فن المراسله مع البنات - ليه بتقع في فخ الشات الممل مع البنت؟ — Transcript

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1. 0:01Look, let me start by telling you
2. 0:02something most guys realize way too
3. 0:04late. A huge part of the attraction
4. 0:06nowadays doesn't die after meeting
5. 0:08face-to-face. It dies on the phone way
6. 0:10earlier. I want you to imagine this
7. 0:12scenario with me. You met a girl at a
8. 0:14cafe, a party, or maybe you matched on
9. 0:16a dating app, and the conversation
10. 0:18between you went well. There was a
11. 0:21small spark and some playful
12. 0:22back-and-forth; you get her number,
13. 0:24feel like you're on top of the world,
14. 0:26and tell yourself, "Nice, let’s go!"
15. 0:28Then the texting journey begins, and at
16. 0:30first, everything seems natural. A few
17. 0:32texts here and there. Emojis and quick
18. 0:34replies. But then, little by little,
19. 0:36you feel like something isn't right.
20. 0:37Her replies start taking two hours
21. 0:39instead of. Two minutes; the energy
22. 0:40between you fades, and suddenly the
23. 0:42relationship that was going well at the
24. 0:44start begins to evaporate. You find
25. 0:46your messages have been seen for 14
26. 0:47hours with no response, and you’re
27. 0:49just staring at your phone. Your brain
28. 0:51is spinning in circles. You ask
29. 0:52yourself: Did I say something wrong?
30. 0:54Should I send one text or two? Was I
31. 0:56too eager? So, what happened? Listen.
32. 0:59Listen to me. Most of the time, the
33. 1:00problem isn't that you’re not cool;
34. 1:02the problem is you don't really
35. 1:04understand how texting works. Texting
36. 1:06isn't like face-to-face talk—there's
37. 1:08no tone of voice, no body language, no
38. 1:10cute smile to soften the jokes. Just
39. 1:12rigid words on a screen between you,
40. 1:14which makes misunderstandings much
41. 1:16easier. If you’re not careful, it
42. 1:18quickly turns into something cringey:
43. 1:20canned responses and predictable
44. 1:22questions. But today, we’re going to
45. 1:24fix this. We’ll break down the
46. 1:25psychology and learn how to text girls
47. 1:28correctly without being weird, boring,
48. 1:30or gradually turning into her "girl
49. 1:32friend." Without too much chatter,
50. 1:33let’s start—without even asking for
51. 1:36a like or subscribe—before we talk
52. 1:37about what to send? We need to
53. 1:39completely reprogram the way you see
54. 1:41that phone you're holding in your hand.
55. 1:4390%of men make their first mistake.
56. 1:46They think the chat is the place where
57. 1:48a relationship is built. They get the
58. 1:50girl's number and immediately start
59. 1:51trying to woo her with massive
60. 1:53paragraphs of words and sentences. They
61. 1:55try to engage in deep conversations.
62. 1:56And philosophical ones, trying to prove
63. 1:59how interesting and smart they are.
64. 2:01Guys, you can't build a palace on a
65. 2:03graveyard. Texting isn't the place
66. 2:05where attraction grows between two
67. 2:06people. Attraction grows in real life.
68. 2:09It grows through eye contact. It grows
69. 2:11through your presence as a
70. 2:12flesh-and-blood person in her life. It
71. 2:14grows when she feels your calm energy,
72. 2:15your stability, and your impact. The
73. 2:18place for texting is just a bridge—
74. 2:19make this a rule: its only job is to
75. 2:21keep the connection alive until the
76. 2:23next time you see each other
77. 2:24face-to-face. Once you grasp this,
78. 2:27everything becomes much easier. Anxiety
79. 2:30disappears, you stop trying to act, and
80. 2:31you stop overthinking every emoji to
81. 2:33see if it’s appropriate or not. You
82. 2:36realize your goal isn't to entertain
83. 2:38her for six hours a day; your goal is
84. 2:40just to spark her feelings in a fun way
85. 2:41. And then put your phone away. There
86. 2:49is a method unfortunately common among
87. 2:50men, through which they kill any good
88. 2:52vibe between them and the girl. I am
89. 2:54certain that every man watching this
90. 2:56video has fallen into this trap at some
91. 2:58point in his life. And that is turning
92. 3:00the chat into a job interview. You know
93. 3:02exactly. What I’m talking about.
94. 3:03Usually, it starts like this. You send
95. 3:05her a hi. How was your day? She replies
96. 3:08, "Good, but it was really hard." You
97. 3:10ask, "Hmm, nice.""What did you do today
98. 3:12besides work?" She replies, "Just work,
99. 3:14and I went home." Then you ask, "Cool,
100. 3:16what do you actually do for a living?"
101. 3:18Wait a minute, man, you seem to have
102. 3:20gotten carried away. Look at what just
103. 3:21happened, do you get it? What is this?
104. 3:23Are you interrogating her? Question
105. 3:25after question after question.
106. 3:26Questions aren't bad in themselves. But
107. 3:28when the whole conversation is about
108. 3:30extracting information from her, the
109. 3:31subject. Turns into a chore. It makes
110. 3:34it feel more like work. And let me tell
111. 3:36you a secret about women. No woman in
112. 3:38the world wants interaction to feel
113. 3:39like a requirement. If talking to you
114. 3:41becomes like. Filling out a census form
115. 3:43, she'll get annoyed and stop
116. 3:45responding to you. So how do we fix
117. 3:46this? Simply, instead of interrogating
118. 3:49her with boring, logical questions, use
119. 3:51some playful methods. Let's rewind the
120. 3:53tape for a moment and I'll tell you how
121. 3:55. She tells you, "I just finished work.
122. 3:57" Instead of asking her a traditional,
123. 3:59boring question like, "How was work?"
124. 4:01Turn the question into a sentence with
125. 4:02spirit and humor. You could. Tell her,
126. 4:04for example, "Congrats.""You survived
127. 4:06another day of capitalist slavery.""I
128. 4:08feel like you've completely drained
129. 4:09your energy.""And you need to sleep for
130. 4:11two days straight." See the difference?
131. 4:13You’re not here. Asking her a
132. 4:14question, you’re using something
133. 4:15called playful assumption. I’m not
134. 4:18saying she’ll die laughing at this
135. 4:19sentence, but at least you’re
136. 4:20avoiding the repetitive, predictable
137. 4:22questions that make the conversation
138. 4:23boring. You’re showing a part of your
139. 4:25personality. And giving her an
140. 4:27impression that you’re a fun person.
141. 4:31You’ll find that her reaction, at the
142. 4:32very least, is a smile. And she says, "
143. 4:34Actually, I’m dying to sleep." What
144. 4:36you did here is you took a boring,
145. 4:38logical topic. And injected it with
146. 4:39positive emotions. To make the
147. 4:41situation feel like two real human
148. 4:43beings joking with each other. Not an
149. 4:45interrogation by a security agency.
150. 4:50Okay, the next mistake is the one that
151. 4:52quietly kills attraction, and the
152. 4:54craziest part is that most men don't
153. 4:56even realize they're doing it because
154. 4:57it happens. When they are in a state of
155. 5:00panic. The fear of silence. You know
156. 5:02this moment well. You send a message
157. 5:04and think it’s a good one. A few
158. 5:06minutes go by. And maybe an hour or
159. 5:08more, you see that she viewed your
160. 5:10story but didn't reply to your message.
161. 5:12Suddenly, your brain starts to run away
162. 5:14with you, and you lose control and
163. 5:16logic. Why didn't she reply? Was I too
164. 5:18aggressive? My joke didn't land. Maybe
165. 5:20she didn't understand it? Should I
166. 5:22explain it more? And that's when you
167. 5:24decide to send a second message, maybe
168. 5:26a random meme, to try and get the chat
169. 5:28moving again. Maybe a laugh. The point
170. 5:30is you’re trying in every way to
171. 5:32retreat and smooth things over. Guys,
172. 5:34you’re turning the chat into an
173. 5:36uncomfortable place with this behavior.
174. 5:39At least for her, because right now the
175. 5:41conversation isn't flowing naturally;
176. 5:42you're twisting her arm to force it
177. 5:44along, showing her you're clearly
178. 5:46anxious, and anxiety is the opposite of
179. 5:48confidence. Listen and understand me
180. 5:50well: silence isn't a bad thing. People
181. 5:54have their own lives; they put their
182. 5:55phones on silent to work, go exercise,
183. 5:57or take a two-hour nap. The truth is,
184. 5:59that absence actually creates curiosity
185. 6:01. If you sent her a flirtatious message
186. 6:03and she didn't reply. For three hours,
187. 6:05so be it, she didn't reply. Stop trying
188. 6:07to fill every void. Calm down. Put your
189. 6:09phone in another room. And go do
190. 6:11something important. What you must
191. 6:12understand is that attraction grows
192. 6:15much better in calm energy than in
193. 6:17needy energy. Here is another trap that
194. 6:23inexperienced men fall into. That the
195. 6:26chat keeps going all day long. From "
196. 6:28Good morning" in the morning. And "How
197. 6:30are you?" at noon. And "Goodnight" at
198. 6:32night. At first, when you start talking
199. 6:34to a girl, it's exciting, right? You
200. 6:36feel like you're building a bond. But
201. 6:37little by little, something strange
202. 6:39happens. The conversation loses its
203. 6:41spark. It becomes a straight line of
204. 6:43boring, repetitive talk. And over time,
205. 6:46you turn into someone who just
206. 6:47entertains her online. The truth is
207. 6:49that attraction needs space to breathe.
208. 6:51It needs, simply put. A bit of mystery.
209. 6:54If she knows exactly what you’re
210. 6:56doing at 9:00 AM, 1:00 PM, and 6:00 PM
211. 6:58every day. There’s nothing left to
212. 6:59ask you about. There’s no mystery.
213. 7:01You become predictable in everything
214. 7:03you do. And predictability means the
215. 7:05death of romance and excitement. Stop
216. 7:07sending messages constantly. When your
217. 7:09name appears on her phone, you want her
218. 7:10to feel like it’s an event. Not a
219. 7:12daily weather report she’s used to.
220. 7:14Have a fun, quick conversation for 10
221. 7:15minutes. Then say, "Sorry, I have to
222. 7:17get back to work, let's talk later."
223. 7:19And actually go live your life. When
224. 7:21you return after two days, she will
225. 7:23feel the interaction is still fresh. So
226. 7:28, how should I send a message? Or what
227. 7:30does an actually attractive chat look
228. 7:32like? It depends on two things: playful
229. 7:35energy and mirroring. I’ll explain,
230. 7:37don't worry. Let’s start with playful
231. 7:38energy first. Some men try way too hard
232. 7:41to sound impressive or poetic in the
233. 7:44chat. They send overly serious, heavy
234. 7:46compliments. "You are a truly beautiful
235. 7:48and amazing person." No, that’s way
236. 7:51too heavy for anyone on a Tuesday
237. 7:53afternoon, my friend. Flirting gets a
238. 7:55much better response when it’s
239. 7:57playful. When teasing instead of giving
240. 7:58a direct, serious compliment, say
241. 7:59something like, "You look like trouble,
242. 8:01and unfortunately, you're going to make
243. 8:02me fall in love with you." See the
244. 8:03difference? The flirting feels much
245. 8:05lighter. It pushes her personally to
246. 8:07challenge you and interact with you. It
247. 8:09shows you're confident enough to joke
248. 8:11with her instead of worshipping her and
249. 8:13her beauty. The second part is
250. 8:15mirroring her energy. This is easier. A
251. 8:17rule to follow. If she sends you short,
252. 8:19two-line replies, you respond in kind.
253. 8:21Don’t send her a six-line paragraph;
254. 8:23you'll look way too desperate. If she
255. 8:26takes three hours to reply, don't you
256. 8:27reply in 30 seconds every single time.
257. 8:29Conversations are comfortable when the
258. 8:31pace is balanced. But when one is
259. 8:33running at 120 mph and the other is
260. 8:35just walking, there's a problem. I want
261. 8:37you to match her investment in the
262. 8:38relationship. Only then will the vibe
263. 8:39between you remain smooth. Alright,
264. 8:45let’s address the situations every
265. 8:47guy is afraid of. The conversation is
266. 8:49going well. You are in sync with each
267. 8:50other in the talk. And suddenly,
268. 8:51there’s no reply. Hours pass, a day
269. 8:54goes by, maybe two. Rule number one: do
270. 8:56not send a panic message. Don't send a
271. 8:58"Hello." No one. Says "Hello" now, or "
272. 9:00Did I say something wrong?" This
273. 9:02immediately kills any remaining
274. 9:04attraction she has for you, because
275. 9:05these sentences lack confidence.
276. 9:07Instead, give her some time. Give her
277. 9:0948 hours, 72 hours. Let the dust settle
278. 9:12. And when you reach out to her again,
279. 9:13don't mention that she didn't reply.
280. 9:15Re-start the conversation naturally,
281. 9:17something simple and random. Even if
282. 9:19you tell her, "I just saw a dog wearing
283. 9:21a sweater exactly like yours, I had to
284. 9:23call and tell you." Sentences like this
285. 9:25, despite their silliness, seem normal
286. 9:27and not desperate. It gives her an easy
287. 9:29and fun way to get back into the
288. 9:30conversation, without feeling like the
289. 9:31chance is gone. If she’s into you,
290. 9:33she’ll reply and come back. But guys,
291. 9:35for heaven's sake, there is one thing.
292. 9:36You must focus on it. If you sent her a
293. 9:38message, and she gave you a one-word
294. 9:40answer, or ignored it entirely and
295. 9:42didn't reply to you. Leave it. Leave it
296. 9:44and for good. Move on with your life
297. 9:46and respect yourself. Attraction cannot
298. 9:48be forced through a phone screen. This
299. 9:50is the biggest secret about texting.
300. 9:52The guys who are truly great at this
301. 9:53aren't the ones trying their absolute
302. 9:55hardest. Not the ones who sit there.
303. 9:56Analyzing every word and every comma.
304. 9:59And they don't send every message the
305. 10:00girl sends them to their friends to get
306. 10:02their opinion. They are simply
307. 10:04comfortable and confident in themselves
308. 10:05. They send their messages naturally as
309. 10:07if they were. Talking to someone close
310. 10:09to them. And the messages are very
311. 10:10natural and smooth. At the moment you
312. 10:12stop trying to appear a certain way, or
313. 10:14to impress her. But let me tell you the
314. 10:16truth that. You must understand.
315. 10:18Texting is just the beginning. As I
316. 10:20told you at the start, it's just a
317. 10:22bridge. It helps you spark the fire.
318. 10:24But it’s not what will maintain the
319. 10:25relationship’s continuity. True
320. 10:27attraction, the kind that can truly
321. 10:28lead to a deep relationship and bond,
322. 10:30starts to grow when you finally put the
323. 10:32phone aside and meet her face-to-face.
324. 10:35Because even if your texting level is
325. 10:3610/10, if you meet her at a cafe and
326. 10:38get nervous, and don't know what to say
327. 10:39to her, and the talk stops, and the
328. 10:41vibe gets boring, she will lose
329. 10:42interest quickly. You must know how to
330. 10:44lead a real conversation. You must know
331. 10:46how to make her comfortable in your
332. 10:47presence. And how to develop the
333. 10:49interaction between you naturally. And
334. 10:51how to build a real connection, without
335. 10:52it feeling forced or strange. So if you
336. 10:54want to take all the momentum you built
337. 10:56through the phone and truly turn it
338. 10:58into real communication in the real
339. 10:59world, you must watch these two videos
340. 11:01as soon as possible. And that was
341. 11:03today's video. If you feel you need a
342. 11:05consultation for a private matter, you
343. 11:07can book one with me through the
344. 11:08Telegram handle you'll find in the
345. 11:09description and the first comment. See
346. 11:11you later.