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0:00In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious
0:01, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah
0:02, Lord of the Worlds, and peace and
0:03blessings be upon the Master of all
0:03Messengers.
0:05And upon his family and all his
0:06companions, and thereafter.
0:08O Allah, teach us what benefits us,
0:09benefit us with what You have taught us
0:10, and increase us in knowledge and
0:11action, O All-Knowing. Glory be to You,
0:12we have no knowledge except what You
0:13have taught us.
0:15Indeed, You are the All-Knowing, the
0:16All-Wise. O Allah, we disclaim our own
0:17strength and power, and turn to Your
0:19strength and power.
0:20There is no power and no strength except
0:21by Allah, the Most High, the Almighty.
0:23There is no power and no strength except
0:24by Allah, the Most High, the Almighty.
0:26There is no power and no strength except
0:27by Allah, the Most High, the Almighty. O
0:29Allah, O Teacher of Adam, teach us.
0:30O You who made Solomon understand, grant
0:32us understanding, and O You who gave
0:33Luqman wisdom, grant us wisdom and
0:34decisive speech.
0:36My Lord, expand for me my chest, ease
0:37for me my task, and untie the knot from
0:39my tongue, so they may understand my
0:40speech. O Allah, we ask You for the
0:42highest Paradise and whatever brings us
0:43closer to it in word or deed.
0:45And we seek refuge in You from the Fire
0:47and whatever brings us closer to it in
0:48word or deed. O Allah, we ask You for
0:49Your love and the love of those who love
0:50You.
0:51And the love of actions that bring us
0:52closer to Your love, O Most Merciful of
0:54the merciful.
0:55O Allah, make us among the people of the
0:56Quran who are Your people and Your close
0:58ones. O Allah, occupy us with the Quran
0:59and do not let us be distracted from it
1:00.
1:01O Allah, direct us to the Quran and do
1:03not turn us away from it, O Possessor of
1:04Majesty and Honor. O Allah, turn us to
1:06the Quran and do not turn us away from
1:07it, O Most Merciful of the merciful.
1:09Make it our guide and leader to Your
1:10gardens, the gardens of delight. May
1:12Allah grant you life, young men.
1:14Welcome and greetings, may Allah record
1:16your reward and your footsteps.
1:18And may He bless these faces, O
1:19Possessor of Majesty and Honor.
1:21The bright, abluted faces that I ask
1:23Allah Almighty.
1:25By His beautiful names and lofty
1:26attributes, to gather me and you in the
1:27highest Paradise as brothers sitting on
1:29couches facing one another.
1:31Mashallah, glory be to the Most Merciful
1:32, most of the attendees are, I mean.
1:35High school students.
1:36University students, may Allah protect
1:37you.
1:38The most beautiful age, mashallah, glory
1:39be to the Most Merciful. May Allah keep
1:41you steadfast in obedience.
1:42And this is from the mercy of Allah
1:43Almighty upon you.
1:45That He chose you to come to.
1:47A place of remembrance, a mosque, and on
1:49a virtuous day.
1:51A day on which Allah Almighty saved
1:52Moses, peace be upon him. We fast it in
1:54gratitude to Allah, as the Prophet,
1:55peace and blessings be upon him, fasted
1:57it.
1:58And his family, what is the lecture
1:59about, guys?
2:03Yes, guys?
2:06Yes, go ahead.
2:07Is it "a voice in Paradise" or "from
2:09Paradise"?
2:11"From Paradise." Ha! "In Paradise,""
2:13from Paradise," they are all
2:14prepositions. May Allah make us and you
2:16among the people of Paradise.
2:19What do you think the lecture is about?
2:22What is this voice in Paradise?
2:26No, you look like you know.
2:29You are a real problem, Abdullah.
2:33Someone with me in the mosque and he
2:35knows, no, no, I want one of the other
2:36guys.
2:38Answer.
2:41Go ahead, my dear.
2:43The Quran? No, believe me, the voice in
2:46Paradise is not the Quran.
2:50The point of the lecture is not—I will
2:51not be talking about the Quran.
2:54Yes, guys?
2:57Go ahead.
2:59About Allah's month, Muharram? What does
3:01that have to do with a voice in Paradise
3:02?
3:03Oh Sheikh, that's not right.
3:06Come on, Abdullah.
3:09Performances, performing the Quran, no,
3:11that's the wrong answer.
3:15Guys, this is taken from a Hadith, you
3:18know.
3:20Go ahead, Sheikh.
3:27Well done, may Allah open doors for you
3:28, but that is not the correct answer.
3:32Guys, the Prophet, peace and blessings
3:34be upon him.
3:36Says, "I slept and saw myself in
3:37Paradise."
3:41"And I heard the voice of a reciter
3:42reciting."
3:46So I said, who is this? Of course, there
3:48are two narrations: one that the Prophet
3:49, peace and blessings be upon him, saw
3:51him in a dream, and another that it was
3:53during the Night of Isra and Mi'raj
3:54itself.
3:55Good?
3:58He heard the voice of a reader reciting
4:00, so I said, who is this? They said, who
4:02?
4:03Hey guys, who knows whose voice it is?
4:05The one in Paradise, listen to the
4:06Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him
4:08.
4:11No, it is not Idris, peace be upon him.
4:15Go ahead, Sheikh. How are there two of
4:17you?
4:18Masha'Allah, blessed be the Most
4:19Gracious, glory be to the Creator.
4:21May Allah protect you. Bilal ibn Rabah?
4:23Wrong.
4:25Harun? Dawud, peace be upon him? Wrong.
4:29Go ahead, Ibrahim, peace be upon him?
4:35Wrong. Where are the Mortaqa guys?
4:37No one is giving me correct answers,
4:38Mortaqa Association, this is not okay.
4:42The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
4:44him, heard a voice. Go ahead.
4:47Wrong. Abdullah ibn Mas'ud? Haritha ibn
4:50al-Nu'man.
4:54Al-Najjari al-Ansari, Abu Abdullah, the
4:56noble companion, the Badri who witnessed
4:58Badr, Uhud, the Trench, and all the
4:59battles with the Messenger of Allah,
5:01peace and blessings be upon him.
5:03He heard his voice in Paradise reciting
5:06.
5:08Anyway, we will get to this Hadith.
5:13First, the lecture we are talking about
5:16now is about honoring parents.
5:21He is the one whose voice is in Paradise
5:23, and now you will know why his voice is
5:25in Paradise, okay?
5:30Guys, Allah Almighty did not entrust
5:33fathers with their children, but rather
5:36, Allah Almighty entrusted the opposite
5:38: children with their parents.
5:44In many verses and many Hadiths: "Your
5:49Lord has decreed that you worship none
5:54but Him, and that you be kind to parents
5:59.
5:59If one of them or both of them attain
6:04old age with you..."
6:56>> This is just one verse we read about
6:59Allah Almighty’s commandment.
7:03From Him, Glory be to Him, Allah, "Your
7:06Lord has decreed that you worship none
7:08but Him," He linked it to Tawhid (
7:10monotheism), that you should be kind to
7:12your mother and father.
7:14Now, we...
7:16As fathers, I am speaking, we as fathers
7:18...what happened to me and you? Just a
7:20little bit...we fathers, Masha'Allah,
7:22blessed be the Most Gracious.
7:25Did Allah Almighty entrust us with our
7:27children, to honor them and take care of
7:29them?
7:30No. There is "Allah instructs you
7:31concerning your children," but that has
7:33to do with inheritance rights. That you
7:35must be fair in inheritance rights only
7:37.
7:38But as for kindness, goodness, and such
7:40, Allah Almighty did not command you.
7:41Why?
7:43Because this is something we are
7:45instinctively made for; fathers are
7:46instinctively inclined to be kind to
7:48their children.
7:52However, children are not instinctively
7:54inclined to be kind to their parents,
7:55and that is why Allah Almighty commanded
7:57us.
8:01That is why they always say our children
8:04are our hearts walking on the earth.
8:09Of course, you will not feel this
8:10sentiment. Until you are blessed with
8:11children.
8:13I swear by Allah, guys.
8:16If my son coughs like that while he is
8:19sick or tired, I feel the pain.
8:24He coughs, and I feel pain; why? I do
8:25not know.
8:26There is a connection; ask any father.
8:29Your son falls, and you feel the pain.
8:31You feel that you are the one troubled
8:33by his fall, and you are the one
8:34distressed.
8:35Conversely, if anyone else falls, not
8:37your son, you might feel sad for their
8:39fall, but you do not feel hurt like you
8:41do if it were your son.
8:44It is a strange thing, this chemical
8:46connection—I do not know, this strange
8:48spiritual bond that Allah Almighty
8:49placed in the souls of fathers toward
8:51their children.
8:53Anyway, the opposite.
8:56That is what we are talking about today
8:57.
9:03Look, guys.
9:05There was someone...
9:08In the time of Al-Hajjaj.
9:10I want you to remember his name.
9:12The name is Al-Fadl ibn Yahya al-Barmaki
9:15.
9:18Sheikh Abu Maryam.
9:20Are you with me?
9:22The name is Al-Fadl ibn Yahya al-Barmaki
9:25.
9:28So, did you memorize his name?
9:30Well, they used to have a state called
9:32the Barmakid State.
9:36Al-Hajjaj imprisoned him and his father
9:38, Yahya ibn Khalid al-Barmaki, while his
9:40father was already an elderly, frail man
9:43.
9:46Could an elderly man like that possibly
9:49perform ablution or bathe with cold
9:51water?
9:54What might happen to him if he bathed in
9:56cold water?
9:58He could die.
10:00Because his bones had become brittle.
10:03His hair had turned gray, and his back
10:05was stooped.
10:06He was very weak.
10:09God, who created you from weakness, then
10:15after weakness gave you strength, then
10:21after strength, gave you weakness and
10:27gray hair.
10:32You might be weak as an infant, your
10:35bones delicate, then you grow strong—
10:37praise be to God—you go to the gym, lift
10:41weights, do exercise, play sports, swim
10:43, and are in full health.
10:46But then life turns until you return to
10:50weakness once more, becoming a frail old
10:53man. We ask God Almighty not to return
10:56us to the most decrepit age and to let
10:59us keep our hearing, sight, and strength
11:03as long as we live.
11:07So, this Yahya al-Barmaki—wait, who was
11:09his son again?
11:10Do you remember his name?
11:12>> Al-Fadl.
11:13>> Al-Fadl was in prison with his father.
11:16And his father was a very old, frail man
11:18.
11:21Al-Fadl ibn Yahya said to the jailer, "
11:23I will give you my wealth, my land, and
11:25everything I own."
11:29"On the condition that you give me the
11:31lamp so I can warm the water for my
11:32father."
11:35He asked him for just a lamp. A lamp—a
11:36lamp with a flame.
11:38So that I can warm the water for my
11:39father. My father needs to perform
11:40ablution.
11:42But the jailer refused, fearing
11:44Al-Hajjaj.
11:45Al-Hajjaj was a ruthless tyrant. There
11:47was no room for negotiation with him.
11:48His only answer was to cut off heads. So
11:50, the jailer was afraid of him.
11:52Then Al-Fadl did something. Look at the
11:55devotion, my dear friends. Look at how
11:57they used to show their deep devotion.
11:58How they would go to such incredible
12:00lengths in their kindness to their
12:02fathers and mothers.
12:05Al-Fadl stood up and took the water skin
12:06.
12:07The water skin.
12:09It's similar to a leather pouch. A pouch
12:11used to hold water.
12:12A container to hold water. But it was
12:15made of leather.
12:19You could hold it, carry it, fill it
12:21with water, and lift it up.
12:24He took the water skin and held it up to
12:26the lamp, because there was only one
12:28lamp hanging in the prison.
12:31He stood there all night.
12:35So that when the old man, his father
12:37Yahya al-Barmaki, woke up for the dawn
12:39prayer, he would find the water warm
12:41from the heat of the flame.
12:44Look at the depth of his thought.
12:46The jailer saw what Al-Fadl was doing
12:49for his father and extinguished the lamp
12:51.
12:55Look at the cruelty.
12:57He put out the lamp.
12:59Well, I didn't even take the lamp from
13:00you—it was right there—you wouldn't give
13:02it to me, so I just stood there and held
13:04my hand up all night long so the water
13:05would get warm for this old man to
13:07perform his ablution.
13:10He put out the lamp. "Fine, no fire, get
13:11going."
13:12What did he do?
13:14He took the water skin.
13:18He tied it tightly, held it against his
13:20stomach, and slept with it there so that
13:23the heat from his own body would
13:25transfer to the leather, warming the
13:27water, so that when the old man woke up
13:30for his ablution, he would find the
13:32water warm from his son's own body heat
13:35.
13:38Imagine that—look at the greatness of
13:40his filial piety.
13:42Look at how they made their worship of
13:45God Almighty such a form of struggle and
13:48hardship just to be good to their
13:50parents.
13:53Because God Almighty never coupled
13:55anything in His Holy Book with the
13:56oneness of God, except for the kindness
13:58to parents.
13:59Young people.
14:02Kindness to parents.
14:07Is an expiation for major sins.
14:10So, a person who has committed a major
14:12sin...
14:15One of the greatest deeds through which
14:18Allah forgives major sins and relieves
14:21great distress is honoring one's parents
14:24. I will tell you a story, one you all
14:28know.
14:32The story of the three men trapped in a
14:34cave by a rock; it is a famous story in
14:36Bukhari.
14:40One of them
14:43appealed to Allah by his most beloved
14:45and sincere deeds.
14:47What did he say?
14:50He said: O Allah, I had two elderly
14:53parents.
14:56I would not give milk to anyone before
14:58them, neither family, nor children.
15:02One day, I was delayed in search of
15:04something. I did not return to them
15:06until they had fallen asleep.
15:08I milked their evening portion for them
15:10. I found that they had already fallen
15:12asleep. Guys, so I can tell you. Maybe I
15:13am speaking a bit formally. You might
15:15not know what I am talking about. Do you
15:16understand or not?
15:18He used to milk the animals for his
15:19mother and father every morning and
15:20evening.
15:23One day, he was a little late in the
15:25evening. It was nightfall, and his
15:27parents were already asleep. He had
15:29brought the milk to them.
15:30He would never prioritize anyone over
15:32them, not his family or children; no one
15:34would drink before my parents, they
15:35drink first.
15:38My children, my family, it doesn't
15:39matter; my mother and father are number
15:41one in my life.
15:44He puts no one before them.
15:45He stood by their feet until they woke
15:48up.
15:50Then they drank from this water.
15:53He said, or rather, drank from this milk
15:55.
15:55He said: O Allah, if I did this seeking
15:57Your countenance, then relieve us from
15:58what we are in. And Allah relieved him.
16:01What does this rock story teach you?
16:04What does the story give you?
16:07Whoever is afflicted with great distress
16:09, whoever wants to achieve great wishes
16:11, there is one very easy way before you
16:12.
16:16For Allah to grant your wishes, hopes,
16:18and prayers, honor your parents.
16:21Allah will relieve every distress you
16:22have if you prioritize your parents.
16:25Well.
16:27The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
16:29him, said in a Hadith:
16:33Allah commands you regarding your
16:34mothers.
16:36Allah commands you regarding your
16:38mothers, Allah commands you regarding
16:40your mothers, he said it three times,
16:42Allah commands you regarding your
16:43fathers. Is there a similar Hadith?
16:46You all know it.
16:47Go ahead, Sheikh.
16:50Do you remember how it begins?
16:52Go ahead.
16:54Who is most deserving of my good
16:56companionship, O Messenger of Allah?
16:59Meaning the Prophet. They ask the
17:00Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him
17:01. O Messenger of Allah. Who is the
17:03person here on earth?
17:05I must treat with the best companionship
17:06.
17:09By the highest standards of
17:10companionship.
17:11Politeness, generosity, and gentle
17:13speech. Financial generosity, kindness
17:15of soul and spirit, everything.
17:16Everything. Who is the most deserving of
17:18my good companionship, O Messenger of
17:19Allah? He said: Your mother. Excellent,
17:21excellent. My mother is number one.
17:23Number two, O Messenger of Allah? Your
17:24mother.
17:27Number one, my mother; number two, your
17:29mother; number three, your mother.
17:34Number four, your father.
17:38By God, guys.
17:41It really saddens me and makes me feel
17:44down when I see a man or a young man who
17:47only enjoys going out and hanging out at
17:50the gathering when he is there.
17:54We are very happy for his arrival; a
17:56sharp, helpful, generous guy, may Allah
17:58bless him, has a kind tongue, is
18:00generous with us, invites everyone, but
18:02I don't know, he acts like a leader of
18:04leaders and a prince of the tribe.
18:07A thing.
18:09"Dinner is on me at the gathering," and
18:11so on; he is very good with his friends
18:14but, in contrast, treats his mother and
18:16father poorly.
18:18Bad, bad, meaning no, no, no, no proper
18:21language like decent people, no respect
18:23, no appreciation, no patience, no
18:25tolerance for them, nothing.
18:29And this good behavior with the guys and
18:31the goodness he is doing,
18:36will not benefit him as much as a kind,
18:38sweet, gentle word with his mother and
18:41father would.
18:45You see, many, many, many, many, as an
18:48Imam of a mosque, mothers and fathers
18:51call me, "Peace be upon you."
18:56"Do you know my son, so-and-so?"
18:58"I know him, so-and-so's son, how could
18:59I not know him?"
19:01"So-and-so, mashallah, may Allah bless
19:02him."
19:03"He is great and always with the guys
19:05and everything."
19:06She said, "By Allah, they are tormenting
19:08us at home."
19:10"He raises his voice at me, at his
19:12father, at his sisters, at his brothers
19:13."
19:15And this, young men, by Allah Almighty,
19:16is a sign of ill omen. This is not good
19:17at all.
19:19That your mother and father are
19:20complaining about you.
19:22The person of the Quran, character,
19:24kindness, and piety shows his piety
19:26first at home with his mother and father
19:28, and his brothers and sisters.
19:31Right.
19:37I will ask you a question now, I want
19:38you to focus with me a little.
19:41Allah Almighty says, "And lower to them
19:43the wing of humility out of mercy."
19:46Who is the young man who was
19:47communicating with me on WhatsApp, who?
19:49From the Murtaqa Youth Association.
19:52Yes, my dear, a video will reach you now
19:54, I want you to send it to all the guys
19:57registered in the course,
20:03so they can see it.
20:08Right.
20:11A video will reach you, and then you
20:12will see it.
20:14Now stay with me in the lecture.
20:19Allah Almighty says, "And lower to them
20:21the wing of humility out of mercy."
20:25This has never, ever been mentioned in
20:26the Quran except for the sake of your
20:28mother and father.
20:29There is, "And lower your wing to those
20:30who follow you of the believers."
20:33But "the wing of humility out of mercy"
20:34is only for your mother and father.
20:37So, why did Allah Almighty express it as
20:40"And lower to them the wing of humility
20:42out of mercy"?
20:46Does it mean, does it mean I need to be
20:48humiliated in front of my mother and
20:50father?
20:52Why did Allah Almighty say, "And lower
20:53to them the wing of humility out of
20:55mercy"?
20:56And why is the word "wing" used here?
20:59Meaning, why didn't Allah Almighty say,
21:02"Lower your voice to them and speak
21:03kindly to them"?
21:07Look at the very strange Quranic
21:08expression: "And lower to them the wing
21:09of humility out of mercy."
21:11The clip will reach you.
21:13You will see it.
21:16A bird, when it fears for its chicks,
21:18what does it do?
21:20It spreads its wings.
21:23In a scene I have never seen the likes
21:25of in terms of tenderness, affection,
21:27and compassion, it's something very
21:29strange; you see the bird—a tractor, you
21:31will see it, this one that digs—is
21:33coming towards a bird and its eggs.
21:37Meaning,
21:40something huge will crush you and your
21:42eggs, all of this. A very large vehicle
21:45, so it spreads its wings.
21:47It spreads its wings over the eggs.
21:50It fears for them from harm.
21:52I want you to be like that with your
21:53mother and father.
21:56Spread all your good morals, gentle
21:58tongue, and good character with them.
22:02Fear for them from harm.
22:04"And lower to them the wing of humility
22:05out of mercy."
22:07And that you being humble before your
22:08mother and father is an elevation before
22:10Allah Almighty. This is not humiliation
22:12.
22:14This is a great elevation before Allah
22:15Almighty.
22:16This is what it means to be humbled so
22:18you may rise.
22:19There is no such thing as "I humiliated
22:22myself for my mother and father."
22:26I rise by being humble before my mother
22:28and father.
22:30As Allah Almighty informed us, "And
22:31lower to them the wing of humility out
22:32of mercy," right.
22:35And speak to them with noble speech.
22:38Guys, I need someone smart to tell me
22:40what "noble speech" means.
22:45Go ahead.
22:48I want someone to explain it to me
22:49correctly.
22:51Why did Allah Almighty say, "And speak
22:53to them with noble speech"? Why didn't
22:54He say, "And speak to them with gentle
22:56speech"?
22:57Kind.
22:58Polite speech.
23:00Good speech.
23:02Speech...
23:04I don't know. Why did He say "noble"
23:05speech?
23:07The Quran is miraculous; every word in
23:09it is a miracle, every letter.
23:13What is noble speech?
23:17Come on, guys.
23:23Murtaqa Association, cancel the lecture
23:24.
23:26Not one person is raising their hand.
23:29This shouldn't be happening, guys; this
23:31isn't the first lecture of the course.
23:33Go ahead, Sheikh.
23:36>> Soft and gentle.
23:37>> Oh, gentle.
23:39My dear. Close, but I want...I want you
23:41.
23:43Where is he? From behind,
23:44what's-his-name? Oh, go ahead, go ahead
23:46, my dear.
23:50There's a mic, there's a mic for the
23:51guys.
23:59I can't hear you.
24:01Right.
24:02Fasting actually keeps you alert.
24:05I'm the opposite of those who say
24:07fasting makes guys sleepy and all that;
24:08fasting is the best time.
24:12I swear to God, the...I don't know what
24:13it's called, this hormone, dopamine, the
24:15one for happiness and the...Right?
24:18You are, mashallah, a doctor of English
24:21.
24:24A physician.
24:35>> I speak to them with respect and love.
24:39>> Noble speech is respect and love.
24:43That is incorrect, guys.
24:45Why did Allah, may His Majesty be
24:46exalted, say "noble speech"?
24:48Come on, look, there's someone back
24:50there.
24:56>> Say the best of words.
24:58>> I can't hear.
24:59>> The best and most refined words for them
25:00.
25:00>> Most refined words.
25:02See, I'm telling you, if Allah Almighty
25:03wanted "most refined words," He would
25:04have said, "speak to them with gentle
25:05words."
25:07Go ahead, give it to the guy over there
25:09.
25:09The last one, there's someone.
25:18>> Beautiful, good speech.
25:19>> Beautiful, good.
25:20>> Beautiful and good.
25:21>> Beautiful. Okay.
25:24Guys, turn off your phones, for God's
25:25sake. I have a complex about phone
25:27sounds. Every day during prayer: "
25:29Straighten up, stand firm, guys, turn
25:30off your phones." Of course, those who
25:32know me know the whole routine I have in
25:33the mosque.
25:35You answered and said "gentle," oh
25:36gentle.
25:39No, never mind, I will tell you now, by
25:41the will of Allah Almighty. Guys, noble
25:42speech...come on, Abdullah, say it,
25:44let's see.
25:49When they give you a little, you respond
25:51with the best and most superior.
25:54Pray.
26:06May God bless him and grant him peace.
26:07Alright. Guys.
26:11I want you to focus well with me on this
26:13point: noble speech.
26:18Do you know gemstones?
26:22Why are they called "noble"(precious)?
26:26Because of their rarity.
26:29Right, there are a million stones out
26:30there.
26:31You can pick up a pebble from anywhere.
26:34But in contrast, if you find an agate
26:37stone, or a ruby, or a chrysolite, or an
26:40emerald, or a sapphire—sapphire has
26:43types that are worth more than gold.
26:48It has certificates, and it isn't
26:50exported from one country to another
26:52without one.
26:54And it involves huge sums of money for a
26:57"noble"(precious) stone.
27:00Why?
27:02Because of its rarity, its value, and
27:04its high price.
27:06Gold is a very precious metal.
27:10It has a market that goes up and down,
27:13and the story of amber, which we now use
27:16to make prayer beads.
27:20I have witnessed with my own eyes the
27:21sale of a single string of beads for
27:238,000 dinars.
27:25Those who know prayer beads and are into
27:27this hobby know that this is a real
27:28thing.
27:30Because if a stone is a certain color,
27:32used in a certain way, scratched, halved
27:35, and you know—Polish, German, speckled
27:37—that's what makes these stones special
27:39.
27:42Why? Why don't I just make a lamp out of
27:44a regular stone? It’d look nice, and
27:46that would be the end of it.
27:48Because of their rarity, these precious
27:51stones have become extremely expensive.
27:54Let's go again.
27:59"And speak to them a noble word." At the
28:01beginning of the verse, "speak to them a
28:02noble word"—what does "noble" mean?
28:05Rare.
28:08Rare, from the finest, most precious,
28:10and most valuable types of speech; it
28:12isn't said to just anyone.
28:17Be as gentle as possible in your
28:19phrasing.
28:21Don't use the same phrases you use with
28:23your friends or the ones you're used to
28:25.
28:27Some people talk to their mother and
28:28father as if they were talking to one of
28:29their buddies.
28:32"Hey, welcome, Dad, how are you, God
28:34willing."
28:35Okay.
28:38"Thanks, bye."
28:40That empty talk doesn't cut it.
28:42Guys, let the Quran raise you.
28:45Don't tell me my mother and father
28:46didn't teach me to speak like this. Some
28:48people blame their environment, saying,
28:50"I swear, my background is harsh; my
28:52parents didn't teach me kind words or
28:53gentleness in speech." Who told you they
28:55were supposed to teach you?
28:57The Quran is what teaches you.
28:59The Sunnah of the Prophet, peace and
29:00blessings be upon him and his family, is
29:01what raises you.
29:03Be a refined person who uses noble words
29:05with your parents, so you can raise your
29:07own children on that foundation.
29:09"My father and mother didn't raise me
29:10..." So, are you not going to raise your
29:11children on that foundation either?
29:13And the cycle continues: "They didn't
29:15raise me,""they didn't teach me,""they
29:16didn't teach me"—until when?
29:19Make the decision yourself and be the
29:21one who embodies righteousness and
29:23kindness. If they didn't raise you, let
29:24the Quran raise you.
29:27If your father says something to you,
29:28say, "At your service, my heart,""Yes,
29:29my eyes."
29:30"Your servant, at your command."
29:33Be humble before your mother and father
29:34.
29:35Do not be embarrassed by this humility.
29:37This humility is true exaltation; use
29:38words that express such humility.
29:40"Your servant."
29:42"Yes."
29:44If your mother talks to you, say, "Yes,
29:45my soul."
29:47"Yes, my heart, at your command,
29:48whatever you wish, absolutely, consider
29:49it done, at your service, God willing."
29:53Everything in this world stops for your
29:54sake.
29:55These words, with their preciousness and
29:58rarity, are only to be said to them.
30:01"And speak to them a noble word."
30:05The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
30:06him and his family,
30:09A man came to him,
30:15And said, "O Messenger of God, which
30:16deed is most beloved to God?"
30:20And you see, this is something often
30:22asked to the Prophet, peace and
30:23blessings be upon him and his family.
30:27What is the best thing I can do for the
30:29Lord of the worlds?
30:34The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
30:37him and his family, replied to the man,
30:39"Prayer on time."
30:42Praying in the mosque in a congregation
30:45, in the first row, at the very
30:47beginning of the prayer time, without
30:50delay or sleeping through it—this is
30:53among the greatest deeds to Allah.
30:56Praying on time is difficult, young men
30:58.
30:59Truly, the person who prays all five
31:01prayers in the mosque in the first row
31:03is a real hero.
31:05May Allah reward him, for he is doing
31:08one of the best deeds.
31:10But you see some youth who pray Fajr now
31:12because it is close, but they stay up
31:15late and then miss Dhuhr.
31:19Then they pray it close to Asr time, and
31:21pray Asr I don’t know when—before
31:23Maghrib. It’s all mixed up. The real
31:26hero, the real man, is the one who keeps
31:28his prayers on time. Then he said: "
31:30Then what, O Messenger of Allah?"
31:35I thought the Prophet, peace and
31:36blessings be upon him, would say Jihad.
31:40Because after the pillar of Islam, the
31:42greatest cornerstone, I thought the
31:43Prophet would say Jihad—that you go out
31:45with your soul and wealth, and you might
31:46not come back.
31:48But the Prophet, peace and blessings be
31:50upon him, mentioned a different kind of
31:52Jihad.
31:54He said: "Kindness to parents."
31:58He asked: "Then what, O Messenger of
31:59Allah?" He said: "Jihad in the path of
32:00Allah." You see, both of them are forms
32:01of Jihad.
32:05Many of you young men have parents who
32:08are still in their prime.
32:13When your mother and father are in their
32:16thirties, forties, fifties, or sixties,
32:18things are still going well; they have
32:21their strength and health.
32:24But when they cross seventy, eighty, or
32:26ninety, they become elderly, and that is
32:29when they need you.
32:33That is why Allah says, "Do not say to
32:35them 'uff' nor repel them." Do you know
32:37what the predecessors, may Allah have
32:38mercy on them, said about the
32:39interpretation of this verse?
32:41By Allah, I will tell you something that
32:43will shock you.
32:44"Do not say to them 'uff'" means not
32:45even when cleaning the filth of their
32:47urine and excrement.
32:50Imagine, just imagine.
32:55If Allah tests you with having to clean
32:57your father or mother after they have
33:00soiled themselves, you must not say "
33:02uff" at the odor you smell from their
33:05waste.
33:09Or from the dirt, or anything else; you
33:10are forbidden from saying "uff."
33:14Because the predecessors, may Allah have
33:17mercy on them, did not have what we have
33:19now—no servants, no diapers, no nursing
33:22homes. It was the sons who did that.
33:27They were the ones who cleaned their
33:28mothers and fathers when they grew old.
33:31A man once came to Umar, may Allah be
33:32pleased with him, and said: "O Leader of
33:34the Believers, I have a mother who has
33:35reached such an old age that she cannot
33:37relieve herself except on my back."
33:41Meaning he would carry his mother to
33:43help her relieve herself, then avert his
33:45gaze and clean her.
33:49He asked: "Do you think I have fulfilled
33:50her right?"
33:51After all, I have done for her what she
33:53once did for me.
33:55I clean her, tidy her up, fix her
33:56clothes, apply perfume, and assist her.
33:59Do you think I have fulfilled her right
34:01? He said: "No, not even for one of her
34:02labor pains."
34:04Meaning, not even for a single grunt she
34:05made during childbirth.
34:06Because she used to do that when you
34:08were a child, and she did it while
34:10wishing for your survival.
34:13She feared for you from a thorn, she
34:15feared for you from the slightest harm,
34:17she feared for you—I swear by Allah
34:18Almighty, if you even coughed, she felt
34:20pain.
34:22But you do that while wishing for their
34:24death.
34:27You may be doing the act, but you are
34:28wishing for Allah to rid you of the
34:29burden and the grief.
34:31"Every day I take you to run errands,
34:32clean up, organize, and fix things."
34:34This is the attitude of some—may God
34:36protect us.
34:37Some of those who are dutiful to their
34:39parents just want to get this burden
34:41over with.
34:44There is a difference between them and
34:46one who does this and sees it as the
34:47middle gate of Paradise.
34:49The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
34:51him, says in a Hadith: "The parent is
34:53the middle gate of Paradise."
34:56The "parent"(al-walid), of course,
34:57includes whom?
34:59Linguistically, who is the parent?
35:02Your mother and father, right? The
35:03parent is your mother and father, not
35:05just your father like we sometimes use
35:06the term in our local dialect. The
35:08parent is the one who begot you, your
35:09mother and father, and they are the
35:11middle gate of Paradise.
35:13Now, anyone who has a house, or even a
35:14mosque, what is the best door?
35:17The side door? The one at the end?
35:21No, the middle one! It’s the big,
35:23decorated, well-finished, and
35:25best-prepared one. We always place our
35:27best doors in the middle. The Prophet,
35:30peace and blessings be upon him, says
35:32the parent is the middle gate of
35:34Paradise.
35:35Young men, each one of us knows what his
35:38mother and father like.
35:41Each one knows the keys to their mother
35:42and father.
35:43I mean, let me tell you something.
35:47This is part of being clever in showing
35:48dutifulness.
35:50There is a young man here in the lesson
35:52; I saw him—may God preserve him and
35:54increase his dutifulness.
35:58His father is elderly.
36:01Over seventy years old.
36:04Um...
36:09So, an elderly person doesn't need you
36:12to give them money or buy them things.
36:18Life has passed them by; buying them a
36:20new ghutra, a pen, or perfume—it's all
36:22over for them, these things are trivial
36:23.
36:25They want your cheerful face, kindness,
36:29sweet words, and laughter.
36:34This young man, may God bless him—there
36:37is no power but in God—says he found his
36:39father’s key, and he became one of the
36:41most beloved children to his father, and
36:44his father loves him in an unnatural way
36:46.
36:47He treasures him; if he travels away
36:48from his father for three days, his
36:50father misses him and asks about him
36:51constantly.
36:52What does he do?
36:54He says, "By God, Sheikh Ahmad, I go...
36:56"
36:58"...on Instagram or TikTok and look for
37:00funny clips."
37:02"I look for things that have no
37:04religious prohibitions, no music, no
37:05women."
37:07He says he collects them.
37:10"And I watch them with my father."
37:12"I want to make him laugh."
37:14"My father loves these things. I always
37:16look for what has no religious
37:17prohibitions, I come to my father, sit
37:19with him, and my only goal is to make
37:21him laugh."
37:24So the memory is linked that this son
37:26brings humor, gentleness, and tenderness
37:28, and whenever he enters the house, the
37:30whole place is filled with laughter—may
37:33God bless him.
37:36Look at the key he used; it’s very
37:37simple and easy. He enters, finds a
37:39funny clip, downloads it, checks it for
37:41religious prohibitions, and that’s it.
37:44And he has earned the great reward of
37:45dutifulness.
37:47One of the young men tells me that for
37:50his mother, the greatest act of
37:51dutifulness is when he buys her—look,
37:54look, glory to God, how simple it is for
37:56parents—I buy her ice cream.
38:00Ice cream.
38:02He says his mother loves a specific type
38:04of ice cream, the old-fashioned Arabic
38:05kind.
38:06It's made by only one shop in Kuwait, or
38:07maybe two.
38:09He says, "I go and buy it for her," and
38:11he hears her prayers, "May God bring
38:13coolness to your life, here and in the
38:15hereafter, my son."
38:19He—glory to God—doesn't just do this
38:21once or twice, no.
38:24He has a daily devotion he never misses
38:26.
38:28You always see it, mashallah, he cares
38:30for his mother and father in this regard
38:31, and everyone knows what their parents
38:33love.
38:36There are fathers and mothers who want
38:37their children to take them for Umrah.
38:40Especially as they grow older. They just
38:41want you to perform Umrah with them.
38:44There are things—keys to what Allah
38:47Almighty loves—if you know these keys
38:49and his subject.
38:51Alright.
38:54I have taken too much of your time, but
38:55God willing, we will conclude now. How
38:57much time have we taken?
38:59Mashallah, may Allah bless it.
39:01Okay, ten minutes maximum, God willing.
39:03Right, let's return to the Hadith that
39:06the lecture is named after.
39:09The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
39:11him, said: "I slept and saw myself in
39:12Paradise, and I heard the voice of a
39:14reader reading."
39:17So I asked, "Who is this?"
39:18They said, "This is Haritha ibn
39:20al-Nu'man."
39:22Guys, Haritha ibn al-Nu'man al-Najjari
39:23al-Ansari, Abu Abdullah, witnessed all
39:25the events with the Messenger of Allah,
39:27he was a Badr-veteran.
39:29Do you know what that means? He was a
39:31Badr-veteran, meaning he witnessed the
39:33Battle of Badr and fought in it; he was
39:36from the top tier, the very first ranks
39:38of the Companions, right?
39:42Now, logically, the Prophet, peace and
39:43blessings be upon him, saw one of the
39:45Companions in Paradise—and the dreams of
39:47the Prophets are truth—or he saw him on
39:49the night of the Isra and Mi'raj
39:51according to the other narration.
39:56What would cross your mind as to why he
39:57entered Paradise?
40:00And the Prophet, peace and blessings be
40:00upon him, heard his recitation.
40:04He is a Companion who just saw the
40:05Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him
40:07; the honor of companionship is enough.
40:11Is there anything greater than that? Yes
40:12, he was a Badr-veteran who witnessed
40:14Badr.
40:16That's it; perhaps Allah Almighty looked
40:17upon the people of Badr and said, "Do
40:19what you wish, for I have forgiven you.
40:21"
40:22Badr is everything; it is enough that
40:24you are a Badr-veteran. I don't want
40:26anything else; I just want to die.
40:29You are officially in Paradise.
40:31A Badr-veteran, man!
40:35A Companion, Badr, the Trench, and all
40:37the events with the Messenger of Allah,
40:39peace and blessings be upon him; yet,
40:41the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
40:43him, did not mention all of that as the
40:45reason for entering Paradise, but said,
40:47"Such is righteousness, such is
40:48righteousness."
40:54The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
40:57him, linked hearing his voice in
40:59Paradise to the fact that he was
41:01righteous to his mother.
41:04He had an elderly, blind mother, and he
41:07used to comb her hair, hold her, assist
41:11her with ablution, wash her, feed her,
41:14milk [her livestock] for her, and treat
41:17her kindly.
41:20That was the reason the Prophet, peace
41:22and blessings be upon him, heard his
41:23voice in Paradise.
41:24Such is righteousness, such is
41:25righteousness.
41:28Alright.
41:36Guys, the one who is righteous to his
41:37parents has his prayers answered.
41:43Who can tell me the story about that?
41:44Who can give me the evidence that
41:45someone righteous to his mother and
41:47father has his prayers answered? Go
41:48ahead, my dear.
41:49Bravo to you! Excellent, mashallah.
41:55The story of Uwais ibn Amir al-Qarani.
41:59He is a Tabi'i (a generation after the
42:01Companions).
42:02Guys, who can tell me what "Mukhadram"
42:03means?
42:05Go ahead, oh Mukhadram.
42:08>> No.
42:09>> We have started saying "Mukhadram" means
42:11someone capable; go ahead.
42:18Correct.
42:19Bravo to you! Bravo, you are correct.
42:22He existed during the time of the
42:24Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him
42:25. And he embraced Islam, but he did not
42:27see the Prophet, peace and blessings be
42:28upon him. Meaning, he was in a distant
42:30country.
42:31Among them is Uwais ibn Amir al-Qarani.
42:33He was a Mukhadram who lived in Yemen.
42:37What prevented him from coming to the
42:38Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him
42:40, was that he had a mother he was
42:41devoted to.
42:43So he did not come to the Prophet, peace
42:44and blessings be upon him. Yet the
42:46Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him
42:47, mentioned him by name.
42:48And he said to Umar ibn al-Khattab, Umar
42:50the second of the Caliphs.
42:53Al-Farooq.
42:55The one who distinguishes between truth
42:57and falsehood; he said, "Reinforcements
42:58from the people of Yemen will come to
43:00you, among them is Uwais."
43:02"So if you see him, ask him to seek
43:05forgiveness for you."
43:08My God.
43:11The Caliph of the Messenger of Allah,
43:12peace and blessings be upon him.
43:14The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
43:15him, orders him: if he sees Uwais
43:16al-Qarni, he should tell him to seek
43:17forgiveness for him.
43:19Then reinforcements from the people of
43:20Yemen came, and Umar, may Allah be
43:21pleased with him, asked them, "Is Uwais
43:23among you? Is Uwais, from the tribe of
43:24Amir, from Qarn, among you?" until he
43:26found him. He had vitiligo.
43:29It was healed, except for a spot the
43:30size of a dirham.
43:31His prayers were answered; look at how
43:33devotion allowed Uwais to have his
43:35prayers answered before the greatest and
43:37most prominent of the Sahaba.
43:40Alright.
43:46Disobedience; we have finished with
43:47devotion, God willing, and we have
43:48spoken enough about it.
43:50Now that your heart and soul are filled
43:51with devotion, I ask Allah, the Almighty
43:53, to make us among those who are dutiful
43:54to our fathers and mothers, whether they
43:56are living or dead.
43:58And that we never cease serving them,
44:00being kind to them, honoring them, and
44:01being generous with them in all things,
44:03for the sake of the Lord of Majesty and
44:05Honor.
44:07I will just conclude for you with the
44:09evil consequences of disobedience.
44:13There is a story I know of an event that
44:15I witnessed with my own eyes.
44:20This was a mother.
44:24She got angry at her son.
44:30And this son
44:34had done something very wrong.
44:37We ask Allah, the Almighty, to forgive
44:38him.
44:40So she prayed against him.
44:44She prayed against him in the morning.
44:49She said—young men, this story I am
44:51narrating—I know the people involved,
44:54every one of them.
44:56I mean, I know the mother and I know
44:57everyone; I know them all.
44:59Right?
45:01She said, "May Allah burn your heart as
45:03you have burned mine."
45:06She said it to her son.
45:09At night, they went out on a camping
45:11trip, this young man and them.
45:15It was his turn to cook.
45:16He put the meat in the pressure cooker
45:19and prepared the meal as best as
45:22possible.
45:24He opened the pressure cooker, by the
45:26decree of Allah the Almighty, at the
45:28wrong time; he didn't let the steam out
45:30.
45:32The pressure cooker burst and exploded
45:33right on his chest, where his heart is.
45:38He was burned.
45:39Just as his mother prayed in the morning
45:41, by evening he was burned.
45:42"May Allah burn your heart as you have
45:44burned mine."
45:46The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon
45:48him, said, "There are three things for
45:49which the punishment is expedited in
45:51this life before the Hereafter."
45:56Injustice and disobedience.
46:00Disobedience; as you treat others, you
46:02shall be treated.
46:03What do you do to your mother and father
46:04?
46:05Your children will return it to you, and
46:06it will be a debt repaid.
46:11There is no one dutiful but that he is
46:13blessed with dutiful children.
46:18And no one disobedient but that he is
46:19afflicted with disobedient children.
46:22Indeed, the righteous predecessors used
46:25to say, "We hope for..."
46:29"...mercy for the dutiful sinner."
46:36We hope for mercy for the dutiful sinner
46:38and fear punishment for the obedient,
46:40yet disobedient [to parents] person.
46:45Even if you see him as someone upright
46:48in appearance, a prayerful person who
46:51engages in worship, if he is disobedient
46:54to his parents, he is in great, great
46:57danger.
47:01Conversely, the dutiful person, even if
47:03he is modest in his worship, is in a
47:05state of great goodness.
47:11I will conclude for you with a story
47:13verified by Imam Al-Albani.
47:17Regarding the...
47:20evil consequences of disobedience. By
47:21Allah, young men, when I read this story
47:23, I even checked it from more than one
47:25source just to see, because the story is
47:27very, very strange.
47:29Al-Awam bin Hawshab said: "I once stayed
47:32in a neighborhood, and next to that
47:34neighborhood was a graveyard."
47:37Guys, please listen to this story
47:38carefully; it happened during the time
47:40of the Salaf (predecessors).
47:42Imam al-Albani, may Allah have mercy on
47:43him, authenticated it.
47:47He said: "I once stayed in a
47:48neighborhood, and next to that
47:49neighborhood was a graveyard."
47:54"After the afternoon prayer, a grave
47:59split open in this cemetery, and a man
48:04came out of it with the head of a donkey
48:09."
48:11"And the body of a human."
48:14"He brayed three times, and then the
48:16grave closed back over him."
48:21"That terrified me, and my complexion
48:24changed."
48:26I mean, for heaven's sake, guys, imagine
48:27you are walking in a graveyard and you
48:28see a scene like this.
48:30You see a grave split open, a man comes
48:32out—half human, a donkey's head—and he
48:35brays; it is terrifying, truly a
48:37terrifying matter, and he brays three
48:39times.
48:41He says: "An old woman spinning hair and
48:43wool startled me."
48:46She said:
48:48"I see that you are terrified."
48:51"That is my son, the one you saw in the
48:54graveyard, the grave splitting open for
48:56him.""This son of mine used to drink
48:59alcohol,"
49:03"And disobey me, and whenever...""
49:05Whenever I would say to him: 'Fear Allah
49:08, my son!'"
49:11"He would say: 'You only bray just as a
49:13donkey brays.'"
49:16He said: "She said, so he died after the
49:18afternoon prayer."
49:20"And she said: 'So the grave splits open
49:22for him every now and then, and he comes
49:24out just as you see.'"
49:27Imam al-Albani authenticated it.
49:30And you can refer to the Hadith in*
49:31Sahih al-Targhib wa al-Tarhib*, where he
49:34described it as*Hasan Mawquf*.
49:36I ask Allah, the Almighty, by His most
49:38beautiful names and lofty attributes, to
49:40make us among the righteous, the
49:42truthful, the devout, and the obedient
49:43to Allah, the Almighty. O Allah, O
49:45Turner of hearts, keep our hearts firm
49:47upon Your religion, and O Director of
49:49hearts, turn our hearts toward Your
49:50obedience. O Allah, honor Islam, grant
49:52victory to the Muslims, humiliate Shirk
49:54, defeat the polytheists, and destroy
49:56the enemies of the religion. O Allah,
49:58raise the banner of Tawhid high, O
49:59Possessor of Majesty and Honor. O Allah
50:01, be a supporter and helper to our
50:03brothers in Gaza, O Possessor of Majesty
50:04and Honor. O Allah, spare their blood,
50:06protect their honor, and guard them from
50:08in front of them and from behind them.
50:10And from their right and from their left
50:12. And we seek refuge in Your greatness
50:14from them being assassinated from
50:15beneath them. O Allah, use us and do not
50:17replace us, O Possessor of Majesty and
50:18Honor.
50:19O Allah, we are Your servants, the
50:21children of Your servants, the children
50:22of Your maidservants. Our forelocks are
50:24in Your hand. Your command over us is
50:25ever-passing. Your decree upon us is
50:27just.
50:28We ask You by every name that is Yours,
50:30which You have named Yourself with, or
50:31revealed in Your Book, or taught to any
50:33of Your creation, or kept for Yourself
50:35in the knowledge of the unseen with You
50:36, to make the Quran the spring of our
50:38hearts, the light of our chests, the
50:39remover of our worries, and the cleanser
50:41of our sorrows.
50:43O Allah, remind us of what we have
50:44forgotten of it, and teach us what we
50:46are ignorant of from it. And grant us
50:48its recitation during the hours of the
50:49night and parts of the day, in a manner
50:50that pleases You with us. And make it
50:52our guide and our leader to Your Gardens
50:54, the Gardens of Bliss. O Allah, occupy
50:56us with the Quran and do not keep us
50:57occupied away from it. O Allah, turn us
50:59toward it and do not turn us away from
51:00it, O Most Merciful of the merciful.
51:02Make us among those who recited the
51:03Quran and were elevated, and do not make
51:05us among those who recited it and were
51:06miserable, O Possessor of Majesty and
51:07Honor. Exalted is your Lord, the Lord of
51:09Might, above what they describe. And
51:10peace be upon the messengers. And praise
51:12be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

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