourth module is
- 4:06called stepping into your life issue and
- 4:10that one is literally about kind of your
- 4:14habits in action their daily and it goes
- 4:18even one level deeper which are your
- 4:20small choices and actions that aren't
- 4:22even like you're clearly defined habits
- 4:23this is about becoming exact
- 4:25that you had this beautiful term that
- 4:28you came up with miss this is about
- 4:30becoming the expression of your life
- 4:32vision at your core and that's where it
- 4:35happens guys that's where that's where
- 4:36this thing takes off and John just one
- 4:38second for those of you who are
- 4:40listening please don't see this as John
- 4:43is talking about his program right
- 4:45that's not the point John is talking
- 4:46about his approach so see this as an
- 4:49approach so I know you're using the word
- 4:50module but really you're really right
- 4:51explaining in a proper word from you
- 4:53want to write this down because you can
- 4:54reflect upon this approach this is a
- 4:56$25,000 program we're trying to give you
- 4:58in 25 minutes so it's and you can go
- 5:00home and really apply this stuff and
- 5:02crush it like we've seen so many people
- 5:05we do the system work okay so thank you
- 5:09for saying that mission and then and the
- 5:11last one is simple what you want to do
- 5:13on your way to moving toward from where
- 5:16you are now to that ultimate ideal life
- 5:18vision you've created is you want to
- 5:20make sure you're paying attention to
- 5:22your results you want to track and
- 5:24measure your progress so you can adjust
- 5:26if necessary because one thing we know
- 5:28is that no plan survives first contact
- 5:31with the enemy any plan no matter how
- 5:34well crafted is gonna fall apart as soon
- 5:38as you get into the real world and your
- 5:39ability to adjust is the key so those
- 5:43are the five things that we're gonna
- 5:44cover very briefly and and we'll go
- 5:47ahead and start at the top yeah you're
- 5:49ready right okay so it's gonna start
- 5:52with right sizing your life vision if
- 5:55you can answer these four questions with
- 5:57a yes after careful consideration you
- 6:01can know with certainty that you've set
- 6:02the bar in relatively the right place
- 6:04the first question is when I look at my
- 6:07life vision am i asking enough of myself
- 6:10or am i playing small there's a big
- 6:14payoff for playing small because no one
- 6:18likes to fail right what if we fail and
- 6:20so I mean a lot of people set the bar
- 6:23lower than they should and and that
- 6:25guarantees that they'll never brush up
- 6:27against their true potential so you
- 6:29really want to ask yourself have I set
- 6:32the bar high enough am i asking enough
- 6:36of myself that's that question the
- 6:39now here's my guess my guess that is
- 6:41that most of you in this room probably
- 6:43won't have problems there here's the
- 6:46question that we run into problems with
- 6:48personal development people is this
- 6:52vision achievable or am I asking too
- 6:54much of myself
- 6:56here's the truth you have unlimited
- 6:59potential and you also have limited
- 7:03potential both are true so you have no
- 7:07idea what you're capable of you have
- 7:09unlimited potential in that sense here's
- 7:12the sense that you have limited
- 7:13potential you're a human being you have
- 7:16limited time you have limited resources
- 7:19you have limited you you have there are
- 7:24limitations of your physical nature you
- 7:27know and you've got to work within those
- 7:29limitations your resources are precious
- 7:32finite things that have got to be
- 7:34deployed properly in order for you to
- 7:37make the best of yourself so let's not
- 7:39fool ourselves that our potential is
- 7:42absolutely unlimited and that's the end
- 7:44of the story that's half the story so
- 7:47those two questions am i asking enough
- 7:48of myself and is my life vision
- 7:51achievable we'll ensure that you're
- 7:55setting the bar in in pretty much the
- 7:57right place for you is that
- 7:58understandable so far cool ok the next
- 8:03one's a big one am I willing to pay the
- 8:06price that this life vision will require
- 8:10no this is this is everything comes with
- 8:13a price everything in life is a
- 8:16trade-off if you decide that you're
- 8:19gonna be a billionaire and your life
- 8:20vision is to create a billion dollar
- 8:22company I promise you you're gonna be
- 8:24missing a few your kids softball games
- 8:27simple as that
- 8:28every life vision comes with the price
- 8:31and the higher you set the bar the
- 8:32bigger that price is going to be and
- 8:34there's nothing wrong with look this is
- 8:37all completely individual to each one of
- 8:39us it'll be different for all of us but
- 8:42just be cognizant of the fact that the
- 8:44higher the you set the bar the higher
- 8:46that price will usually be and so are
- 8:49you willing to pay the price that your
- 8:51life vision requires
- 8:53anything else to say about this okay
- 8:55jump in whenever you want to and here's
- 9:03the fourth question and this one we
- 9:05added a few years in really interesting
- 9:08is will the achievement of my life
- 9:10vision make me truly happy and truly
- 9:13fulfilled not just the achievement the
- 9:15journey to get there
- 9:17when you say pay the price you know an
- 9:19extraordinary life is not easy it's not
- 9:22easily won it's not easily achieved it's
- 9:24a it's a hero's journey we don't really
- 9:26have time it is if there's no great
- 9:29person or there's no great life out
- 9:30there that didn't have a lot of hardship
- 9:33or a lot of hard work or a lot of it's
- 9:36not to say that everything is hard you
- 9:38know to get to greatness but it's it's
- 9:40simply that there is no magic pill for
- 9:42this stuff you guys great let's do the
- 9:43work greatness requires great effort
- 9:45it's just total total common it's a math
- 9:48equation of unity so that's a good
- 9:50distinction sweetie will the achievement
- 9:53of this vision and the journey on the
- 9:55way to this vision make me truly happy
- 9:57and here's the reason that that's so
- 9:58important you guys it's because Missy
- 10:01and I have set goals before and we've
- 10:04worked our asses off and we've achieved
- 10:05those goals and then we've looked wrong
- 10:07as in this is what we do that what
- 10:09really this is it that's where we work
- 10:12for a year on this and it's not that
- 10:13cool you know and so you don't want to
- 10:15be there you don't want to your time and
- 10:18your energy and your focus and your
- 10:20resources are finite and they're
- 10:22precious and you want to make sure
- 10:24you're pushing them in to the right
- 10:26place
- 10:26Aristotle said happiness is the meaning
- 10:29and the purpose of life the entire aim
- 10:32and end of human existence so the bottom
- 10:34line is this everything we do in life is
- 10:37meant for one thing to make us happy
- 10:39take a few minutes and ask yourself will
- 10:42the achievement of this vision that I've
- 10:43set for myself make me truly happy so
- 10:47that's the first thing we do after life
- 10:49book is we help you think through a
- 10:53process of is this vision that I've set
- 10:55the right vision for me or do I need to
- 10:57modify it if you can answer yes to all
- 10:59four of those questions you've pretty
- 11:01much dialed it in
- 11:02and then what that cuz that help guys
- 11:05yeah everyone getting that okay and
- 11:07again if you have a question related to
- 11:08that just reply on Twitter right okay so
- 11:12what that all adds up to is a very short
- 11:15synopsis of your life vision this right
- 11:17here
- 11:18nice little cover page there's not a
- 11:20little beach in Hawaii this is this is a
- 11:24synopsis a two-page synopsis of our
- 11:27ideal life and this has been the target
- 11:29of all of our actions and all of our
- 11:31choices all of our focus all of our
- 11:33resources for the last five years but a
- 11:35good way to really look at your life
- 11:37vision is to say okay how how do I want
- 11:39to live
- 11:40how will a day of my life be how I live
- 11:43it in that life vision right and that
- 11:45can really get you into the
- 11:47visualization there's a couple different
- 11:48ways to do it this is a really nice way
- 11:50that we really like another way that you
- 11:52could do is just describe what that
- 11:53ideal life looks like what your dream
- 11:55house looks like what your level of
- 11:56health and fitness is etc but the bottom
- 11:58line is you want to get it down into one
- 12:00page because then this becomes your
- 12:02devotional this becomes your little
- 12:04meditation in the morning
- 12:05this becomes you you embody this you
- 12:08live this you know every word of it this
- 12:10is the target of all of your of all of
- 12:13your actions right on yeah question from
- 12:16unnamed hotel on EIU in the room please
- 12:18raise your hand thanks honey
- 12:21so our other assets how often do you
- 12:23then review this vision almost every day
- 12:27this little guy this this stays in my
- 12:29notebook I this is part of my my
- 12:32visualization yeah yeah miss missus good
- 12:36I don't I don't look at it every day I I
- 12:40feel like if John does you know somehow
- 12:42we have a symbiotically I do yeah but
- 12:47but yeah John looks at it every day I
- 12:48mean I would say I do a deep dive into
- 12:50our life vision every year when we do
- 12:53our recalibration right but he's on it
- 12:55every single day yeah and we talk about
- 12:57it almost so John Priyanka Priyanka
- 13:00asses how how do I know what I really
- 13:04want
- 13:05oh geez it's a great question well how
- 13:08you know what I mean that's a that's a
- 13:10hero's journey too and and all I can
- 13:12tell you guys is that that you know sign
- 13:15up for life
- 13:16I'm serious that's what it is what you
- 13:19what you need to do is you need to get
- 13:21somewhere for an extended period of time
- 13:23and seriously reflect on all the
- 13:26important areas of your life you can do
- 13:28it by yourself if you if you can figure
- 13:30out how to do it or we've got a
- 13:31structured process that can help you
- 13:33okay and just see you guys do I mean
- 13:35even if you are the type of person who
- 13:37was really goal-driven right like I was
- 13:39really gold rub and I still AM
- 13:41but when I took life book what happens
- 13:44is that sometimes we are so caught up
- 13:46like moving towards our goals that we
- 13:49forget to assess those goals and see if
- 13:51those goals really right forests exactly
- 13:53so so I mean when I did what life book
- 13:56would Christina it was like 2009 or 2010
- 13:58what's cool about it is you're going
- 14:00into life several days where you're
- 14:03doing nothing actually five five names
- 14:06where you're having a conversation with
- 14:07yourself and going deliberately deep in
- 14:09those five categories and I shared with
- 14:10you early on day one how I didn't have
- 14:13the vision for a fest I didn't know what
- 14:14I wanted I knew I wanted to be in this
- 14:16type of environment I knew I wanted to
- 14:18be on stage I knew I wanted like really
- 14:20cool friends and one by one the pieces
- 14:22start coming together I think there's
- 14:24this beautiful ability in our mind that
- 14:25we often don't talk about enough in
- 14:28scientific circles or corporate training
- 14:30which is honestly the ability to
- 14:33manifest our plow addressed it yeah and
- 14:35I think when you plant those visions in
- 14:37your head incredible serendipitous
- 14:39synchronous absolutely and it's a
- 14:41combination it's a combination of
- 14:43intention and allowing the universe will
- 14:47not give you a 12 category smart life
- 14:49ain't gonna happen you you you you're
- 14:51not gonna get that for free
- 14:53you got to bring something to the party
- 14:54that's your intention so so back to
- 14:56Priyanka's question what do I do if I
- 14:58don't know what I want well when I did
- 14:59life book I didn't really know what I
- 15:01wanted I was in a business partnership
- 15:03where my business partner was like
- 15:05putting me down on a daily basis I was
- 15:08literally on that verge of stepping out
- 15:09of mine valley right but I knew I'm
- 15:12gonna do but but so I didn't know what I
- 15:14wanted but what I knew is that I wanted
- 15:16to travel I wanted my family with me I
- 15:18wanted inspiring friends I want a summit
- 15:21to teach onstage I knew a little bit of
- 15:22those pieces but when you start writing
- 15:25that down it's like the universe comes
- 15:27in and starts
- 15:29helping you discover class your
- 15:32intuitive radar is turned on total and
- 15:34that's what led me to a fest amazing
- 15:37okay can I just say one thing about what
- 15:39she just asked that we get that a lot we
- 15:41don't I don't even know where to begin I
- 15:42don't even know what I want and I think
- 15:44that the first step in knowing what you
- 15:47want is knowing who you are finding out
- 15:49who you are and life book is a great way
- 15:51to do that but there's a lot of things
- 15:52you can do to discover who you are but
- 15:54you have to like mission and John are
- 15:56both saying you have to bring
- 15:57consciousness to yourself to your own
- 15:59feelings to your insight we don't do
- 16:01that enough in this in our culture now
- 16:03we're also distracted all right which
- 16:07comes to another question John yeah this
- 16:08is from and I and I hope you don't mind
- 16:10me no no I think getting people's
- 16:11questions because these questions are so
- 16:13good Sebastian is in the room Sebastian
- 16:16could you stand please wave your hand
- 16:17hey brother hey Sebastian so Sebastian
- 16:20asked us this how do you balance
- 16:21allowing an action that's a great
- 16:25question that's kind of where I was
- 16:27going with it now this is interesting
- 16:28because our last 25 years have been very
- 16:32intentional we've been very
- 16:34materialistic in in a I think a healthy
- 16:37sense of the word we live on the planet
- 16:39earth where material beings and our last
- 16:4225 years have been very much about what
- 16:45we want to see happen what we want to
- 16:47create moving toward the achievements
- 16:50that we want to accomplish with
- 16:53intention just recently we've in last
- 16:56few years we sort of had a spiritual
- 16:59experience not sort of we did and we
- 17:02have discovered the incredible power of
- 17:06allowing it's a dance it's a combination
- 17:10like I said the universe will never give
- 17:12you a 12 category smart extraordinary
- 17:15life for free you've got to bring
- 17:18something to the party you've really do
- 17:19so here's an example of how we used to
- 17:21do stuff and how we do stuff now this
- 17:22will give you a good answer to this
- 17:24question used to be we bump up against
- 17:27an obstacle or something would be like
- 17:29we were out of flow and really right
- 17:31okay what are we gonna do we're gonna do
- 17:33we're gonna attack we're gonna attack
- 17:35I'm gonna bust through whatever is gonna
- 17:36work hard all the way around until
- 17:38either we do get through or we don't we
- 17:40felt like we had to do it all on our
- 17:42right so now it's like
- 17:43anytime we hit up we run up against that
- 17:45you know not first defense but it's like
- 17:47okay this isn't feeling right like we're
- 17:49really kind of stuck at that point it's
- 17:52like okay
- 17:53literally we'll be like okay we're gonna
- 17:56hand it over
- 17:57invisible world yeah whatever however
- 17:59you want to say that I'll give each
- 18:00other a massage let it go completely
- 18:01release it 100% and it'll come back
- 18:04fixed or at least in a better place or
- 18:07the answer so it's like from my
- 18:09experience at two to three days if you
- 18:11can let it live it's a big one yeah
- 18:13that's sometimes it's just the next
- 18:14morning sleep on it you know that old
- 18:16saying just sleep on it no true so we've
- 18:19discovered that we live in a benevolent
- 18:21universe that is so happy to help us we
- 18:24don't have to do it all ourselves but
- 18:26we're required to do some of it so it's
- 18:28a it's that beautiful dance okay next
- 18:31one all right all right guys the next
- 18:33the next module that we take a look at
- 18:36after you've got this dialed in you've
- 18:40got your life vision you really have
- 18:41your target you've worked on it you know
- 18:43it's right for you the next thing we do
- 18:45is we extract what we call the
- 18:49foundational goals upon which that life
- 18:52vision rests define your foundational
- 18:55goals and here's what that means there
- 18:57will be four five or six goals that if
- 19:02you achieve those you will be living
- 19:04that life vision like for us to move to
- 19:07Hawaii in order to move to Hawaii we
- 19:10have got to automate delegate or
- 19:12eliminate everything in our work life
- 19:14that is not consistent with a new life
- 19:16we want to live so that was an 18-month
- 19:18process of automating our businesses
- 19:20delegating what we didn't want to run
- 19:22anymore and that that was one of our
- 19:23foundational goals got to be done before
- 19:25we are able to achieve this life vision
- 19:27so what you want to do is you want to
- 19:30take a look at that life vision and ask
- 19:32yourself what are the four five or six
- 19:35foundational goals that this vision
- 19:37requires and that becomes the most
- 19:41important thing in your life because if
- 19:43you can sit here and tell me that this
- 19:45is the vision that you want to achieve
- 19:46in your life and these are the five
- 19:48goals on one piece of paper that are
- 19:50gonna get you there I'm gonna be asking
- 19:52you why you're spending time on almost
- 19:53anything else
- 19:57because I mean if you're really serious
- 19:59about it so set your foundational goals
- 20:01understand what they are and then what
- 20:04we do after that is we drop into a
- 20:06regular rhythmic goal-setting system so
- 20:09Missy and I set quarterly goals at the
- 20:11beginning of the quarter we said we take
- 20:13a look at what we accomplished last
- 20:15quarter we take a look at our
- 20:16foundational goals and we say what do we
- 20:18want to bite off from for the next 90
- 20:21days and I mainly handle this because
- 20:25it's a masculine sort of because me I
- 20:27look at that for that one goal that one
- 20:30lever she's won a bunch of stuff you can
- 20:34start with your foundational goals all
- 20:35these things would really push my life
- 20:37forward sometimes there's one I was
- 20:40gonna say you're touching in a question
- 20:41asked by Ronan Diego Loren are you in
- 20:43the room would you kindly stand Ronan
- 20:46okay Ronan was the pista is a fitness
- 20:48trainer Ronan asked this they're setting
- 20:51goals for 12 areas imply that the
- 20:52concept of the one thing you know that's
- 20:54none great entrepreneurial book called a
- 20:56one thing huh does it make the one thing
- 20:58obsolete
- 20:58no how would foundational goals address
- 21:01Ronan question okay so what Missy is
- 21:04basically saying is you you need both
- 21:08you needed to find the most important to
- 21:10understand what's gonna get you there
- 21:12and what's gonna get you there are your
- 21:13five foundational goals and then what
- 21:15miss always looks for is the highest
- 21:17leverage point inside of that that's why
- 21:18we're such it'll make like two or three
- 21:20things both have got it both have got to
- 21:22happen the concept of essentialism the
- 21:26concept of the one thing is incredibly
- 21:29important and people like vision and I
- 21:31especially need it because we're
- 21:32fighting on so many fronts all the time
- 21:34entrepreneurs this is a this right and
- 21:36so this is basically about identifying
- 21:40the most important thing in your life
- 21:41and putting most of your energy there
- 21:43and that's absolute what you should do
- 21:44there's another way to look at it though
- 21:46and it's that we're multifaceted
- 21:48creatures made up of these twelve
- 21:51different categories that we want to
- 21:52focus on and we do have to focus on all
- 21:56of them you can't just focus on your
- 21:57career at the expense of your parenting
- 21:58you can't just focus on your health and
- 22:00fitness at the expense of your love
- 22:01relationship these things need to be
- 22:03attended to they're not electives
- 22:05they're mandatory you can have a great
- 22:07life except your health is totally
- 22:08jacked up and how great is your
- 22:10life right so what it comes down to is
- 22:13whatever it is that you're doing that's
- 22:16your one thing bring consciousness to it
- 22:18be there
- 22:20pay attention really be there if you're
- 22:22talking to your kids be there you're
- 22:24having dinner with your wife be there if
- 22:26you're in a business meeting focus on
- 22:29what you're doing I really like the
- 22:31concept of essentialism and the one
- 22:33thing and it saved my ass because I'm a
- 22:35DD like most other entrepreneurs but the
- 22:38other areas of your life have to be
- 22:39attended to to like the 12 areas or
- 22:43however many areas you have for yourself
- 22:45we have 12 they are aspects they're just
- 22:48different aspects of one thing what you
- 22:51you which is your life so it's like all
- 22:53these things are important they're
- 22:54different aspects of you so it they're
- 22:57they're all kind of the same if that
- 23:00makes sense it's like yeah there's 12 of
- 23:01them or there's however many your one
- 23:03thing is your life and they all add up
- 23:05to your life so it is there is really
- 23:06just one thing and I want to add
- 23:09something to that um those of you who
- 23:11online value mentoring have access to a
- 23:13mentoring episode I did with Ivan
- 23:14Meisner right so Ivan Meisner he started
- 23:17one of the world's big networking rooms
- 23:19BNI international and I asked him this
- 23:22question like how do you find balance in
- 23:24your life between work and running a
- 23:26huge company and your kids and he said
- 23:28you know I used to feel really guilty
- 23:29about that but now I realized that
- 23:32balance is a myth it's it's not even
- 23:34about balance he says work-life balance
- 23:36is it's about rather he said
- 23:40the insight came to him and he went to
- 23:42his son once and he said son I I'm so
- 23:44sorry I've been working so hard that I
- 23:47feel I've been neglecting you and his
- 23:49son turned to him and goes dad what the
- 23:50hell do you mean and Ivan goes I've been
- 23:54neglecting you I'm not spending enough
- 23:55time with you and the son goes I've not
- 23:56even noticed that and the son goes the
- 23:58great thing about you dad is that when
- 24:00you work I know you're working on your
- 24:01mission I know you're working hot that's
- 24:02cool but when you're with me you are
- 24:04100% with me and that's all I care about
- 24:08that's and Ivan realized that he was he
- 24:10was trying to solve the wrong thing
- 24:12it wasn't about work-life balance and
- 24:14blocking out these hours it was about
- 24:15what are you truly focused on what is
- 24:18that one thing and then being with br1
- 24:20that's right great okay
- 24:24understand the goals that are gonna get
- 24:26you there that's the bottom line
- 24:28take a look at that life vision and and
- 24:29ask yourself what are the foundational
- 24:32goals that I need to achieve and then
- 24:33it's nice to get into a goal-setting
- 24:35rhythm where you've got a constant flow
- 24:37of good positive achievements coming
- 24:40into your life based on that life vision
- 24:43make sure your goals are aligned with
- 24:45your life ish and that's the most
- 24:46important thing this one's crazy
- 24:49powerful this one's about aligning your
- 24:52habits with your life vision we actually
- 24:55call these we weed in in life book we
- 24:57define 12 of them and we call these are
- 24:5912 sacred choices that's how big they
- 25:03are
- 25:03because they will these twelve little
- 25:06daily behaviors are what will create you
- 25:09and what will define your life and so
- 25:13what we do is is we take a look at that
- 25:15life ish and we ask ourselves what are
- 25:17the what are 12 small daily actions and
- 25:21I'm talking small drink a green drink
- 25:23that's one of mine everyday delight
- 25:26Missi that's one of mine sex doesn't
- 25:32count that that you know comes naturally
- 25:35cooking does though what are the small
- 25:41daily behaviors that will most support
- 25:43this life vision and turn me into the
- 25:45person that lives that life so that's
- 25:48because I like to turn that around
- 25:50because bottom line is whatever you do
- 25:53in the present moment which is the
- 25:54eternal moment that we're always all in
- 25:57whatever you do in this present moment
- 26:00is how your life ends up being it's what
- 26:03turned your life into what it is right
- 26:04so that's that's where this whole thing
- 26:07we kind of read reverse-engineered
- 26:08journey from your goals this way well
- 26:10how about really it's all about what
- 26:12you're doing right now like all the time
- 26:15every time every day
- 26:16and those things are what add up to your
- 26:18to your life ultimately your life is and
- 26:20ultimately your all of your goals so
- 26:21this to me is like it's the Holy Grail
- 26:25it's how do you spend the time the hours
- 26:27of your days
- 26:28what kind of states are you in in your
- 26:30the hours of your days mental state
- 26:32Missy's Missy's first and probably most
- 26:35important why don't you
- 26:36you're first when your gratitude ritual
- 26:38Oh cuz that's so powerful so my first
- 26:40the first one on my my 12 sacred choices
- 26:43is my morning routine and it varies
- 26:46every day but it definitely starts with
- 26:48gratitude every morning I just Center
- 26:51myself I can center myself with
- 26:53gratitude I can talk I can say it out
- 26:55loud I can journal it I can just talk in
- 26:57the mirror about all the things I'm
- 26:58grateful for and this when I get in that
- 27:01cycle I automatically just start getting
- 27:04super centered and centered and centered
- 27:07and centered and to the point where I'm
- 27:08just like okay I'm ready for my day
- 27:10sometimes I do yoga in that time
- 27:12sometimes I work out sometimes I journal
- 27:14sometimes I take a walk with our dog
- 27:15outside but the point is to get
- 27:17completely centered embodied from the
- 27:20sleep before in my body grateful what
- 27:23does this day gonna be like and that
- 27:26helps me stay in the present moment and
- 27:27helps our whole that literally sets our
- 27:30whole house that's the environment like
- 27:35that radiates out to me typical kids to
- 27:38everything to our businesses that these
- 27:41these little daily habits are so
- 27:43powerful mine are exercised daily have a
- 27:46green drink daily connect with the kids
- 27:50be a great father
- 27:51delight Missy I study every day I work
- 27:55on my one thing every day so I've you
- 27:58know my first two or three hours of my
- 28:00morning are about my creative work I
- 28:02have my coffee and I'm ready to rock I
- 28:04can only write in the morning I can't
- 28:05write in the afternoon so I make sure I
- 28:08focus my best time on my most important
- 28:10thing as opposed to email and and and
- 28:12all that stuff anyway getting in touch
- 28:14with the habits that will most support
- 28:19your life vision is a massively powerful
- 28:21thing to do that's game changer and Jon
- 28:25Missy this basically addresses perfectly
- 28:27the question that Ronan Diego Ronan
- 28:30asked the second question
- 28:31this was about three hours ago in Missy
- 28:33and John have key personal daily or
- 28:35weekly habits that help them execute
- 28:37towards their vision yeah yes I wish I
- 28:40would have brought my you know what we
- 28:43actually do we have it we have a list of
- 28:45one thirty or forty of the of the most
- 28:47common and powerful life book men
- 28:50our habits that we should circulate at
- 28:51some point I'll see if we can get so you
- 28:53guys can literally pick the ones that
- 28:55you think are most powerful so johnny by
- 28:57misha so after I took the advanced life
- 29:00book and I learned about the 12th daily
- 29:02commitments I basically went and got a
- 29:04habit tracker app if you search for have
- 29:06a tracking on the App Store there are so
- 29:08many really cool apps that do have a
- 29:09tracking I played around with like four
- 29:11or five til I found one that really
- 29:12worked for me and I listed the habits
- 29:14right like for example daily meditation
- 29:16is a habit like Russell Simmons says I
- 29:19don't do till I meditate gratitude
- 29:21is a habit you make these habits a
- 29:24healthy juice in the morning is a habit
- 29:26so you write down you choose 12 more
- 29:29than 12 might get overwhelming and then
- 29:31you just check a dot like many of these
- 29:33apps it's you click a button or you
- 29:35check a dot or you click yes and then it
- 29:38tracks you and at the end of the month
- 29:40you can see how well you're doing and
- 29:41the goal is not to beat yourself up if
- 29:44you miss something but what I found is
- 29:46that by using an app like that when I
- 29:49went to bed at night I would be able to
- 29:52notice patterns like was I skipping out
- 29:53on something was I skipping out on on my
- 29:56healthy breakfast for too many days in a
- 29:58row what do I need to do to adjust that
- 30:00so it's a really powerful self-checking
- 30:02mechanism but John you have a really
- 30:04great quote and I remember use you
- 30:05saying this quote to me when when I was
- 30:07taking the class from you you said if we
- 30:10if we implement the 12 habits right and
- 30:13we execute them diligently and we make
- 30:17it like part of our daily life it is it
- 30:21is mathematical certainty yeah like that
- 30:25we will reap right I like you know you
- 30:27literally can't fail and I track mine
- 30:29too I track mine on paper and vision so
- 30:31right you guys like you can look back if
- 30:34you track your habits you can look back
- 30:36and if you've had a shitty week you'll
- 30:37be like oh my god look I that's why
- 30:40every time you're crushing it you can
- 30:42look back and you're like if you do
- 30:44these things like vision said you you
- 30:46literally can't fail so it's a it's a
- 30:49really really important part of the
- 30:51process right the app I recommend is
- 30:54habit if I it's really easy to use habit
- 30:58to fie okay
- 31:02the fourth thing this is this is a
- 31:05beautiful one it's called stepping into
- 31:07your life vision and I'm gonna let miss
- 31:09talk about this this is about aligning
- 31:11the small daily choices and actions that
- 31:14are not necessarily habits this is
- 31:16basically how you how you speak to your
- 31:18spouse the decisions you make it work
- 31:21aligning those with your life vision
- 31:23because this is where the magic really
- 31:24happens and it's basically what we were
- 31:27saying this earlier when you do have
- 31:29that life vision when you have that
- 31:30amazing vision of the life you want to
- 31:32live you know in life book it's all 12
- 31:34categories so you know how you want to
- 31:36feel in your body you know how you're
- 31:37gonna have you know your love
- 31:39relationship your parenting all that so
- 31:41having that just on the top of your mind
- 31:43during the day if I'm a little cranky or
- 31:47something I'm I'm not going to just
- 31:50spurt out something that would make me
- 31:52feel good in the moment to John because
- 31:54it's not it doesn't it doesn't get me
- 31:56here that's just a moment in time or I'm
- 31:58gonna vomit on me like that or the same
- 32:00way with my kids if I'm a little edgy or
- 32:03something or with anything if you have
- 32:04that life vision it's just it's a level
- 32:08of consciousness that brain that you
- 32:10bring to your everyday life and you're
- 32:13like you know what that's where I'm
- 32:14going
- 32:15most important so if I why can't I just
- 32:18start acting that way now like everyday
- 32:20all the time and that's really when it
- 32:22starts to speed up and you can really
- 32:24step in to write the daily actions not
- 32:27just the habits with the daily action
- 32:29the way you're gonna show up the way
- 32:31you're gonna think the way the tiny
- 32:32choices look once you've done this work
- 32:35and you and you have this vision you
- 32:37know who you want to be be that and only
- 32:40that you know the kind of a life you
- 32:43want to live step into that life you
- 32:44start living it today and you do that
- 32:46keep trying over now through the small
- 32:48daily choices and actions that you make
- 32:50so just so Rick Walker Rick are you in
- 32:53the room could you please stand hey Rick
- 32:56I Rick mm-hmm so so Rick asses too
- 32:59really good question yes and Rick thank
- 33:01you passing to really deep profound
- 33:02questions the first question is so what
- 33:05does your daily life look like like like
- 33:10okay
- 33:11Rick's exact question is is based on
- 33:13your life book how does a normal day in
- 33:15the life of John
- 33:16Missy Butchie like you so much thank you
- 33:18well we wake up early usually and Miss
- 33:22Ania are usually right home like regular
- 33:26day in our right in our house and we're
- 33:28only home half the time so this is this
- 33:29regular workday we work in our beautiful
- 33:32home that was designed for creativity
- 33:34and this type of work we're usually
- 33:36separate for the first before me right
- 33:39yep go down he does he starts writing he
- 33:41does his creative work I usually spend
- 33:44some time upstairs in our bedroom we've
- 33:45got a nice bedroom or doing her witchy
- 33:47little gratitude spells some ceremony
- 33:50its first thing and I can do that like
- 33:52all day long but I don't but so I for me
- 33:58it's definitely gratitude it's
- 34:00meditation its time in nature its
- 34:02setting my getting my head right and
- 34:05literally just getting in my body
- 34:06getting centered and then when I come
- 34:09out of my room or come out from inside
- 34:11back in from outside it could be
- 34:13anything
- 34:14but we're usually together doing doing
- 34:16work work work sort of we're onto our
- 34:19structure you say you can know she's the
- 34:21CEO of life and she's right now acting
- 34:23friggin whatever she's running a couple
- 34:26of our companies so so it's different
- 34:29for me every day right John has more of
- 34:31a structure and I kind of flit around
- 34:34kinds of things and put out fires but
- 34:36but mainly we work in the morning we'll
- 34:38have lunch together I take a nap every
- 34:40single day after after after lunch and
- 34:44then and then we come back together in
- 34:46the evening for hour and then evening is
- 34:49always family time we turn our computers
- 34:51off it we're really good we do not work
- 34:53past 5:00 but we're good about that and
- 34:55we do we do family time and we love
- 34:57watching docudramas and learn history
- 34:59with our kids yeah so so yeah that was a
- 35:02pouring of an answer because you know
- 35:03what's the next question
- 35:05and it's a literally funny how how you
- 35:08guys stick to those routines when I go
- 35:10visit them I know that after lunch I'm
- 35:13gone for two hours and disappear in the
- 35:15room I'm not sure if they're practicing
- 35:17category 30
- 35:19after 5 p.m. I'm sorry disclose no more
- 35:22business talk it's it's really
- 35:24fascinating now the next question from
- 35:28Rick is also a really beautiful question
- 35:30it is is it best to set your life book
- 35:34for the next 20 years or the next 5
- 35:36years
- 35:36it's up to you we do 5 we've always done
- 35:405 and I don't that was probably a
- 35:42relatively arbitrary decision early on
- 35:45but it proved to work pretty well so
- 35:48yeah 5 is just didn't but we've had
- 35:51we've actually had kind of both cuz
- 35:53we've had our property in Hawaii for
- 35:54almost 20 years so we've always known
- 35:57that that's on the horizon that's coming
- 35:58but we work really in five years five
- 36:02years ago it showed up as okay guys it's
- 36:04time for you to really start figuring
- 36:06this out yeah so so yeah five was
- 36:09probably relatively arbitrary but it
- 36:11seems to work well for most people again
- 36:13there are no rules in life book this is
- 36:16a personalized fully customized system
- 36:19we've got it very well structured but
- 36:22you sort of you can modify it whatever
- 36:25way works for you yeah now the next
- 36:27question is from Carol butters and Carol
- 36:30are you in the room please stand Carol
- 36:33if you're here sometimes the questions
- 36:35come from people in the room mostly but
- 36:37sometimes it's a user on Twitter who is
- 36:39also asking the question so Carol a
- 36:41sisters how do you fit it all in working
- 36:44in your businesses your life book your
- 36:45workouts your art and the everyday
- 36:48necessities of life time management is
- 36:51my greatest challenge please raise your
- 36:52hand if you resonate with this yeah for
- 36:54sure we get it yeah we totally got it
- 36:57it's a thing that happens I mean I would
- 37:00say we do it a number of different ways
- 37:01for sure we are 12 sacred choices that's
- 37:04like that ensures that the basics will
- 37:06be attended to
- 37:08yeah period for sure and truthfully you
- 37:11can't do everything in one day
- 37:12you can't even do every you can't even
- 37:13cover your whole life in a week I mean
- 37:15you can do your best and as things come
- 37:18up and as interest you know arise or
- 37:21categories or like hey I need some I
- 37:23need some help over here it's definitely
- 37:25an ebb and flow I like what you said
- 37:27earlier about balance is a myth it's
- 37:30true you can't always do everything
- 37:32all at once a moving target right yeah
- 37:34it is I mean it's a it's an organic
- 37:36thing that we're doing you guys we're
- 37:37going living life on Earth right in
- 37:40organic forms and having this amazing
- 37:42experience in this soup but I'll tell
- 37:45you what the what the best we can do is
- 37:47this structured rhythms structured
- 37:49rhythms are what ensure that you'll get
- 37:52to everything important so what that
- 37:55means is you can either workout whenever
- 37:58you feel like it in in whatever
- 38:00combination you want or you can have a
- 38:02structured rhythm of working out for X
- 38:04amount you know whatever your deal is
- 38:06and we found that structured rhythms are
- 38:08absolutely the way to go and that's not
- 38:12to say that like our life is super
- 38:13structured no it says that look we know
- 38:16that we've got to have a healthy diet
- 38:18we've got to take care of our bodies we
- 38:20got to spend time with our kids we got
- 38:21to have a good there's there's so let's
- 38:23talk about that yeah so how do we have a
- 38:25healthy body how do how do we attend to
- 38:27our nutritional needs well we get a
- 38:30Vitamix and mrs. got a great smoothie
- 38:32recipe and you start to set up your
- 38:35systems and processes so that you don't
- 38:37have to kind of reinvent everything
- 38:38exactly and then like your morning or
- 38:41your day it's like there's a certain
- 38:42point that is kind of maybe structured
- 38:44like you're gonna eat that are you gonna
- 38:46drink that at that time you're gonna
- 38:47work out this time you're gonna go to
- 38:48yoga but then what happens is once you
- 38:51have those things in place you have to
- 38:53think about it anymore
- 38:54there's a quick great quote about 99%
- 38:57doing something 99% of the time is
- 38:59really hard but 100% is easy right
- 39:02because you it's like you takes away the
- 39:04internal good bait yeah like just part
- 39:07of the process so you just do it I want
- 39:09to just say one more thing about about
- 39:11structured rhythms and about systems and
- 39:12processes so our overnight date is the
- 39:16our number one love relationship
- 39:17strategy and that's really really hard
- 39:19for a lot of people the way to dial that
- 39:22in is you get your child care figured
- 39:25out you make it every week it's Thursday
- 39:27at start you put a system in place to
- 39:31ensure that that's gonna happen if it's
- 39:33a one-off every week if you've got to
- 39:35put all that energy and make it happen
- 39:36every week you're gonna fail you know
- 39:38three-quarters of the time but if you've
- 39:40got it dialed in where you
- 39:42the hotel you know the restaurant you
- 39:43know the babysitter everything's dialed
- 39:45in and it's just a process that runs
- 39:47vision you're so good at this systems
- 39:49and processes so that you have to do
- 39:51constant one-offs all the time
- 39:52that really helps the guys listen it is
- 39:55just like miss said it's the way life is
- 39:58we've got a lot to attend to we've got a
- 40:00lot we want to achieve excellence across
- 40:02the board in every area of life that's a
- 40:04big job and we got to kind of feel our
- 40:07way through it and you gotta just stay
- 40:08as conscious as you can is no one else I
- 40:11just want to give you guys a tip on
- 40:12systems and processes right now how I
- 40:14get in because right now the reason I
- 40:17can I can take on the the work that I do
- 40:20is because collectively mine Valley has
- 40:22some 300 people yeah I'm working on
- 40:25different working on different divisions
- 40:26but how it started was way way way back
- 40:29I was working from a Starbucks and this
- 40:31was 2004 and I was tracking my time and
- 40:33time logging is really really cool
- 40:35practice to have and I discovered that I
- 40:38was spending four hours a day doing
- 40:40customer support back then we had a tiny
- 40:41site selling meditation CDs for hours a
- 40:44day was just customer support replying
- 40:46the customers sort of and then I
- 40:49measured what my hourly rate was like
- 40:54and what I did was I looked at how much
- 40:55was I earning it was basically a
- 40:57one-person company at that point
- 40:59christina was working as a volunteer for
- 41:00the UNHCR so it was just me I didn't
- 41:03have a business partner with me yet and
- 41:05I measured and I figured out that I was
- 41:07making and and this is the truth it was
- 41:09really tiny it was like 13 bucks an hour
- 41:11I was making 13 bucks an hour on every
- 41:15hour I was breathing right so 13 times
- 41:1724 is what I made on an average day now
- 41:20what I did was knowing that that my time
- 41:23is what 13 hours I looked at what was I
- 41:26making for the time I worked I was
- 41:28working 10-hour days so let's say it
- 41:31came up to 20 bucks an hour it works
- 41:32yeah now I got on Craigslist back then
- 41:35Craigslist was the big site and I
- 41:37searched to see what it would cost to
- 41:39hire a customer support agent in my city
- 41:43which was Kuala Lumpur it was 7 bucks an
- 41:46hour so I knew okay I'm making 20 bucks
- 41:48but I didn't hire someone for 7 bucks so
- 41:51immediately I knew to hire a person to
- 41:54take care
- 41:55that customer support and that was my
- 41:57first ever employee Adele right now then
- 42:00freed up four hours of maritime now what
- 42:02did I do with that four hours I did what
- 42:04I knew was higher leverage work I was
- 42:07only a Bremer so I could cope so I
- 42:09started coding and improving the website
- 42:11optimizing our checkout and our sales
- 42:13crew and then when I got that to a
- 42:16certain level I found that my hourly
- 42:18rate was now 50 bucks an hour now I no
- 42:20longer wanted to code I wanted to think
- 42:22strategically so I looked how much would
- 42:25it cost to hire a coder it was 30 bucks
- 42:28but now I'm making 50 bucks an hour so
- 42:30great it may make sense to hire a coder
- 42:32so I brought in a guy from Finland hon
- 42:35ooh 30 bucks an hour
- 42:36so using this methodology what happened
- 42:39is my hourly rate started going higher
- 42:41and higher and higher and higher and the
- 42:44team is also growing and growing and
- 42:46growing and you're delegating but what
- 42:48happens is now all of the stuff that you
- 42:51need to do gets done but you become
- 42:53super disciplined and only doing what
- 42:57matches your hourly rate just so I now
- 42:59got like super discipline for it so I
- 43:01will sometimes get a request to be in a
- 43:02podcast or a radio interview and my team
- 43:05knows to send a simple query form to
- 43:07whoever is requesting the interview and
- 43:0990% of the interviews I'll say no to
- 43:11because the thing is my hourly rate now
- 43:14is so high if that podcaster that
- 43:16interview isn't going to generate enough
- 43:18traffic for that it's just not worth my
- 43:20time I don't need the extra publicity so
- 43:22great so good this is how the team grew
- 43:25this is how I was able to create a fest
- 43:26great all of these other things and it's
- 43:29really really cool practice thanks first
- 43:31you must know your bowel array
- 43:32you must outsource anything you can that
- 43:36you can outsource for less than your
- 43:37hourly rate don't be afraid about
- 43:39getting your team to grow because if you
- 43:41are if you know how to pick the right
- 43:43people and that's another whole skill
- 43:44you got to learn your team is gonna grow
- 43:46but what happens is your influence grows
- 43:48your power grows your ability to make
- 43:51each hour of your time magnify you
- 43:53create things in the world expands and
- 43:56that's when your business really starts
- 43:57taking well I mean let me just say that
- 43:59also can apply to your personal life
- 44:01miss and I have worked with a lot of ya
- 44:03we've worked with a lot of chiropractors
- 44:04and chiropractors have the same problem
- 44:07they come in overwhelmed and exhausted
- 44:08that's too much right just and and we
- 44:11discovered the same thing one year I was
- 44:14like listening to these stories over and
- 44:16over of Jesus I get home at 7:30 and the
- 44:18kids are running around we got a cook
- 44:20and and by the time we get done doing
- 44:22the dishes and putting the kids to bed
- 44:23we got no time for each other and you
- 44:26know this was the thing and one year
- 44:28we've realized you know what if you if
- 44:30you're seeing patients for a full hour
- 44:32you're a $500 an hour professional what
- 44:36the hell are you doing the dishes for
- 44:38instead of instead of spending time with
- 44:41your wife or spending time with your
- 44:42kids that same rule can be applied to
- 44:44your domestic life hire someone to mow
- 44:46your lawn there's a kid out there that
- 44:48needs the job he needs the 15 bucks and
- 44:50and you can bet that frees up time in
- 44:53your personal life maybe for your
- 44:55workout maybe for your date's hire
- 44:57someone to do your dishes but you know
- 44:58what a lot of people say no that's not
- 45:00for me I'm not I'm not rich I can't
- 45:01afford a housekeeper we're not talking
- 45:04about that we're talking about you I
- 45:07wasn't rich exactly I was making 13
- 45:09bucks an hour
- 45:10well that's it's it's a values judgment
- 45:14it's a priority decision so the best way
- 45:18to to achieve success in every life
- 45:21category is to dial it in with systems
- 45:25and processes as much as you can so that
- 45:28it takes on an automatic quality as
- 45:30opposed to you having to expend a
- 45:32tremendous amount of energy output every
- 45:35single day but that brings us to our
- 45:38last point which is calibration yeah the
- 45:40last point the last thing we take a look
- 45:42at is on your way to your life vision as
- 45:46you're setting your goals that are
- 45:47aligned with your life vision as you're
- 45:50performing your daily habits that are
- 45:51aligned with your life isn't as you're
- 45:53doing your best to become the expression
- 45:55of your life vision and B that you want
- 45:59to make sure that you're paying
- 46:00attention to your results so we do this
- 46:03quarterly because we set quarterly goals
- 46:06so at the end of each quarter we sit
- 46:07down and see how do we do and what do we
- 46:10want to accomplish next quarter and you
- 46:12need to understand whether or not you're
- 46:14getting farther or
- 46:15or closer to your life vision we track
- 46:19our goals and you guys we said usually
- 46:22five or six goals for the quarter and I
- 46:25usually achieve three or four of them
- 46:27right so this it's very I think last
- 46:31quarter I actually got them all but
- 46:32that's very seldom that that happens you
- 46:35just do your best and it pushes your
- 46:36life forward as far as my my daily
- 46:40habits if I can perform a month of my
- 46:43daily habits at about a seventy five
- 46:45percent level I'm super happy about that
- 46:49seventy eighty would be a big win for me
- 46:52David sisal he's the only guy in the
- 46:53world thinking do 100 but he's German
- 46:55that's how he does it he's and so so
- 47:01what you want to do is is you you and
- 47:04then you want to measure your overall
- 47:06personal growth we've got life books
- 47:07introspect assessment that scores you
- 47:09across the 12 categories we take that
- 47:12assessment once a quarter just to make
- 47:14sure you're not falling behind on
- 47:16anything major that that makes sure that
- 47:17you're that nothing's going to be left a
- 47:20chance nothing's going to be left out or
- 47:22falling behind or if you chose like a
- 47:25goal that didn't end up panning out and
- 47:27it's not making you happier there's
- 47:28something that you outgrew that happens
- 47:30yep kick it out gotta get rid of it I
- 47:32mean the idea is don't be too rigid
- 47:34right about your goal setting you you
- 47:36have to to get in the game to like set
- 47:38your intentions but then it's like we're
- 47:41living a fluid existence you guys you
- 47:44know this is a it's organic life is
- 47:46organics you have to be able to move and
- 47:48Bend and change and don't beat yourself
- 47:50up for choosing the wrong goal and then
- 47:51getting to halfway down and like man not
- 47:53doing that one sometimes we just mark
- 47:55them off yeah see that's not the one
- 47:56we're gonna do now and you can see the
- 47:58masculine feminine dynamic here the
- 48:00masculine dynamic is the structure
- 48:02you've got to have the structure the
- 48:04feminine dynamic is working inside that
- 48:07structure and expressing yourself and
- 48:10finding the the mysteries and the
- 48:12unexpected opportunities right so that's
- 48:15what this system allows you to do so
- 48:18that's pretty much that's pretty much
- 48:20our five steps to really manifesting a
- 48:25very well-defined life vision
- 48:28so John I'd like to ask one final
- 48:29question this comes from any cell phone
- 48:32use in the audience Amy would you stand
- 48:34if you're in the room things are so
- 48:38bright I can't see under the light so
- 48:44Amy said how do you stay committed to
- 48:46your vision mm-hmm when you're going
- 48:48through like dark painful moments yeah
- 48:51that's tough well the answer is purpose
- 48:53yeah 100% purpose if you have a strong
- 48:56enough purpose you will climb any
- 48:59mountain you will cover any distance you
- 49:01will cross any barrier nothing will be
- 49:04able to stop you you might have a bad
- 49:06day or two or you just really don't want
- 49:08to get up out of bed and your feet don't
- 49:10feel like moving but it does come down
- 49:12to your purpose in your commitment and
- 49:15and that's okay like I think that one of
- 49:17the things that happens when we get in
- 49:19one of those bad low states is the
- 49:22danger is to stay there you just keep
- 49:24beating yourself up and beating yourself
- 49:26up and saying man I'm such a loser I'm
- 49:27sending you that self-talk you go down
- 49:29down down I think that it is purpose but
- 49:32it's also just stopping just like
- 49:36stopping the negative flow if you can
- 49:38and that comes down to for me it's it's
- 49:41gratitude it's like if you can shower
- 49:43yourself and pour yourself into
- 49:45gratitude or pour gratitude into
- 49:47yourself I get you Beckham you don't you
- 49:49get back on track yeah thank you John
- 49:51and Missy I don't do parting words of
- 49:53advice for the audience I love you guys
- 49:57and love being here with this amazing I
- 50:01mean I feel like we've really found our
- 50:02tribe you guys vibrate well I want I
- 50:05want to invite everybody here dijanna
- 50:07are gonna do a very special event in
- 50:09March at our house right really it's
- 50:12gonna be the last our last hurrah the
- 50:15last time the last time John and I
- 50:16facilitate and we haven't facilitated in
- 50:18years and we're gonna come back in March
- 50:21and we're gonna facilitate a session in
- 50:22our home that we're leaving we're moving
- 50:24to Hawaii you guys heard to say that so
- 50:26this is the beautiful house that was
- 50:28featured in oh yeah we're keeping that
- 50:30and we're turning that into a retreat
- 50:31center it's gonna be a place of healing
- 50:33and gathering and knowledge and
- 50:36creativity and so to kick that off that
- 50:39we're gonna call the sanctuary we're
- 50:41gonna do
- 50:41five day live life book session and
- 50:44we're offering it to you guys so there's
- 50:47only a few virus gotalk remember reader
- 50:49and when it count
- 50:50it would be I just to say something
- 50:52about that um it took me a really long
- 50:54time to get John and they see the a fest
- 50:56and as soon as they came into the tribe
- 50:57they started coming back early
- 51:00we love these people of but in 20 in
- 51:022013 or 2012 2012 we did an AFS in
- 51:06Mexico now back then I couldn't get John
- 51:08and Missy to AFS right um so they send
- 51:10someone from their team because they
- 51:12were they were busy conquering the world
- 51:13and looking more than doing so I sent
- 51:15someone from the team and we did a
- 51:16three-hour session on life book in 10%
- 51:18of all the a festus signed up for life
- 51:21book including Lisa Nichols so they did
- 51:24a series of like Thatcher so like 35 35
- 51:2735 a fastest at a time just these a
- 51:29faster sessions and I remember Lisa
- 51:32Nichols attended one of those sessions a
- 51:33lot of the metric the facilitators went
- 51:35as well and years later Lisa was moving
- 51:38house and you guys all know who Lisa
- 51:39Nichols this right yes yes ELISA was in
- 51:41Houston and and Lisa said said I gotta
- 51:44tell you a really cool story so I was
- 51:46driving I was I was I had my the u-haul
- 51:48truck behind me with all of my
- 51:50possessions and on the passenger seat
- 51:52was just one thing right it was my life
- 51:55and so to Lisa I became one of the most
- 51:58precious moments now back then when
- 52:01eight masters good life book it was done
- 52:03with a facilitator what John and Missy
- 52:05are saying is that they are doing it
- 52:06which is a whole different experience I
- 52:08didn't even do it with John and Missy I
- 52:10did it with facilitators so this is like
- 52:13really something they're doing one not
- 52:15hang out in your house since you guys
- 52:18are moving to Hawaii
- 52:19so if you want to know more about it
- 52:20just go up to David David I'll give you
- 52:22all the information David I use
- 52:23somewhere here David a run up dance on
- 52:28stage you guys on David run I know your
- 52:31runner I do have one more thing to say
- 52:34and that is that what you're doing here
- 52:37David I'm on stage thank you David
- 52:48what you're doing here seeking
- 52:52self-actualization it's it's like the
- 52:56highest noblest thing that you could be
- 52:59doing it's what the world needs now more
- 53:02than anything else and it's just awesome
- 53:08I would I would say one more thing you
- 53:11guys since you're here some of you are
- 53:13new given accountability partner make an
- 53:17accountability partner connection at
- 53:19this a fest and see how far you can take
- 53:22your life because having an
- 53:23accountability partner is a whole
- 53:24different levels true of accountability
- 53:28I mean that's the thing it really weekly
- 53:31calls maybe a monthly call how you doing
- 53:33did you keep your commitments from last
- 53:35month where your commitments for this q2
- 53:37one of the biggest personal development
- 53:39strategies you can put in place go out
- 53:41there and crush it you guys have the
- 53:43best 2019 ever thank you John and I see
- 53:46stand up please please give a big round
- 53:50of applause to John and Missy
- 53:51[Applause]
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