9 Daily Habits That Will Help You Lead An Extraordinary Life | Jon & Missy Butcher — Transcript

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1. 0:01over the years we've discovered that
2. 0:03most people really don't think that they
3. 0:06can have it all in life
4. 0:07and by have it all what we mean
5. 0:10is an extraordinary life that works at a
6. 0:12high level across every important area
7. 0:16so physically you're healthy and vibrant
8. 0:18and strong and emotionally you're having
9. 0:21wonderful emotions on a daily basis that
10. 0:23make you feel uplifted and good you've
11. 0:24got a beautiful love relationship if you
12. 0:26if you're a parent you have a fantastic
13. 0:28relationship with your kids
14. 0:30you've got a vibrant and awesome social
15. 0:33life you've got lots of friends you've
16. 0:34got a spiritual life that's very very
17. 0:37active and vivid a career that not only
18. 0:40fulfills you but creates the financial
19. 0:42abundance that you need to live a very
20. 0:44high quality of life you know that's
21. 0:46intimidating to a lot of people they're
22. 0:48like how do i get a life like that but
23. 0:50one of the things that we've really
24. 0:51discovered over the years is that it's
25. 0:53not as difficult as you might think to
26. 0:55move powerfully in that direction and
27. 0:58what it comes down to
28. 0:59is not the big choices and actions that
29. 1:02you take it's not the you know it's not
30. 1:04those few big decisions that you'll make
31. 1:07in life like what company to work for or
32. 1:09what college to go to it's the small
33. 1:12daily choices and actions that really
34. 1:14determine the kind of person you're
35. 1:15going to become and the kind of life
36. 1:17you're going to live so in this video we
37. 1:19would like to share some of our favorite
38. 1:21habits that have really helped us create
39. 1:23the extraordinary life that we have and
40. 1:26these are simple daily habits that we
41. 1:28have done every day for years in a row
42. 1:31that add up to the life that we've
43. 1:33envisioned exactly
44. 1:35so the first group of habits is in our
45. 1:37health and fitness because health and
46. 1:39fitness is such a foundational category
47. 1:41of life if you've got your health and
48. 1:43fitness firing on all cylinders you're
49. 1:45going to have energy to bring to your
50. 1:46career you're going to have a better
51. 1:48love life you're going to have you're
52. 1:49going to feel better emotionally this is
53. 1:51a super important category and we've got
54. 1:53two great habits that we've created over
55. 1:55the years the first one is easy and it's
56. 1:57simple and everybody knows it we
57. 1:59exercise every day
58. 2:01and we have movement it's body movement
59. 2:02exactly it's just being conscious of
60. 2:04your body getting into your body moving
61. 2:05your body you can do it a million
62. 2:07different ways just get into your body
63. 2:09whatever works for you yeah and so we've
64. 2:11done that every every day just about for
65. 2:14the last 30 years it doesn't have to be
66. 2:15an hour it doesn't even have to be a
67. 2:17half hour even even 10 minutes just
68. 2:19becoming conscious of your body and and
69. 2:21making sure that you're exercising and
70. 2:23using it habit number one number two is
71. 2:26our green smoothies we have green
72. 2:28smoothies little glass of green smoothie
73. 2:31probably two times a day and it's a
74. 2:33really simple recipe you can do it in
75. 2:34your vitamix or your ninja
76. 2:36and it's some avocado
77. 2:39cucumber any kind of leafy greens you
78. 2:41can put it in celery
79. 2:43all the vegetables that you love and if
80. 2:45you like a little sweet add some mango
81. 2:46or
82. 2:47carrots it's like having a liquid salad
83. 2:49and you slam a couple of those during
84. 2:51the day you've got your nutrition
85. 2:53handled for that day pretty much
86. 2:55everything is they make you feel great
87. 2:56they really do you can feel them in your
88. 2:58body unlike a lot of supplements that
89. 3:00you take you can't even feel what it's
90. 3:02doing to you man you can feel those
91. 3:04green smoothies you get an immediate
92. 3:05entered energy jolt okay next is our
93. 3:08love strategies so we got a couple
94. 3:11really good ones um
95. 3:13our love relationship strategy center
96. 3:15around connection rituals and we have a
97. 3:18number of different ones we're going to
98. 3:19talk about two here
99. 3:20the first is our daily connection ritual
100. 3:23so every day after work miss and i take
101. 3:26a walk in our garden for as long as we
102. 3:29can half hour at least an hour and we
103. 3:32just catch up from the day we she
104. 3:34downloads what happened the challenges
105. 3:37and opportunities of the day i do the
106. 3:38same thing we really get a chance to to
107. 3:41connect that way and if we do that daily
108. 3:43then our dates tend to be about love and
109. 3:45not about work or the daily activities
110. 3:48that we're doing every day and that's
111. 3:49our second strategy is our weekly
112. 3:51overnight date night which we've done
113. 3:55every week for the last 25 years missing
114. 3:57very very few no matter where in the
115. 3:59world we are
116. 4:00we
117. 4:01we handle child care with the kids and
118. 4:04we have grown-up time just to ourselves
119. 4:07overnight once a week it's amazing and
120. 4:09if you're not doing that already we
121. 4:11highly recommend you do that immediately
122. 4:12if you're in a relationship it's our
123. 4:14number one literally number one love
124. 4:15relationship just keeps you connected it
125. 4:17keeps you connected it keeps you in in
126. 4:19that that flow of love and you know love
127. 4:22and passion and romance it keeps the
128. 4:24romance alive in your relationship for
129. 4:26sure so those are our two favorite love
130. 4:28habits
131. 4:29and next would be
132. 4:31just sort of our internal world so one
133. 4:33of the most important things that i do
134. 4:35every morning is i have my morning habit
135. 4:37which is to get in a state of gratitude
136. 4:41of presence embody my
137. 4:43myself get back in my body from the
138. 4:45night's sleep and i do that with really
139. 4:48getting mindful and just being really
140. 4:49grateful and i usually take a walk
141. 4:51outside with our dog get in nature
142. 4:53that's a wonderful way to do it just
143. 4:56instantly connect and just really think
144. 4:58about all the things i'm grateful for
145. 5:00she likes candles and incense and makes
146. 5:01a little ritual out of it and i'll tell
147. 5:03you
148. 5:04that the days that missy does that you
149. 5:06can tell like the whole house
150. 5:08has
151. 5:09absolutely it's the time that i really
152. 5:11do get centered in myself so that i from
153. 5:14that place i can handle anything
154. 5:16anything and our whole family centered
155. 5:18centers that's true
156. 5:20so my rituals and habits around
157. 5:23sort of internal centering myself
158. 5:25getting my head right getting my
159. 5:27emotions right
160. 5:28first of all i take a nap every day and
161. 5:32um and i've actually read that there are
162. 5:34a lot of famous people in history that
163. 5:35have have been nappers the hours of noon
164. 5:39till three are pretty much blocked out
165. 5:42that's my siesta i i wake up early so i
166. 5:45put in six seven hard hours of work and
167. 5:48then i'm off the grid no phone calls no
168. 5:51emails amazing and i just that's my time
169. 5:53and then i pick up in the afternoon if
170. 5:55i've got more work that's been wonderful
171. 5:56for me
172. 5:58also meditation
173. 6:00interestingly enough
174. 6:02when when we take a look at the habits
175. 6:04that life book members most say are are
176. 6:07the most important habits in their life
177. 6:09meditation shows up in more categories
178. 6:12than any other habit it's probably the
179. 6:14highest leverage thing that you can do
180. 6:16100 right for your health and fitness
181. 6:18for your your mental and emotional state
182. 6:20just it's it's amazing because it gets
183. 6:22you centered it gets you in that place
184. 6:24where you're centered and you can move
185. 6:26from that place of your truth another
186. 6:28morning habit that i do is journaling
187. 6:30and this is great first thing when i
188. 6:32wake up if i have any dreams i can write
189. 6:34my dreams down it also just empties me
190. 6:37out to get me ready to be centered and
191. 6:39ready for the new day and i never used
192. 6:41to really journal but i have in the past
193. 6:43few years and it has really
194. 6:45been a profound experience for me
195. 6:47because i've been able to empty my mind
196. 6:50even more if medics if you have a hard
197. 6:51time meditating journaling it was
198. 6:54actually the doorway for me into
199. 6:55meditation and so the last habit we'll
200. 6:58share is a massive habit that i
201. 7:01discovered probably four or five years
202. 7:03ago this is a career habit
203. 7:05and i call it my one thing
204. 7:07so
205. 7:08when i wake up in the morning i've
206. 7:10discovered that my first two to three
207. 7:12hours are by far my most effective
208. 7:15thinking time business time i can write
209. 7:18really really well in the morning i
210. 7:19can't in the afternoon i can work out in
211. 7:21the afternoon i can answer email in the
212. 7:23afternoon do a lot of like production
213. 7:25oriented stuff in the afternoon but my
214. 7:27creative time is in the morning so about
215. 7:29four years ago i got into the habit
216. 7:32of working on my single most important
217. 7:35project for the first two to three hours
218. 7:37of my morning every morning no screwing
219. 7:40around with the internet no checking
220. 7:41emails no checking the text on my phone
221. 7:44i go straight to
222. 7:46have my coffee and my brain gets right
223. 7:48and i pour all that creative energy into
224. 7:50my most important thing game changer
225. 7:52right
226. 7:53amazing and again you just touched on
227. 7:55something very important and that is
228. 7:57learning your own natural rhythm
229. 7:59like john is a really creative person in
230. 8:01the morning i'm not so much i'd rather
231. 8:03move my body maybe get you know in
232. 8:05gratitude so really learn your own
233. 8:07rhythms is a good thing yeah that's a
234. 8:09that's a very good piece of advice once
235. 8:11you learn your rhythms like i don't like
236. 8:13working out in the morning she loves
237. 8:15working out in the morning right once
238. 8:17you learn your rhythms you can build
239. 8:19your habits around that and you guys
240. 8:21your habits will change your life your
241. 8:23habits make your life
242. 8:25they make you who you are
243. 8:27and they and they create your life
244. 8:29that's exactly right
245. 8:30so a lot of people i think are a little
246. 8:32bit intimidated by the concept of habit
247. 8:35setting of choosing habits and really
248. 8:37trying to
249. 8:38integrate them into their lives because
250. 8:39they're like how do i get myself to do
251. 8:42these little daily choices and actions
252. 8:45and when it comes to that we've got a
253. 8:47massive advantage and here's what it is
254. 8:50on these two pieces of paper
255. 8:53we have our life vision very very
256. 8:56clearly defined
257. 8:57so we know exactly where it is that we
258. 9:00are going to take our lives and how
259. 9:03we've chosen our habits
260. 9:05these are the habits that are going to
261. 9:06get us to our life vision the habits
262. 9:08that are going to make us the people
263. 9:10that we want to become and lead us to
264. 9:12the life that we want to live
265. 9:14when you have a purpose like that
266. 9:17you don't need motivation
267. 9:19you don't need to get yourself to do to
268. 9:21do something you're pulled forward by
269. 9:23this beautiful vision for your future
270. 9:26your habits are the vehicle that are
271. 9:27going to get you there so
272. 9:29you're enthusiastic about performing
273. 9:31these little daily choices and actions
274. 9:33true your life vision is like your
275. 9:34beacon it's your it's your north star so
276. 9:37your habits are going to weave in and
277. 9:39out so that they they get you there so
278. 9:41really once you have that life vision
279. 9:43it's easier to know what to do during
280. 9:46the day because that's where you're
281. 9:47going it's like a decision making
282. 9:49framework yeah what you want to do once
283. 9:51you've clearly defined where you want to
284. 9:53end up in life is you want to step into
285. 9:56that vision and become the person that
286. 9:58gets that life and that is exactly what
287. 10:01habits will do for you
288. 10:03if you would like to explore creating
289. 10:05your own life vision and defining the
290. 10:07habits that are going to get you there
291. 10:09we'd like to invite you to our newest
292. 10:10master class that we just recorded with
293. 10:12mindvalley and in this master class
294. 10:14we'll do a deep dive into lifevision so
295. 10:16we hope to see you there