6 Outdated Style Rules You MUST UNLEARN in 2026 — Transcript

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1. 0:00I used to think that following all the
2. 0:02style rules was the way to looking good.
3. 0:04What flatters me, what suits my body
4. 0:06shape, what's trending right now. But
5. 0:09the most genuinely stylish people I know
6. 0:12don't follow any of it. So, in this
7. 0:14video, I want to challenge some of the
8. 0:17biggest personal style rules and show
9. 0:20you what happens [clears throat] when
10. 0:21you stop dressing to get it right and
11. 0:24start dressing for yourself. And I want
12. 0:26to start with one that has shaped how
13. 0:29most of us get dressed without us even
14. 0:32realizing it. And it's the idea that
15. 0:34everything we wear has to be flattering.
16. 0:37And I'll admit, I have been part of this
17. 0:39conversation, too. I've made videos on
18. 0:42petite style mistakes or how to look
19. 0:44taller because those tips can be
20. 0:47helpful. But lately, I've been asking
21. 0:49myself, why is that the only goal when
22. 0:52we're putting together an outfit? From a
23. 0:54really young age, we are taught to dress
24. 0:56in a way that makes us look slimmer or
25. 0:59taller or more proportional. And
26. 1:01somewhere along the way, the word
27. 1:03flattering stopped meaning something
28. 1:06that I really like the look of on my
29. 1:09body and started meaning something that
30. 1:12has to fit our social norms. Being 5
31. 1:15foot 2, I will also admit that, you
32. 1:18know, for a long time, I avoided really
33. 1:21chunky knitwear or chunky shoes or even
34. 1:24like mid-rise jeans because I was afraid
35. 1:27they would make me look shorter. But let
36. 1:29me tell you something, some of my
37. 1:32favorite items in my wardrobe right now
38. 1:35are exactly those things. I love my big
39. 1:39chunky oversized jumper from Cars. It's
40. 1:42like one of my favorite things to wear.
41. 1:44And recently, I have been gravitating
42. 1:46towards my Levis's 50190s,
43. 1:50which are like a slightly baggier
44. 1:52mid-rise denim. And if you would have
45. 1:54told me, you know, a few years ago that
46. 1:56these are the items I want to wear the
47. 1:58most, I honestly wouldn't have believed
48. 2:00you. I never ever would have touched
49. 2:03anything lower than a high-rise. I
50. 2:06always believed that high-rise trousers
51. 2:09or jeans, like as high-rise as possible
52. 2:12as I could wear, were the only things
53. 2:14that I could wear. I would literally
54. 2:16only wear like one silhouette of jeans.
55. 2:19And that's not to say I don't wear them
56. 2:22now, but opening up my eyes and
57. 2:25branching out into other things that
58. 2:27make me feel good has made my style feel
59. 2:31more personal. Because the thing is the
60. 2:33word flattering has never been a neutral
61. 2:37word. It's just another way of saying
62. 2:39you look closer to our current beauty
63. 2:42standards. And I think once I realized
64. 2:44that it was so freeing because it means
65. 2:47that I get to redefine what flattering
66. 2:51means to me. So now when I ask myself if
67. 2:54something is flattering, what I really
68. 2:56mean is, do I feel comfortable in this?
69. 2:59Does this make me feel confident? Do I
70. 3:01feel like myself in this? Because I
71. 3:03think that is what people really notice
72. 3:05is how you feel in your clothes, not
73. 3:08whether a pair of jeans makes you look 2
74. 3:10in taller. You need to dress up to be
75. 3:13stylish. I used to think that to be
76. 3:15stylish, you always had to be done. Full
77. 3:18makeup, full hair, lashes, nails,
78. 3:21everything. This was definitely a
79. 3:23mindset that I had when I was younger
80. 3:27that, you know, you always had to wear a
81. 3:30heel or wear a statement piece and just
82. 3:33be picture perfect to look stylish. But
83. 3:37as I get older, I'm now realizing that
84. 3:40that version of style is exhausting.
85. 3:43It's not realistic. It's not real life.
86. 3:45And honestly, it just took away from the
87. 3:48creativity and the fun of getting ready
88. 3:51and getting dressed, especially when I'm
89. 3:53wearing, you know, my casual clothes,
90. 3:56which is pretty much what I wear most of
91. 3:58the time. I've realized that in the
92. 4:00phase of life that I'm currently in,
93. 4:02simplicity always wins. The people whose
94. 4:05style I admire the most aren't the ones
95. 4:07that are always really dressed up. They
96. 4:10just look put together. It's about the
97. 4:12fit of the items, the fabric, and being
98. 4:16really intentional with the choices that
99. 4:18you make, not necessarily how fancy
100. 4:21something looks. And that idea of
101. 4:23simplicity has trickled down into the
102. 4:26way I get ready to, because you don't
103. 4:28need a full glam routine to feel put
104. 4:30together. Sometimes it's just about
105. 4:32making the small things easier. It used
106. 4:34to take me over an hour to get myself
107. 4:37ready to film my videos, but now, thanks
108. 4:40to the Dreamy Air Style Pro, it takes me
109. 4:43about 20 minutes, and my whole hair
110. 4:46routine is so much easier. It's a 7in-1
111. 4:48styler that dries, smooths, and curls
112. 4:51all in one tool. It comes with seven
113. 4:53attachments that just snap on
114. 4:54magnetically, so I can switch from a
115. 4:56smooth blowout to soft waves or extra
116. 4:59volume in seconds. I've always had
117. 5:01bleached and dry ends, and using my hot
118. 5:05tools was not helping at all. But this
119. 5:08air styler makes my hair feel softer and
120. 5:11not fried. The Jet Airflow technology
121. 5:13uses a high-speed motor that dries and
122. 5:15styles really quickly, and it also has a
123. 5:18smart heat control that constantly
124. 5:20adjusts the temperature to protect your
125. 5:21hair. It takes me less than 5 minutes to
126. 5:23dry my hair. Now, on days when I just
127. 5:25need my hair to be neat, all I do is
128. 5:28rough dry and then use the smoothing
129. 5:30brush to get rid of any tangles. This
130. 5:32leaves my hair feeling so smooth and
131. 5:34sleek. But if you've been watching me
132. 5:36for a while, you know that I love to do
133. 5:38a soft, bouncy curl, and so this is
134. 5:41exactly how I did it. After drying my
135. 5:43hair to about 80%, I switched to the
136. 5:45auto wrap barrels, which literally grab
137. 5:48and wrap the hair on their own. It's so
138. 5:50so easy. All you need to do is hold for
139. 5:5210 seconds on the heat setting and then
140. 5:54follow it with the cool setting to set
141. 5:56the curl. The result is smooth, bouncy
142. 5:58hair that lasts me for days. And the
143. 6:00best part is it only takes about 10 to
144. 6:0315 minutes. You'd never believe that my
145. 6:04hair is naturally quite limp and flat.
146. 6:07It's also super lightweight and plus it
147. 6:09has this soft pebbled leather handle
148. 6:11that feels very premium and wellmade.
149. 6:13What I've learned is you don't have to
150. 6:15go overboard to look put together. When
151. 6:17you focus on quality and simplifying the
152. 6:19process, effortless always wins. Over
153. 6:22the years, I have tried every expensive
154. 6:25hair tool out there. I've spent a lot of
155. 6:27money on hair tools. And I can honestly
156. 6:29say the Dreamy Air Style Pro works just
157. 6:31as well, if not better, and is way more
158. 6:34affordable. And what's even better is
159. 6:36that it's currently 60% off for Black
160. 6:38Friday, which is the lowest price of the
161. 6:40year. I'll leave all the links and
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165. 6:48You need to complete your wardrobe. I
166. 6:50remember sitting down one day and making
167. 6:53a list of things my wardrobe was
168. 6:56missing. It was supposed to help me stop
169. 6:58impulse shopping, which, you know, it
170. 7:01kind of did, but the list just kept
171. 7:04getting longer. Every time I bought one
172. 7:06thing, I would think of other things
173. 7:08that I need to complete my wardrobe. And
174. 7:10that's when it hit me. There's no finish
175. 7:13line. You never really reach a point
176. 7:15where your wardrobe feels done because
177. 7:18your life and your taste keep moving.
178. 7:21For the longest time, I was chasing the
179. 7:23idea of a finished wardrobe. I felt like
180. 7:26if I just found that one perfect shirt,
181. 7:30the perfect pair of jeans, the perfect
182. 7:32pair of loafers, then I would finally be
183. 7:36done, whatever that means. But what I've
184. 7:38realized is that wardrobes don't work
185. 7:40like that. A wardrobe isn't a puzzle to
186. 7:43be completed. Your style is a living
187. 7:46changing thing. It grows and shifts as
188. 7:49your lifestyle, your body, and your
189. 7:51taste also evolve. I do also think that
190. 7:55social media has had a part to play in
191. 7:58this as well. It's made us feel like
192. 7:59there is an end goal. Like if you just
193. 8:02buy the right 15 pieces, then you're
194. 8:05done and you'll never have to think
195. 8:07about clothes again. And I'm sure that
196. 8:09for some people that might work. I'm not
197. 8:12saying that that doesn't work for
198. 8:14everyone. I think of course for some
199. 8:16people that makes complete sense, but I
200. 8:18think that for most of us who love
201. 8:21clothes and who enjoy shopping and
202. 8:23personal style, that mindset keeps you
203. 8:27in the loop of like constantly
204. 8:30wanting new things or upgrading things
205. 8:32or looking for a better version of
206. 8:34something you already have instead of
207. 8:37just enjoying what you do have. So
208. 8:40instead of trying to complete my
209. 8:41wardrobe, I now am just trying to
210. 8:45understand myself better. I'm trying to
211. 8:47understand and take note of what I reach
212. 8:50for the most, what I wear the most, what
213. 8:53makes me the most comfortable, and on
214. 8:55the other hand, what no longer feels
215. 8:57right for me, what doesn't serve me
216. 9:00anymore, and asking myself where the
217. 9:02real gaps are. And I think that's how we
218. 9:05can build something that's more
219. 9:08sustainable and personal. Not by
220. 9:11constantly buying and collecting more,
221. 9:14but by refining and curating and styling
222. 9:17what we already have. A wardrobe doesn't
223. 9:20need to be completed. It just needs to
224. 9:23make sense for you right now in whatever
225. 9:27phase of your life that you're in. Your
226. 9:29wardrobe has to fit one aesthetic. For
227. 9:32the longest time, I was really fixated
228. 9:34on my style words and making sure that
229. 9:39everything in my wardrobe always matched
230. 9:43that aesthetic. Whether it was like
231. 9:45minimal or classic or feminine or
232. 9:48whatever the word might be, I would
233. 9:50always try and make sure that the items
234. 9:53I bought were one of those words. But I
235. 9:56think I got a bit too bogged down with
236. 9:59the weight of those words. And whenever
237. 10:02I would like something that was maybe
238. 10:04like outside of those words, I would
239. 10:07talk myself out of buying it because I
240. 10:11was afraid that it wouldn't match the
241. 10:13rest of my wardrobe or what I thought my
242. 10:15style aesthetic was supposed to be. But
243. 10:18the truth is, no one really dresses in
244. 10:20one single aesthetic every day. We're
245. 10:23not one-dimensional people. We have
246. 10:26different interests and moods and tastes
247. 10:28and even we have to adhere to the
248. 10:31weather. And so of course naturally our
249. 10:34style is going to reflect that as well.
250. 10:36Some days I want to look really clean
251. 10:38and minimal. Some days I want to look
252. 10:42more sporty and some days I just want to
253. 10:45wear something really oversized and
254. 10:47comfortable. And that doesn't mean I
255. 10:48don't know my own style. It just means
256. 10:51that I'm dressing for all the different
257. 10:53sides of who I am. I think the key is
258. 10:56finding a through line. It's the details
259. 10:59that tie all of your looks together. I
260. 11:02think for me that's definitely color and
261. 11:04it's definitely still keeping all my
262. 11:08looks quite simple. I don't like
263. 11:09anything too fussy. I don't like too
264. 11:12much going on. So even if I'm wearing
265. 11:14something really tailored one day or
266. 11:16something really casual and sporty the
267. 11:18next day, they will still have that same
268. 11:21through line. When you stop trying to
269. 11:23fit your wardrobe into a single
270. 11:25aesthetic, that's when your outfits can
271. 11:28become so much more versatile and you'll
272. 11:30start building outfits on how you feel
273. 11:34and maybe less so in how you want to be
274. 11:38defined by this aesthetic. And I think
275. 11:41that to me is what personal style is.
276. 11:45It's when you are consistent, not in the
277. 11:48aesthetic, but in the details that hold
278. 11:53all your different outfits together for
279. 11:56your different moods. I think that's
280. 11:58what makes it feel authentic to you. You
281. 12:02have to follow trends to stay relevant.
282. 12:04There's also this constant pressure to
283. 12:06keep up with the latest trends, the
284. 12:09latest this, the latest that. But trends
285. 12:11are moving faster than ever. By the time
286. 12:14you've added something to your cart,
287. 12:16there's already a new must-h have item
288. 12:18on the horizon. And trying to keep up
289. 12:21with that pace is honestly exhausting,
290. 12:24both mentally and financially. And the
291. 12:26irony is that following every trend
292. 12:29actually makes your style less personal.
293. 12:32You're diluting all of the parts of your
294. 12:35style that make it personal. I think the
295. 12:37trick is to let trends inspire you, but
296. 12:41also filter them through your own taste
297. 12:44and your own lifestyle. If it fits
298. 12:46naturally into your wardrobe, then
299. 12:48amazing. Go for it. But if you're buying
300. 12:51something because you have just seen it
301. 12:53everywhere, then I think you have to
302. 12:55reassess why you're getting it or why
303. 12:57you want it. Personal style doesn't come
304. 12:59from constantly trying new things. I
305. 13:03think that there is a place for that in
306. 13:06style because you have to give yourself
307. 13:08space to experiment. But if you're
308. 13:10experimenting every single trend without
309. 13:13really thinking about why you want that
310. 13:15trend, that's when you have a problem.
311. 13:19Style is about knowing who you are and
312. 13:22knowing what works for you and equally
313. 13:24what doesn't work for you. And it's
314. 13:25about dressing in a way that feels true
315. 13:28to that no matter what is trending at
316. 13:31the moment. Expensive equals better
317. 13:34quality. I think that maybe 10 or 15
318. 13:38years ago, we could have a very safe
319. 13:40assumption that if something was more
320. 13:42expensive, it is generally better
321. 13:45quality. Nowadays, I really do not think
322. 13:48that is the case at all. The more time
323. 13:50I've spent learning about fabric and
324. 13:53construction, the more I've realized
325. 13:55that price and quality aren't the same
326. 13:58thing. A high price doesn't always mean
327. 14:01better craftsmanship. Sometimes you're
328. 14:04paying for the logo or a marketing
329. 14:07budget or the brand's image. I've bought
330. 14:11expensive things that felt absolutely
331. 14:14beautiful at first, but then after a few
332. 14:18wears, a few washes, it started to look
333. 14:20a bit tired, a bit flat, and a bit dull.
334. 14:23At the same time, I've also shopped from
335. 14:26smaller brands or mid-range brands that
336. 14:29have made excellent pieces that have
337. 14:32lasted me for years. The real difference
338. 14:34comes down to the fabric, the
339. 14:36construction, and how well it fits into
340. 14:40your wardrobe and your lifestyle. That's
341. 14:42what makes something an investment, not
342. 14:44a name on the tag or the price that you
343. 14:47paid. So now before I buy anything
344. 14:49expensive, I always check the
345. 14:52construction. I check the materials that
346. 14:55it's made of. And I ask myself, does
347. 14:59this work with what I already own? I no
348. 15:01longer think price equals quality. Now I
349. 15:04think quality equals longevity. And
350. 15:08that's how I kind of see all the pieces
351. 15:11that I bring into my wardrobe. And
352. 15:13that's why I absolutely love researching
353. 15:16and breaking down what makes a piece
354. 15:19well-made from the fabric to the
355. 15:21construction because understanding
356. 15:24quality completely changes the way that
357. 15:26you shop. So, if you haven't seen my
358. 15:29highquality wardrobe series yet, I will
359. 15:32link it on screen so that you can watch
360. 15:35that next. Thank you so much for
361. 15:36watching this video and I will see you
362. 15:38in the next one. Bye.