Почему Все Вокруг Успешнее Тебя? Вся Правда Об Успехе — Transcript

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1. 0:00Young people, not even twenty-five yet. Expensive cars, photos of the world's most luxurious cities,
2. 0:05vacations at elite resorts, exclusive watches and jewelry for the price of an apartment. They look calm,
3. 0:10confident. By their twenties, they've already covered all their everyday needs: food, housing, money, a future.
4. 0:17If only he'd sold just one of his cars. And that money would be enough for an ordinary person
5. 0:21to live for several years. 3.5 million dollars. Now honestly, what do you feel when you scroll through this in the evening
6. 0:28after work? It's an unpleasant feeling somewhere between anger and rejection. And
7. 0:34questions start spinning in my head: “How did it happen to him? Why is it different for me? Am I worse? I studied,
8. 0:39I work every day, honestly, and still I earn so little that I barely make it to payday.
9. 0:45That’s what I do all the time. Everything for the family, for you and for Christopher. But he didn’t build anything,
10. 0:51didn’t cure anyone, didn’t create anything. People like him are either rich kids born into the right family,
11. 0:57or empty bloggers who shoot 15-second videos and advertise casinos and at the same time
12. 1:02earn more in a month than an ordinary person does in 5 years. Where is the logic? Where is the justice? Why do
13. 1:08some people get everything right away, while others have to survive for years and prove that they
14. 1:13are worth something? It doesn’t matter how you hit, what matters is how you take the blow, how you move forward.
15. 1:20If you keep going, keep going. If you don’t turn away from fear, that’s the only way to win. Although, stop. Maybe
16. 1:28I’m exaggerating? There is and honest examples. Mark Zuckerberg invented Facebook at 19 in a dorm room with his own
17. 1:34head. Evan Spiegel invented Snapchat while still a student and became the youngest billionaire on the planet by 25.
18. 1:39No shady schemes: brains, ideas, and persistence. There you have it, living proof.
19. 1:46Work, and everything will work out. But many of you will think that you are already approaching 30,
20. 1:51and I don’t have a successful startup, let alone a hint of a normal life. Everyone around me seems
21. 1:55to be keeping up, earning money, getting married, having children, building something, and I am standing still. Maybe
22. 2:01I am really late? Maybe there is something wrong with me? I could say a popular thought
23. 2:06that reassures everyone: “You’re not late, you are moving at your own pace. Businesses are usually opened
24. 2:11not at 25, but at 50. The body of your dreams is built not in six months, but in 5 years. People buy apartments not at 20,
25. 2:18but at 40. On average, people get married at 30. Everything has its time. Yours just hasn't come yet. Trust me,
26. 2:24it's never too late. Or, in my case, it's never too early to be whoever you want to be. There are no time
27. 2:32limits. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no
28. 2:38rules. Sounds good, right? But what if this is the most convenient lie of our time? A painkiller
29. 2:45that lets you relax, put things off, breathe a sigh of relief, and then you're already 40. Less strength, less time,
30. 2:52and your train has truly left the station. But what if you weren't late? What if you were simply forced
31. 2:59to run someone else's race? Imposing someone else's goals, someone else's deadlines, someone else's understanding of success, and then finding out
32. 3:05you're falling behind? We accept reality as it's presented. It's all banal and simple. This
33. 3:11video won't offer a convenient answer to such a complex topic. And there won't be a simple, "relax, everything's
34. 3:16fine" answer. And there won't be any cheap motivation like, "Get up at 5:00 AM" and you'll become a millionaire.
35. 3:22Because this is life, and so much is decided before you've even made your
36. 3:26first conscious choice. Where were you born, who are your parents, how much money do they have, and what doors were
37. 3:32open to you from the very beginning? In this video, we'll break it down honestly. Through numbers, real stories,
38. 3:39court rulings, other people's experiences, and research on millions of people, you'll learn why you
39. 3:45feel late every day, who benefits from your anxiety and how much it costs,
40. 3:50and why the real picture of success is completely different from the one we're led to believe.
41. 4:02A whole world pulled over your eyes to hide the truth. What truth? That you're just a slave?
42. 4:35An industrial zone. An ordinary warehouse. Inside a private jet. A luxurious interior, leather seats, portholes,
43. 4:42a champagne table. But there's one detail. This plane will never take off. It has no engines.
44. 4:49It's a set, a photo studio. An hour of shooting costs about $60. Bookings are made a week in advance. Studios like these
45. 4:56are opening all over the world, and demand is colossal. So, people are paying real money to
46. 5:01feign wealth. Why? So that you, personally, can scroll through the feed on the bus and feel it.
47. 5:08You're a loser. You no longer have your own desires. I'm imposing mine on you. To understand how
48. 5:14this display case works, let's go back almost 85 years. It's 1942, during World War II
49. 5:21. Americans are examining bombers that have returned from combat missions. They're looking at
50. 5:27the holes. The worst damage is on the wings and tail. The logical conclusion:
51. 5:32these are the areas that need to be reinforced. And then mathematician Abraham Wald says: "Stop, you're looking at the wrong planes. You're
52. 5:39only looking at those that returned with holes in their wings and tail. As we can see, they still made it.
53. 5:44So, armor needs to be installed where the returning planes have almost no armor. In the cockpit,
54. 5:50in the engine, and in the most vulnerable part of the airframe. Later, this will be called survivorship bias. So,
55. 5:57your feed is a museum of returned planes. There are 8 billion people on the planet, but the algorithm shows
56. 6:03you an unusual life. It shows the very top. Those who actually took off, and those
57. 6:08who are trying with all their might to pretend they did. But the millions of people who tried, took
58. 6:13risks, invested time, money, effort, and failed, you almost never see. They are not
59. 6:19recommended, they are not invited to interviews, their stories do not get millions of views,
60. 6:24because failure does not have stories. Now about the easiest job in the world. Let's figure out
61. 6:29where a twenty-five-year-old guy gets it Money. A blogger advertises casinos, and that's how they get paid. Most often,
62. 6:36it's a percentage of the losses of everyone who clicked on their link. Sometimes for life, as long as the person plays.
63. 6:41Their income is other people's losses. Their easy money, collected from the salaries of their subscribers.
64. 6:46They're only as rich as their audience gets poorer. It's not a business. It's a conveyor belt
65. 6:52that turns someone else's hope into their Ferrari. Got it. I'll call them when the big
66. 6:58fish shows up. Fish? Yes, commission. That's the essence of our work. We rake in crazy percentages, as do so
67. 7:05-called young traders with three monitors. Brazilian economists once tested all
68. 7:10the country's day traders over several years. Of those who traded more than 300 days, 97% lost
69. 7:16money. Only one in 100 earned more than the minimum wage. One. And guess which of those hundred
70. 7:22will rush to sell the success course "How I Got Ahead in Trading in a Month" for a dream income? Right.
71. 7:28What do you think? And 99 losers will chip in for a new car by buying this course. In many fields, people
72. 7:35who haven't achieved any serious results themselves, whether in sports, relationships, or business,
73. 7:40start selling air to others. This isn't a new scheme. During the gold rush, the real money
74. 7:46was made not by those who prospected for gold, but by those who sold them shovels. Today, a shovel is called
75. 7:51mentoring and a promo code for a first deposit. And here's the key point. This picture of
76. 7:5625 successes isn't random. It's created on purpose. This isn't a way to teach you something, it's a sales funnel.
77. 8:04Sell me this pen. See how it works. Step one: show you the life
78. 8:11you don't have and the one you so want. Step two: wait until a seed of doubt grows inside:
79. 8:17what if there's something wrong with me? What if I'm doing everything wrong. And step three: sell the solution:
80. 8:23a course, a marathon, a bet. Something like "Hurry Up." Your time is running out. Your doubt is their product.
81. 8:33Get your homework done. Conclusion. Deals. Get the deal done. Get
82. 8:39the deal done. You're paying with your money and your time for their carefree future. And even
83. 8:44real young billionaires—they really do exist—don't prove the system is fair. Because behind
84. 8:49every resounding success there are almost always nuances that aren't talked about in short videos. Sam
85. 8:55Bentman Fried, nicknamed Kudryavy. Sam, the founder of one of the largest cryptocurrency exchanges, TX, had
86. 9:01a fortune of $26 billion at 30 and was featured on the Forbes 30 Under 30 list. He was called a crypto market genius,
87. 9:08the man who supposedly built the financial system of the future. But at 32, he received 25 years in prison.
88. 9:15And now in America, they grimly joke that the Forbes ranking has an unofficial sequel, 30 Under 30,
89. 9:21In Court Under 40. And there are many such examples. Elizabeth Holmes, the founder of Theranos, at 31, her fortune
90. 9:27was estimated at $4.5 billion. She was called a new legend. Kremlin Valley. And then Forbes wiped out
91. 9:33her fortune, the company collapsed, and Holmes received 11 years and three months in prison for defrauding investors.
92. 9:40Trevor Milton, the founder of Nikola, the company promised a revolution in electric trucks, asamilton on
93. 9:46Pique was considered a billionaire. He was ultimately found guilty of defrauding investors and sentenced to
94. 9:51four years in prison. Trevor Milton was sentenced to four years in prison for his role in
95. 9:56a fraud committed at Nikola's company while he was CEO. Ultimately,
96. 10:01the judge ruled that Trevor Milton, the founder and former CEO of Nikola's company,
97. 10:06will serve at least four years in prison. So, as we already understand, nothing
98. 10:11is done for free. If you are forced to look at someone else's luxurious life every day, then someone
99. 10:16benefits from it. Someone needs you to compare, to doubt, to feel like your
100. 10:21personal life is slipping away from you. Because a person who doubts themselves is the easiest to control.
101. 10:31Hell, we toil in factories and restaurants, bend our backs in offices. We
102. 10:37are teased by clothing ads. We work in shit to buy [ __ ] things we don't need.
103. 11:05Zoomers are called the generation of the here and now. They want everything and now. They can't wait. Usually this
104. 11:11sounds like a reproach, like the youth has gone bad. But let's honestly figure out who learned
105. 11:17to live this way and why. Other people's success is usually shown in short videos with quick editing. I'm 19, I have
106. 11:23nothing, I'm sleeping on the floor. A sharp cut, and now he's already 23, with a penthouse, an expensive car, and the life of his dreams.
107. 11:31The entire path to success in 60 seconds, and the brain learns from examples and calibrates the normal speed of life by them
108. 11:38. It's like watching a timelapse where a tree grows in 30 seconds. Go out into your garden and decide
109. 11:43that your apple tree is broken. The apple tree is fine, it's the calibration that's broken. If I'm not mistaken, you've fast-forwarded
110. 11:50a whole year. Now look how they make money off this. What does almost every
111. 11:56advertisement usually say? Hurry up. Today is your last chance. Three months left. It feels like you're running late.
112. 12:03The oldest sales trick in the book. A person in a hurry doesn't think, they just take out
113. 12:08a loan for a new phone because everyone else already has one. A $1,000 exchange rate because
114. 12:13it will be more expensive later. A casino deposit because while you're toiling for pennies, the guys are making real
115. 12:19money. Throw your last money into useless altcoins because the train is leaving. It's
116. 12:24all going to go to the moon. Notice the pattern. Every time you're told you're late,
117. 12:30someone's making good money off of it. You're being pushed to take a risk with your money,
118. 12:34and someone else is making money off of it. I'm sitting here thinking about how to make people feel bad.
119. 12:42And I thought you were writing advertising. Yeah, but you can't sell something without making people feel bad. Why?
120. 12:50They need to be reminded that something is missing in their lives. Everyone is missing something. Do you know
121. 12:55what the main problem of the younger generation is? Doubt. We are forced to doubt everything.
122. 13:00Our appearance, so they can sell us cosmetics, steroids, and plastic surgery. Our knowledge
123. 13:05and skills, so they can sell courses promising to take us to the next level.
124. 13:11They sell us the stakes, the excitement, the quick money schemes, and the relationships in our lives in general.
125. 13:17Ask yourself one question: who benefits from you doubting yourself? Almost nothing
126. 13:23can be sold to a confident person. Everything can be sold to a doubter. This has been proven. Former Facebook employee FNS Haugn
127. 13:30revealed the company's internal research. It said: "The platform worsens the attitude
128. 13:35towards their own body in every third teenage girl. The company knew this and did nothing,
129. 13:41because an anxious person scrolls longer, and their attention is sold by advertisers. And
130. 13:47knowing this perfectly well, you did nothing, because it brought in huge amounts of money. You made a
131. 13:54billion dollars a year in net profit. Scientists from the University of Pennsylvania approached it from a different
132. 13:58angle, asking students to limit social media to 30 minutes a day. 3 weeks and the level of depression
133. 14:05and loneliness in participants dropped significantly. That is, you see, the feeling that your life is
134. 14:11one big lag is artificially created, which means it can be controlled. So
135. 14:16understand, corporations and bloggers benefit from you feeling like a loser. This is how they build their
136. 14:21income. They take your time, your money and your faith in yourself, and in return they build their own comfortable
137. 14:28future. But still, let's figure out at what age people actually start a business,
138. 14:33start a family and earn their The first million. When does life's greatest achievement usually come?
139. 14:39Let's try to answer these questions using statistics, research, and real numbers.
140. 14:47Look inside yourself, because only there will you find the real truth. You will never get
141. 14:56the truth from us. We will tell you whatever you want to hear. We deal in illusions. It's unreal. You
142. 15:03begin to believe the illusions we create. By God, you are real. We are the illusion.
143. 15:24Economist Pierre Azoulay and his team decided to look not at the stories of a few famous
144. 15:29entrepreneurs, but at real statistics. They studied the data of almost 3 million company founders
145. 15:34in the US. And it turned out that the average age of a person starting their own business
146. 15:40is 42. Not 22, and not even 30, 42. And it gets interesting. The average age of the founders of the fastest-growing
147. 15:48companies in the US is 45. Moreover, a founder in their 50s is almost twice as likely to create a highly successful company
148. 15:56as a founder in their 30s. And you know who has the lowest chances? Those in their 20s. The very same ones whose faces
149. 16:02your feed shows you every day as the standard for success. And they'll tell you that you're unique, not like everyone else,
150. 16:10but in life, none of that matters. You're not unique. Let's face it.
151. 16:18The story of a student from the Dorm who rose from the bottom, achieved everything on his own, and conquered the world.
152. 16:24That's a beautiful film. But the story of a forty-five-year-old engineer who spent years accumulating experience, knowledge,
153. 16:30connections, and capital, and then methodically built a successful business—that's not a film. Remember,
154. 16:36though, success almost always sounds boring. It's years of monotonous, painstaking work. Day
155. 16:42after day, without quick results or a beautiful edit. Without panic, you solve one problem,
156. 16:48then another. But that's exactly what they won't show you on Instagram. At 65, Harland Sanders lost his
157. 16:55main source of income. A new highway bypassed his roadside restaurant,
158. 17:00and the flow of customers almost disappeared. His life's work was destroyed. With a small
159. 17:05savings and a $105 pension, Sanders got in his car and drove across the country, pitching
160. 17:11his signature fried chicken recipe to restaurants. He cooked it himself for the owners,
161. 17:16negotiated partnerships, and often slept in his car. Most turned him down,
162. 17:22but he continued traveling from city to city, gradually expanding his franchise network.
163. 17:27At 73, Sanders sold the company to KFC for $2 million. And all of this was possible only because
164. 17:34he continued working for years, even when most in his position would have decided
165. 17:38it was too late to start. At a certain point in our lives, we're all told it's time to stop
166. 17:43playing around. We just don't know when—it's 6:00 PM, and for some, it's only at 40.
167. 17:49But they tell everyone. Ray Kroc was selling cocktail mixers at 52 until he stopped by the
168. 17:55McDonald brothers' fast food joint. Vera Vaughan entered fashion at 40 and became one of the most influential figures in the world
169. 18:00of bridal fashion. John Rowling, author of Harry Potter, was a single mother at 31, living on welfare, and
170. 18:07receiving 12 rejections from publishers, but she continued writing and created one of the most successful book
171. 18:13series in history. Stanley, 38, considered himself a failure and wanted to retire from comics. It was then that he
172. 18:19invented superheroes that changed world culture. And Warren Buff is the most famous investor in
173. 18:24the world. More than 99% of his fortune was earned after 50. He himself compared life to a snowball
174. 18:30. All you need for success is sticky snow and a very long slope. That's the key idea.
175. 18:36Success is a cumulative effect. Geology, the science of pressure and time. That's all Andy needed
176. 18:45. Pressure and time. Neuroscientists Joshua Harshorn and Laura Jermyn tested tens of
177. 18:53thousands of people of different ages and found that there is simply no single peak intelligence.
178. 18:59Information processing speed peaks around age 19. Short-term memory peaks around 25. The ability
179. 19:06to understand people and read their emotional states continues to develop after 40,
180. 19:10while vocabulary and knowledge accumulation can peak closer to age 65.
181. 19:17The brain doesn't deteriorate with age; it simply begins to function differently. In youth, it resembles
182. 19:22a fast processor; later, it resembles a vast library managed by a highly experienced librarian.
183. 19:27Now the question is: who wins more often in business, negotiations, and market research: the fast processor
184. 19:35or the experienced librarian? Each age has its own strengths. At 20, it's about energy, health, and the right.
185. 19:42Make mistakes. At 40, you're an expert at communication and understanding people. At 60, you've got a decade of experience that young people
186. 19:49have yet to develop. No two hands are better than the other. Only one person loses—
187. 19:55the one who doesn't play their cards because they're focusing entirely on others. Researcher David Galinson
188. 20:01discovered a similar pattern even in painting. He believes there are two types of creative
189. 20:06geniuses. The first are conceptualists. They find a big idea early on and quickly reach the top. For example,
190. 20:12Picasso's most valuable works were created in his youth. The second are experimenters. They develop
191. 20:18their style slowly, through years of practice, mistakes, and staged attempts. Cizanne's best works
192. 20:24appeared near the end of his life. Both revolutionized art. They just did it in their own time.
193. 20:30So, perhaps the main question isn't quite right. Am I already late, or am I still on time? So,
194. 20:35which trajectory am I developing along? Well, then everything is working out, you can breathe a sigh of relief. There's no need to rush;
195. 20:40everything has its time. My time has not yet come. If you thought so, this is your biggest mistake.
196. 20:47And here's why. I convince you that there is no more dangerous word in our language than "well done."
197. 21:21Connected. Connected. How do you feel? Here's a short test. Answer it as honestly as possible. Simply
198. 21:27complete the sentence: "I am moving at my own pace." Where am I moving? If after this question,
199. 21:34silence appears in your head and you can't imagine where exactly you are moving, I have bad news for you. You
200. 21:39don't have your own pace. You've simply stopped. We do the same to ourselves every day, burdening
201. 21:45ourselves with so much that we can't move. And movement is life. Pace is progress. Not
202. 21:52movement, not pace. And here the phrase: "I am moving at my own pace" turns into a convenient excuse,
203. 21:57because you can hide behind these words and do nothing. 10 years of inaction can
204. 22:02cost you very dearly. Now I'll explain why. Using a simple example of compound interest. Two people
205. 22:08are saving $100 a month at 8% interest. One started at 25, the other at 35.
206. 22:15At 60, the second has about $150,000, the first about $350. Just think about it: over these 10 years, the first contributed only
207. 22:22$20,000 more, and ended up with $200,000 more. $12,000 turned into $200. In the first few years , the
208. 22:29growth is almost imperceptible, but then it gains such momentum that it changes everything. And this applies not only to money;
209. 22:34health, skills, reputation, relationships—all of these earn interest too. Every workout,
210. 22:41every book read, every contact saved is a small contribution. Interest
211. 22:46drips on it even while you sleep. Whatever you do, all of it will become nothing more than a measly
212. 22:52drop in an endless ocean. But what is an ocean if not many drops? So, every year
213. 22:59of inaction isn't just a wasted year; it's the result you could have accumulated but never
214. 23:04started. And let's be honest, this is something motivational videos and gurus don't mention. Some windows, however,
215. 23:10do close. Professional sports, certain professions, the biological window for having children. Anyone who
216. 23:15tells you everything is possible at any age is lying to you as much as someone who says it's
217. 23:20too late after thirty. Psychologists Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Medvig have studied human regret for years.
218. 23:26Immediately after an event, what we did hurts most. We made a mistake, failed, said something rude.
219. 23:32Shame and disappointment for the wrong action are still fresh, but over the years, everything changes. The most severe
220. 23:37regret is often associated not with mistakes, but with what a person never did. Not trying,
221. 23:42not taking a risk, not admitting, not quitting, not starting. Over time, a mistake stops hurting, but a missed
222. 23:49opportunity can haunt us for life. And so what do we end up with? The news screams, "You're too late!"
223. 23:55Others reassure you, you're not late for anything. But both sides argue only about speed,
224. 23:59and almost no one asks the more important question: where are we even running? What's at the finish line? Money,
225. 24:06family, success? And who decided that everyone's finish line should be the same? Try
226. 24:12answering this question right now in one sentence. What does success mean to you personally? Because everyone has their own answer. Which means that
227. 24:18each of us not only has our own pace, but also our own route, our own distance, and our own finish line.
228. 24:32Do you know what the secret of life is? No. What? One thing. Just one thing. Hold on to that,
229. 24:40and the rest is all to hell. That's all well and good. But what is that thing? You have to figure it out for yourself.
230. 25:08Back in the 1960s, sociologist Bernice Nugorton described a phenomenon that still governs us
231. 25:13today. She called it the social clock. Every society has an unspoken schedule: when
232. 25:19to finish school, when to get married, when to buy an apartment, when to have a wedding. It's not clearly written down anywhere, but it ticks
233. 25:25in everyone's head. Falling off this schedule triggers anxiety. According to surveys, approximately 3,000-4,000 people
234. 25:32between the ages of 25 and 33 experience a quarter-life crisis. So, I don't have time to panic. By the time I was 30, my
235. 25:39parents had two children. They were earning a steady salary and paying the bills. In
236. 25:46eight days, my youth will be gone forever. And what can I boast about by then?
237. 25:53But the question is, who decided that by a certain age we should have money, a family, an apartment
238. 25:59, and a successful career? Certainly not you. These rules were created by a world that no longer exists.
239. 26:05In 1981, the average age of an American buying their first home was 25.
240. 26:12Today, it's 38. A historic US record. I won't even mention our current reality. The age of first marriage
241. 26:19has shifted by 7-8 years in the last half-century. For our parents' generation, having an apartment, cars, and a family by age 30-40
242. 26:26seemed like a normal life stage. Today, someone of the same age can earn a good living, but still
243. 26:32spend years renting, saving for a down payment, and putting off having children. Life's journey
244. 26:37has become longer, and every step more expensive. But we still compare ourselves to a generation that lived by
245. 26:43different rules. You haven't slowed down; your journey has simply become more complicated, but the same deadlines remain.
246. 26:49Now let's talk about the finish line itself. Let's say success means money. But how much? A million dollars
247. 26:56in Manhattan or Monaco is a modest apartment. In a small city, it's a fortune. But there you
248. 27:01have it, or you have it in your hands. It turns out the finish line and life is a success. But that's not true. In 1978,
249. 27:08psychologists compared big lottery winners with ordinary people.
250. 27:13The winners weren't happier after their win. The brain adapts to any level of life. It's called
251. 27:19a hudonic treadmill. You speed up, and the treadmill speeds up beneath you. A new apartment
252. 27:25six months later is just an apartment. The final disappointment even has a name. The arrival error.
253. 27:31For years, believing that happiness lies at the top. Then you reach it, and there's only a view of the next peak.
254. 27:36I've been working toward this day my whole life, really, my whole life. I was expecting a different feeling. It turns out
255. 27:45happiness lies in money. It doesn't matter. How very important. Poverty is pain, and philosophy can't cure it.
256. 27:52But the research of Nobel laureate Kaniman and his opponents boils down to one thing. Money does
257. 27:57improve the quality of life, but each additional dollar earned brings less happiness.
258. 28:02Money is great at eliminating the downsides of life, but it doesn't create the upsides very well. It's like painkillers and vitamins—they're
259. 28:09different medications. And that's the main problem. Why is it bad, even when everything is objectively normal? In 1954
260. 28:16, psychologist Leant Fistinger demonstrated: "Humans have no absolute scale for evaluating themselves. We understand
261. 28:22who we are only in one way: by comparing ourselves to others. That's our programming. For 100,000 years
262. 28:28, it worked fairly because our environment was the tribe." Anthropologist Robin Dunbar calculated:
263. 28:34"Our brain is designed for about 150 stable connections. It's like a small village, in fact. In a village,
264. 28:39comparisons are fair. You see not only your neighbors' harvests, but also how they plow at 4:00 a.m. Now
265. 28:44imagine that the brain, which for millennia has compared a person with a small group of fellow tribesmen,
266. 28:50sees the best of 8 billion people every morning. And they only show the results: money, travel,
267. 28:56cars, and a beautiful life without failures, difficulties, and many years of work. But our brain doesn't perceive
268. 29:02a young blogger from Dubai as a distant picture from the internet. For him, he's practically a neighbor, a member of your
269. 29:07tribe. And every time you look at his life, it's as if the tribe is telling you: "Look,
270. 29:13everything is already ahead. " "You're the last one." But it seems to me that it's better to be king for one evening than
271. 29:19for the rest of your life. Like a fool? Have you heard the phrase "the thief of joy"? It's not entirely accurate. A thief comes
272. 29:26uninvited, but for comparison, you open the door yourself every morning when you start scrolling through
273. 29:31your feed. And now let's make a little connection. There is no common finish line. The schedule
274. 29:37you're trying to run is a whole generation out of date. The organizers of this race are making money.
275. 29:43Your feeling that you're constantly lagging behind. It seems you understand more now. There remains
276. 29:49one last point, the most controversial. This is the main lottery of your life. A lottery you
277. 29:54took part in even before your first breath. You want your child to get the best start.
278. 30:22Oren Buffet has a thought experiment that explains a significant part of his own
279. 30:27success. He calls it the birth lottery. Imagine that a day before you're born,
280. 30:33you're given a ticket. It determines your entire life: country, era, family, health, starting capital,
281. 30:40the language you'll speak and think in. Previously, a child was considered healthy if they
282. 30:46had 10 fingers and 10 toes. And now, a few seconds after I was born,
283. 30:52the exact time and cause of my death were already known. Buffet says honestly, the most important event
284. 30:58in his life happened before he was born. He drew a lucky ticket. A healthy boy, the USA, the 20th century.
285. 31:05Everything else is unimportant. Economist Branko Milanovic translated this lottery into numbers. A significant portion
286. 31:11of a person's lifetime income is determined by just one factor: the country they were born in.
287. 31:16Add to this family, health, historical era, and the state of the economy when you began your
288. 31:22adult life. Some enter the job market during an upswing, others in the midst of a crisis.
289. 31:27And then it becomes clear that personal achievement has less to do with it than we usually think. But the scoreboard
290. 31:33of life's race only shows the final result. It doesn't take into account the health
291. 31:37you were born with, the support you received, or how far from the starting line you started, as if everyone
292. 31:43started from the same line. "When you think of criticizing someone," he said, "you'll first
293. 31:49remember that not everyone in this world had the same opportunities as you." Speaking of starting
294. 31:54lines, have you ever seen how a 400-meter race begins? The runners don't line up, but rather
295. 32:00align themselves. The runners in the outer lanes start significantly ahead because their path around the turn
296. 32:06is longer. From the outside, it seems like they've already been given an advantage, even though the race hasn't even begun.
297. 32:11Your timeline is a platform from which it's impossible to see that the lanes are of different lengths. The penthouse of a twenty-three-year-old
298. 32:17heir and the rented apartment of an ordinary worker are different starting points. In 2018,
299. 32:23Italian scientists built a computer model. Thousands of virtual people. Each with their own level
300. 32:28of talent, lifespan, and a stream of random successes and failures. The simulation was run again and again,
301. 32:34and the result was the same again and again. The fastest ones aren't always the most
302. 32:39talented. More often, they're people with above-average abilities who've had a few lucky breaks.
303. 32:45Talent and hard work are essential. Without them, you simply won't be able to seize the opportunity. But who,
304. 32:50when, and how many of these opportunities come your way is largely determined by chance. Yes, hard work is necessary,
305. 32:55but people are afraid to admit how much chance plays a role. Success isn't just about how well
306. 33:00you play. It's also about the cards you're dealt. Now look at your cards. Almost half
307. 33:06of humanity lives on less than $7 a day. If you have a roof over your head, food in
308. 33:11the fridge, a doctor, and the internet you're using to watch this video, then in terms of basic well-being, you're
309. 33:16ahead of most people on the planet. You have a place to live and at least some savings. The median wealth
310. 33:21of an adult in the modern world is about $20,000. And that's not their monthly or annual income. It's
311. 33:27their entire net worth: money, savings, and property. That means half of the adults on the planet own less
312. 33:33than $9,000. You might be a loser, but only inside an artificial window display. On the real map
313. 33:40of humanity, you're at the top. These are simple statistics. But now it turns out we can definitely relax
314. 33:45and do nothing. No, friends, we already know what happens when you stop. We mustn't give up,
315. 33:51but rather correctly determine our starting point. Philosophers called this the dichotomy of control. There are things
316. 33:57beyond our control: the country and family we were born into, the era in which we live, and much more.
317. 34:03And you're not worried at all. And that will help. And then there are things that depend on us. The decision
318. 34:12you make today and the next step you take tomorrow. Much suffering
319. 34:16begins when we try to change someone else's starting point instead of starting from our own.
320. 34:46The phrase, "You're not late, you're moving at your own pace." It's both true
321. 34:50and false. One word makes all the difference. And it's not the word "pace," it's the word "moving." If you're moving slowly,
322. 34:57unevenly, making mistakes, but still moving, the phrase, "I move at my own pace," becomes true.
323. 35:03This truth underlies countless studies. The average age of a successful company founder is around 45.
324. 35:08Many brain abilities peak after a sip, and true success is almost always
325. 35:14built on a cumulative effect. Knowledge, experience, connections, and reputation are built over years. Chinese
326. 35:21sages compare the path to success to the growth of bamboo. For several years, almost nothing is visible above ground.
327. 35:26It seems like the plant isn't growing at all, but all this time, roots are developing underground, and then
328. 35:31the bamboo begins to grow at an incredible rate. From the outside, it seems like success came suddenly,
329. 35:36but in reality, it was years of work above ground. Perseverance. Nothing can replace
330. 35:44persistence. But if you stand there and call it your pace, the phrase becomes anesthesia.
331. 35:51The cumulative effect works both ways. Small actions eventually turn into
332. 35:56big results, and years of inaction are wasted opportunities. And the very question of whether I'm late was
333. 36:02posed incorrectly from the start. You can only be late to someone else's schedule. And we've found out that
334. 36:08the schedule is created by a world that no longer exists for a race without a finish line. Along paths of inherently different
335. 36:13lengths. I, the organizer of this race, profit from your anxiety. The correct question is different. Am I
336. 36:19moving, and am I even in the right place? Knowing the path and following it are not the same thing. There is where. Success is not
337. 36:28a trophy. The word success has no common unit of measurement, and never has been. For one person, success is a million
338. 36:33dollars, for another, overcoming an illness and simply being healthy. For a third, raising children
339. 36:39who, as adults, want to come home on their own. Where there is no common scale, comparison is meaningless.
340. 36:44There is only one comparison, where the starting conditions are as fair as possible. That is yesterday's you.
341. 36:49Today you're a little stronger, a little smarter than yesterday. You've won the day. Everything else is someone else's race. But if this
342. 36:55race has a real finish line, what makes a person happy anyway?
343. 37:01The Harvard Adult Development Inquiry has been searching for the answer to this question for over 85 years. It's one of the longest-running studies of human
344. 37:06happiness in history. It began in 1938. Scientists spent decades observing hundreds of people,
345. 37:12from working-class people in poor neighborhoods to Harvard graduates. They tracked their health, careers,
346. 37:18families, successes, and challenges, trying to understand the key thing that truly determines a happy,
347. 37:24healthy, and long life. And they found: "It's not money, fame, or career. The only
348. 37:30consistent factor is the quality of our relationships with people." Study leader Robert
349. 37:35Waldinger summarizes 80 years of data in one sentence: "Good relationships with people, our loved ones,
350. 37:41make us happier and healthier." Period. There is another important observation. Broni VR spent many years
351. 37:48caring for people in their final weeks of life and wrote down the most common regrets
352. 37:52. Number one, I regret not having had the grace to live my own life, not the one
353. 37:58others expected of me. Number two, I regret not having worked so hard. And the top regrets weren't
354. 38:04expensive cars, early fame, or not achieving enough immediate success. At death's door, people don't regret
355. 38:10losing someone else's race. They regret wasting their lives competing in it.
356. 38:15Therefore, it's important to learn from experience. If you're 20, don't relax, don't dare doubt yourself.
357. 38:22Remember, your doubt is someone else's product. Every time you're shown success at 25, you're not being shown
358. 38:28real life; they're being sold a product or service. The most valuable thing you have isn't money,
359. 38:34it's time. It's the only currency you can't earn back. Don't waste it
360. 38:38on casinos and quick-fix schemes. Quick money almost always means that it's not you who's making money quickly,
361. 38:44but rather the money being made off you. Everything great in this world is built over years. Companies, beauty and strength, reputations,
362. 38:49relationships. Your strength is a long, forward slope. Start sculpting your own lump of wealth now, no matter the size,
363. 38:55and time will start working for you, not for those who sell you your own anxiety. Time has become
364. 39:01a means of payment. We earn time and spend it. If you're 40 or 50, they try to write you off.
365. 39:10Don't believe it. The young people have earned everything, the train has left, sit tight. It's the same manipulation, only from
366. 39:15the other end. It's easiest to take away the last thing from a person who believes they're helpless:
367. 39:20money, time, and self-confidence. And now, the facts again. The average age of the founders of the most
368. 39:25successful companies is 45. By this age, the brain is no longer just a fast processor,
369. 39:30but a vast library of valuable experience. And in business, where you need to understand people, make
370. 39:35complex decisions, and sense the market, the brain of an experienced person often outperforms a young processor. Yes,
371. 39:41you may not be as resilient as you were at 20. But you are calculating and precise, you know how to work effectively,
372. 39:47not just a lot. You have what twenty-year-olds don't have: knowledge, connections,
373. 39:52capital, and experience. Experience, whatever it is, is yours. Value it, respect it, and use it. Going into depression
374. 39:59with the thought: "My time has come" is not acceptance. It is a voluntary surrender of cards that can still
375. 40:05be played. If there are unanswered questions and a living desire inside, then just go at your own pace
376. 40:12and enjoy the journey itself. After all, as we have found out, there is simply no clear prize at the finish line.
377. 40:23Don't listen to anyone who says that you can't do something. If you have a dream, cherish it. People
378. 40:32who can't do something will assure you that you won't succeed either. Set a goal, achieve it, period.
379. 40:44While some post stories, follow other people's lives, and internally eat themselves up with doubts,
380. 40:49someone else, without cameras, without spectators and loud words, takes their own small step forward. Someone
381. 40:55trains, works, studies, builds strong relationships and becomes much better every day.
382. 41:01In 10 years, those around them will say: "He was just lucky." But now you know, there is no such thing as overnight success
383. 41:08. There is a long journey that no one sees in Ribbon. Every age brings its own
384. 41:14advantages. Each of us has our own cards, our own abilities, and our own path. At 20, there's more energy, at
385. 41:2140, clarity, at 60, experience. There's only one way to truly lose. So don't paint
386. 41:28your cards, because you'll spend your whole life looking at other people's. Sinica, 2,000 years ago, said: "
387. 41:36We have a lot of time, but we lose a lot. Life can be long and fulfilling if you live it your own way, not according to
388. 41:42someone else's scenario." You're not late, but you're not standing still either." And the clock you should check
389. 41:48isn't someone else's story. Put two fingers on your wrist. There, your watch is ticking. So, you can go too.
390. 42:10Over the years, a person loses a lot, but that's life. And you understand this when you lose it.
391. 42:19You understand that life is a game where every inch counts. Because in games, in life,
392. 42:25and in football, the price of a mistake is too high. You took a step a little earlier or a little later, and it didn't work out for you. You
393. 42:35were too hasty or too late. For half a second, I was left with nothing. We always need these inches. I know
394. 42:44there's still life in me, because I'm ready to fight and die for this inch, because that's life.
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402. 43:38. And one last thing. Remember the number 150? We ourselves shape our environment, the people we listen to,
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