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0:00I think that I've always or I kind of
0:02after childhood became a really serious
0:05person. I think it's also a byproduct of
0:08how I was raised and the people in my
0:11life who kind of respect a more serious
0:14tone, serious attitude instead of being
0:16playful or goofy or silly because maybe
0:19it isn't the best way to be if you want
0:21to be successful. I'm going to strip a
0:23lot of that down today and just kind of
0:25explain the realities of hustling, the
0:28dangers of it, but also ways that we can
0:31still be highly ambitious and get a lot
0:34done and follow our goals without
0:37sacrificing who we are and rest and
0:40play.
0:50We've been on like a blue theme for
0:53these last few episodes. Hello, hello,
0:55and welcome back to another episode of
0:57The 20's Detox. I'm Bianca, your host,
0:59where we dive into all the things that
1:01I'm learning and unlearning in my 20s to
1:04elevate this decade. Make sure to follow
1:06along. I post an episode every single
1:08Tuesday either relating to seasonal
1:10guidance, aligning your life with the
1:12seasons, goal setting that aligns with
1:14the energy that's happening outside and
1:16then also some tips for navigating young
1:19adulthood in your 20s and sometimes your
1:2230s. Like I'm almost in my 30s, so I'm
1:24going to still count it. I also have a
1:26goal of reaching a hundred reviews on
1:28Spotify. So if you have been listening
1:31to some time and you are enjoying some
1:33of these episodes, just make sure to
1:34give it a quick review. that would mean
1:36so much to me. I if you can see this, I
1:38have like so many like scraggly notes
1:40here, but I am focusing on something I'm
1:44really passionate about and I don't even
1:45really talk about too much, but it is in
1:48the realm of hustle culture, rest, and
1:50play. So, these are five things that I
1:52wish I knew sooner about what it means
1:54to hustle, what it means to rest, play,
1:57so that I can still stay ahead in my 20s
1:59and not, you know, like dillydally, but
2:01also not burn myself out. If you don't
2:04know much about me, a little bit about
2:06myself is I would say I'm a very highly
2:09productive, ambitious person. When
2:12people knew me in high school and
2:14university, I was so far on the hustle
2:18side. It's not even funny. Like all I've
2:20definitely pulled all allnighters.
2:22Getting the best grades were so
2:24important to me. I had Post-it notes
2:27everywhere. Every single day I had to
2:29follow this to-do list. like there was
2:30very little room for play. There was
2:33very little room for rest and having
2:35fun. And I'm so grateful for the friends
2:38that I did make in university despite
2:41whether or not we are friends now. But I
2:43am grateful to have been friends with
2:45them because they reminded me to play.
2:48They reminded me to have fun. The first
2:50tip that I'm going to be sharing, you
2:52actually need to experience both the
2:56hardness of hustle culture and the
2:58softness of the soft life before you're
3:00able to find the balance. That goes for
3:03everything in being a human. Like think
3:07about all the times you've experienced
3:10extremes
3:11before you were able to know what is
3:14your balance with it. In this case, it
3:16can be the hard life, the soft life.
3:19Maybe it's in the dating world. Like
3:22before, I feel like I dressed a lot for
3:25the male gays and my focus was a lot for
3:27the male gays. And so everything that I
3:30bought and wore and acted like was for
3:33the male gays. And then I shifted to
3:35this extreme of not wanting that at all
3:39and not wanting any of that attention.
3:41And I turned really inward and only
3:43spend time with the girls. And that does
3:45serve a purpose, right? Like you need to
3:48turn inward, but then also I was at a
3:51period of my life where I wanted to
3:53still like find a person, find a
3:55partner. Um, and not that I shifted back
3:59to dressing with the male gaze, but I
4:01allowed myself to be seen and perceived
4:04in that world where I was trying to find
4:07a male partner, but not jump too far to
4:10the male gaze area. I still was like
4:12with my girls focusing on my friendships
4:14there. And I want you to just think
4:16about that for a sec. Like how many
4:17times have you hopped from one extreme
4:19to another? That's super valuable
4:22information. I briefly mentioned in
4:24university I was definitely in the hard
4:26life like the the hustle life.
4:29Everything was serious. My routines were
4:31very rigid and strict. If I didn't
4:33follow those routines, I was feeling
4:36really guilty and not enough quite a
4:39lot. I felt this like constant cycle of
4:43because I didn't get my to-do list done
4:45in the right way. Even if I got
4:47everything done on that to-do list, I
4:49was left with, "Oh, but I could have
4:50squeezed one more thing in and I'm still
4:53not productive enough to be able to do
4:54that." Like, I was never left feeling
4:57satisfied with my work. And I felt like
5:01I woke up one day realizing, "Oh my
5:03gosh, I'm kind of living this robotic
5:05life." like I'm kind of just waking up
5:08needing to do the same things, needing
5:11to follow this exact workout routine. I
5:13have this strict schedule with school. I
5:15have these strict ways of how I study,
5:18how I do things, the foods I eat, the
5:20meal preps. It was becoming a very
5:22robotic life. There wasn't a lot of
5:24flexibility. There was no play in it at
5:28all. And what happened was because I
5:32woke up to that and thought, "Oh, this
5:34is why I'm feeling miserable. I
5:37disregarded all of that." And what tends
5:40to happen when you go into this soft
5:42life where you have fewer routines, it's
5:45a lot more fluid. You are able to
5:48connect with yourself a lot more, 100%.
5:50You're able to connect with your
5:51intuition, your femininity. That goes
5:54for both men and women. this yin energy
5:56within us. We're able to connect more
5:59with that in those moments, feel
6:01connected to potentially a higher power.
6:04If you were kind of getting away from
6:06your religion or your spirituality or
6:09connection with nature, that is where
6:11that happens. And the problem with that
6:14as well is I felt like I was going
6:18nowhere honestly, like I was just like
6:21floating. And that's because there is
6:24value to routine. There is a value and
6:29importance of having some sort of
6:32structure. So a friend of mine, Kayla
6:34Rose, she has this a podcast called
6:36Skinny Dipping. Absolutely love it.
6:38Literally one of the only shows I still
6:40listen to as I am a podcaster myself and
6:43I feel like sometimes I don't always
6:44want to be in the podcast world
6:46constantly. But one of the things she
6:48shared that was really a good analogy
6:51for what I'm trying to say of this
6:53balance is the hard life is the rocks in
6:57the stream and the soft life is the
6:59water. The soft life has a lot of
7:02creativity, a lot of brainstorming.
7:04Everything's everywhere. But without the
7:06rocks, they can't go in a direction that
7:09gives us success on this earth. Like at
7:12the end of the day, we diss our ego. We
7:15get frustrated with like the things in
7:18our society. But if we want to put
7:21ourselves in a position where we can
7:22stay ahead in society, we need to honor
7:25it alongside
7:27the deeper spiritual connections that we
7:31might have in that soft life and the
7:33intuitive connection. So with that
7:35balance is a neverending process, right?
7:37Like you'll learn, oh maybe I should put
7:39a rock here. Oh, I'm running out of
7:42stream. like the flow is really weak.
7:45Maybe I need to focus a little bit more
7:46on my creativity, my spirituality
7:50turning inward and balancing that this
7:54flow is not going out of control. It's
7:57okay if you feel like you're on one side
7:59more than the other. That is natural.
8:01Like we're going to just like sway like
8:04this. I just thought of like song sway
8:06by Casey Musgra. Sometimes we're going
8:08to like go a little bit more to the soft
8:10life and then sometimes we're going to
8:12be a little bit more to the hard life
8:13and slowly we're going to like find this
8:16balance that works with us really really
8:19well and that balance I'll go into the
8:21next thing. The second thing is balance
8:23looks different for everybody. So that
8:26balance of that sway and like figuring
8:28it out. it might be in a certain, you
8:31know, of that spectrum that works
8:33perfectly with you. Whereas some people
8:35need to be a little bit more on the soft
8:37life than they are the hard life. And
8:40that is their balance. And I think a
8:43perfect example of this is like I'm not
8:45I would not say that I am like a morning
8:49person, but I do like mornings. My
8:51chronotype says that I'm like an early
8:54evening gal. So, I think that just means
8:57I go to bed not too late, but I also
9:00don't wake up too early. I go to bed
9:03around like 10ish, 10 to 11. I'll wake
9:07up between like it depends on the
9:10season, but right now I'm waking up
9:12around 8 8:30. I don't think that means
9:16that I'm not cut out to be super
9:17successful cuz I'm not waking up at 5:00
9:19a.m. or 6:00 a.m. Like, I really feel
9:22like you need to understand what your
9:23balance is. Some people will wake up at
9:275:00 a.m. and that is the best time for
9:30them to wake up. Like they are their
9:32best selves the whole rest of the day
9:34with a lot of creative energy with a lot
9:36of vigor. I'm not like that, you know?
9:39Like they get tired and they want to go
9:40to bed at like 9:00. I'm not like that.
9:43Some people don't need as much sleep.
9:45They need less sleep. I know like my
9:48happy number is 9 hours. So, I think
9:50it's just through trial and error,
9:54you're going to understand what works
9:55for you. And I really feel like it's to
9:58discourage you from adopting other
10:00people's routines. Cuz what you'll see
10:02with trying to stay on track, trying to
10:04get on track, you might see a lot of
10:05people creating all these like routines
10:08that they must follow. And if they don't
10:10follow it, then they're not going to
10:12succeed. You have to build those
10:14routines for yourself, and you have to
10:15be unapologetic of how they might be
10:18different. So, like you might not wake
10:20up at 6:00 a.m. You might wake up at
10:228:00 a.m. And that's okay. You might
10:24have more inspiration to get creative at
10:279 10:00 at night versus 9 or 10:00 in
10:32the morning. And that's okay. That
10:33doesn't mean that you're falling behind
10:35and another person is more ahead. It
10:38just is that you guys are different. So,
10:41that's another thing. That's the second
10:42point of balance looks different from
10:44everyone and it really will relate to
10:48your personality, your chronoype, your
10:51biology, your values, the culture. So
10:56just honor the fact that we're all
10:58different and that way you can find your
11:00little balance there. Since we spoke
11:01about sleep, let's go on to that one as
11:03well. Although balance can look like
11:05different than anyone and you can sleep
11:07at different times. Making sure that
11:09sleep is a priority is the foundation
11:13with sleep. That's when you are
11:15restoring your muscles so that you can
11:18show up to your workout the next day
11:20properly. You're restoring your brain so
11:22that you can be creative the next day.
11:25You're restoring your immune system so
11:27you don't get sick and have it be like a
11:30a fast halt with your momentum. you're
11:33able to stay healthy, to be able to move
11:36through life at a great pace for you to
11:39get things done. Sleep is the
11:42foundation. This is like kind of my
11:44story with sleep. In university, I
11:47didn't prioritize sleep at all. I
11:50thought, you know, like I'm just going
11:52to get the bare minimum, get through my
11:54day, whatever. And that's not too
11:56uncommon to like so many of my peers at
11:59that time. Like a lot of us were only
12:00getting like 5 hours of sleep a night
12:02because like we had a lot of work to do.
12:04I was in a science degree. It was tough.
12:06I had to study a lot and sometimes I
12:09wanted to have fun and I stayed out a
12:12little bit later but I needed to wake up
12:14early the next day to study. And so I
12:16really wasn't prioritizing too much
12:19sleep. And there reached a point when it
12:22I was in my third year and I had to stay
12:25up to finish this like 30page report on
12:29a I think it was botney like it was a
12:31plant thing and I stayed up all night
12:35was delirious. I was literally like I
12:38felt high because I stayed up all night
12:40and that was the only time I ever pulled
12:43an allnighter and barely slept. I tried
12:45to let you sleep a couple hour hours the
12:47next day, but I just you kind of like
12:49ruin your circadium rhythm a little bit.
12:51But that was one time otherwise like I
12:54just didn't really prioritize it that
12:55much. And that was the year of 2020. We
13:01all know what happened in 2020. Co
13:03happened, right? And I remember getting
13:07sick and truly feeling like I'm laughing
13:11right now, but like cuz some people did
13:13pass away. I thought I was going to die.
13:15I had this really bad pneumonia. I could
13:19barely breathe. I was sick for 3 weeks,
13:22like bedridden. And I finally went to
13:25like an X-ray and they were like, "Yeah,
13:26you have some fluid in your lungs." I
13:28remember seeing on the wall of walking
13:30to this walk-in clinic being like, you
13:32know, if you have a fever, you think you
13:35have like COVID 19, like please don't
13:37come in here. And I'm like, what even is
13:39this? Like, I don't even know what COVID
13:4119 is. I just like feel like I have
13:42pneumonia. We didn't even have testers
13:44at that point for CO of like how to test
13:47whether or not you had it. I would say
13:50eight months later, like the whole
13:52course of those eight months, I was
13:54coughing every single day. We won't get
13:58into it, but I was not healthy. And I
14:02didn't really put two and two together
14:04that this was CO. Actually my school was
14:06the first documented in Ontario of
14:09having COVID because of a mining
14:12conference and I was like going to
14:14school so I think like we might have had
14:16like some of the first cases there when
14:18it comes to like universities. So I had
14:21co at that time something though that I
14:24didn't know like I didn't know that
14:25until later and the thing that I said oh
14:29this is why this happened was because of
14:31my sleep schedule. I started feeling
14:34like anxious after that time when I got
14:38really sick if I was not getting enough
14:40sleep for years. Like only until
14:43recently. It's 2026 right now. Only like
14:46the last few months have I been like
14:48it's okay if I didn't get enough sleep.
14:50Like I'll be okay. But I would be
14:52anxious if I didn't have enough sleep.
14:54like nothing was going to make me lose
14:59sleep anymore cuz I did not want to get
15:02sick like that again. I literally did
15:04not think I was going to make it.
15:05Anyway, I'm like going back into that
15:08memory and it was not fun. I think to a
15:10certain uh a point I was a bit extreme
15:13afterwards with like I need to make sure
15:15I get this amount of sleep otherwise I'm
15:17not going to make it. And one of the
15:19things that I really overlooked was
15:21quality of sleep. So what that means is
15:24like the amount of sleep is something
15:26right like on average men don't need as
15:30much as women. Men could do it like 7 8
15:33women are more like 9 to 10. That
15:37supports their hormone systems. But the
15:39quality means just as much. Like if you
15:42are not getting quality sleep then you
15:45still might feel tired and you also
15:48might be prone to sickness. You might be
15:50prone to brain fog. you might be prone
15:52to some hormonal disruptions if the
15:54quality of sleep is not good. And one of
15:56the things that promotes good quality
15:58sleep and restorative sleep is staying
16:01on a proper circadium rhythm. Like not
16:04doing what I did in university where I
16:06would like, okay, I would stay up till
16:082:00 a.m. one night and then I would go
16:10to bed at 9:00 p.m. and then I would go
16:12to bed at like 12 and then I would go to
16:14bed at like 10:00. Like it was all over
16:17the place. And because of that, my
16:19circadium rhythm absolutely just didn't
16:22exist. Now I really try and stay within
16:25like a twohour buffer range, even on the
16:28weekends if I go out like to not stay up
16:322 hours later than I normally would and
16:35sleep in 2 hours later than I normally
16:37would. Like I try to stay within a
16:40certain time range so that my body is
16:44getting used to like the clock that I'm
16:46trying to condition it for. To be
16:48honest, I know some of you might think,
16:50"Oh, I'm young. I don't need to worry
16:51about it." But like I was at my
16:54healthiest before this moment when I got
16:56sick. I really well I thought I was
16:58right. Like I was functioning well. I
17:01was doing well and then it hit me. And
17:04what happens when you get sick? You're
17:06not getting restorative sleep. So then
17:08you throw your back out or you hurt a
17:11muscle or you feel like you can't run as
17:14much or you're having brain fog. You're
17:16not as efficient at your work. You're
17:18not as creative. You're not going to
17:20have the motivation to stay ahead at
17:23all. Your health needs to be the
17:26foundation so that your body is
17:28functioning properly so that you're able
17:30to keep up with that vigor. You're able
17:32to have that creative energy to be able
17:34to get things done. without that it
17:37won't happen. I know people around my
17:39age that disagree with me and then I
17:42hear how many times they get sick. I
17:44hear how many times they lose momentum.
17:47I hear how many times they feel anxious
17:49and depressed because when you don't
17:51have enough sleep, it affects with your
17:52hormones but affects your
17:54neurotransmitters which affects your
17:56mood and then you're not able to stay in
17:58a good mood either to continue forward.
18:02So sleep really needs to be the
18:04foundation there. It's completely
18:06overlooked when it comes to strategy is
18:08about like hustling and playing and
18:10rest. Like sleep needs to be at the
18:12core. And the next thing cuz we're kind
18:15of tying it into some circadium rhythms.
18:18My sleep does change based on the
18:20seasons because in the winter time it's
18:23dark at 4:30. In the summertime it's
18:26dark at 9:30. So sometimes I feel like
18:29maybe I don't need as much sleep in the
18:31summertime than I do the winter time.
18:33And I listen to my body. All of these
18:35are tying together. I listen to my
18:37balance. Sleep being the foundation
18:39there. And then tying into seasons of
18:43how seasons can really influence our
18:46routines. I wrote this guide align your
18:48life with the seasons a couple years
18:50ago. It was completely inspired by my
18:52grandmother who's Norwegian. I went to
18:54Norway in 2023 and seeing how people
18:59lived there really did something for me.
19:02And this is beyond the fact that I am
19:04Norwegian and I felt really connected to
19:05being there and being like, "Oh my gosh,
19:07it's so great to like see people who are
19:10living where like some of my ancestors
19:12were born. Like that's so cool." I also
19:15think like one of the reasons why I'm
19:18just fascinated about Scandinavia in
19:20general in Finland as well because they
19:23have some of the happiest people, some
19:25of the most educated people, smartest,
19:27like kindest people and they really do
19:31honor their body as well as nature. They
19:35care about nature a hell of a lot more
19:38than anywhere else in this western side.
19:40I had to think, could it be something?
19:42could there be something there? And then
19:44the more that I was like sitting with
19:46this idea and meditating about this idea
19:48because if I'm being all honest like a
19:51lot of this comes from like me sitting
19:53and meditating and like what does this
19:56mean? How can I build upon this idea?
19:59When I started looking at nature and
20:02being like, "Oh, this happens. Could
20:05this be why I feel like this? Oh, could
20:08that be in the springtime when like
20:11things are starting to blooming? I feel
20:13this energy and I just kind of like deep
20:16dove into writing this entire report,
20:20like this entire workbook for myself
20:23first. I wanted to learn how can I do
20:25this for myself? And the first year I
20:28dabbled a little bit into it and I was
20:30like, "Oh, this is kind of interesting."
20:31thing and I I did have it on my website
20:33and it wasn't until the start of 2026
20:37where I'm like I'm going to really honor
20:40this idea and I tweaked it and I
20:42starting to live it and share it with
20:44you guys because I'm doing this. I feel
20:48so supported in every stage and the
20:51hustling stage and the rest stage and
20:53the play stage because we are nature. I
20:56keep telling people like why do we feel
20:58like we're not influenced by what's
21:00happening in nature when we are nature
21:03like we are nature. We started living
21:07out there not in homes not in these big
21:10glorious boxes like we started out
21:12there. We didn't start living by the
21:16Gregorian calendar. We would wake up
21:17when the sun came up. We'd go to bed
21:19when the sun came down. We would eat
21:22differently in the winter. We would have
21:24less energy. We do other things in the
21:26winter, sleep more than we would do in
21:28the spring and summer when there was
21:29more opportunity to find more food and
21:33go explore. Like that is how we started
21:37living. And somewhere along the way, we
21:41stopped doing that and we started living
21:43for politicians and taxes. That's what
21:46the Gregorian calendar's purpose is. No
21:48wonder we feel so disconnected from
21:51ourselves, creativity, spirit, nature,
21:55because nothing to do with our systems
21:57align with that. Even though some of us
21:59might be highly ambitious and we have
22:01all these ideas, what I found is we're
22:05not as efficient as we can be if we
22:08don't plan with what's happening out
22:10there. Like it we can use that as this
22:13like res resource to replenish our
22:16creative energy and our mental energy to
22:18keep going. And this is not like just
22:20like woo woo spiritual like they emanate
22:23energies out there. There's like actual
22:26vibrations that we our body feels and
22:29the very last thing cuz we haven't
22:31really spoken about play too much and
22:33it's because I have a reason here. One
22:35of my mentors Gary Wear is all about
22:38play. all about play specifically in the
22:41workplace in corporate world. He is a
22:44facilitator where he goes and helps
22:47teams create better bonding strategies
22:51and all of this is through like playful
22:53tactics because play makes work work. I
22:57mentioned earlier in this podcast
22:59episode about how I've always kind of
23:00felt like I'm super serious and that
23:03really didn't help me in the long run. I
23:06think when I was too serious, I missed
23:09out on some of the beauties in life, in
23:11others, in nature, in art, and all of
23:15that can be used as inspiration for what
23:18I want to do and who I want to be. And
23:21when I'm so serious, then everything
23:23around me feels pretty bland cuz I'm not
23:28really opening up to seeing that beauty.
23:31And I recognize I'm like still not as
23:34playful as I would like to be because
23:36it's been like so much of my
23:38conditioning to be like serious and put
23:40together and you know all that. And I
23:43love working with Gary because he is so
23:45goofy in a way that is not frivolous in
23:48a way that is like this is how we should
23:51be living. No wonder this is what works.
23:54He teaches me so much about the mess
23:58breaks, micro breaks, macro brakes. rest
24:01alongside being playful. One of the
24:03things that I feel like is really cool
24:05to know is learning about your play
24:07personality. So, there are like nine
24:09different types of play personalities.
24:11I'll put like a little article that Gary
24:14put up on his website and one of them
24:17that I definitely feel about myself is
24:20like an explorer and creative. Like
24:22those are the types of things that are
24:24part of my play personality. And why
24:26does that matter? Because when you know
24:28about your play personality, you know
24:32what are the kind of shortcuts on how to
24:35reconnect with the creative energy again
24:38to connect back with creative energy.
24:40This is not just to do creative
24:42endeavors. This is life's energy. This
24:44is like excitement for being here on
24:46this planet. That is what it's doing.
24:49How to shortcut into it? Understand your
24:51play personality. Some people are
24:53collectors. Some people are jokesters.
24:56Some people love movement. I have a
24:58friend of mine who recently got into
25:00dance. I'm not sure if she did it when
25:02she was younger or not. Maybe. But she's
25:05like doing these dance classes again and
25:08she's like, I feel like I'm like love
25:11life again. And it's no wonder. Does it
25:13mean you got to go do a dance class and
25:15that's going to be the missing puzzle
25:17piece for like your love for life? Maybe
25:19not. Like for me, I think what I
25:22absolutely need to do more than anything
25:26is travel. Like exploration is upwards
25:30on being one of the most important
25:32things in my life. Like when I was
25:34freshly 18 years old, I went and got a
25:37tattoo on my foot saying Wonderlust.
25:39Like one of those Pinterest basic ones,
25:41but I was like, "No, no, no. Like I'm
25:43going to travel the world." So like
25:46you're laughing now and then talk to me
25:48when I'm 60 years old with that fad and
25:50being like I travel the world. I learned
25:52that traveling for me replenishes my
25:55creative energy so so much. I feel
25:58inspired about life when I travel and I
26:01get out and experience something new.
26:03Like I need need that for sure. There's
26:06also the connector. I'm trying to do it
26:08off the top of my head. There's a
26:10connector that feels excited about life
26:12when they're connecting people together.
26:14So they'll host like a lot of uh parties
26:16or like dinners etc because they feel
26:20excited about life and it gives them
26:22this momentum through life when they're
26:24like gathering people at at a dinner
26:26table or their friends or their family.
26:28So, I do encourage you to understand
26:30more about your play personality because
26:33without really honing into some of those
26:37gifts that we're all blessed with, then
26:40we're not able to like help us keep this
26:43momentum. Cuz the whole thing about like
26:45working, resting, playing, they are one
26:48and the same. They work hand in hand,
26:51right? Like if we had all this like
26:53playful energy and creative energy and
26:56we had all these ideas, that's like the
26:57water in the stream. Too much of it will
27:00be overflowing. It's going in all these
27:02different places. It's wasted energy. So
27:05that's why this work aspect, this
27:07hustling will allow us to hone in on
27:10what that creative energy can be and
27:12make something of it. And then of course
27:15rest is needed. Just like in nature when
27:17things go to sleep at night, animals go
27:20to bed at night, rest is so important so
27:23that we are honoring ourselves and
27:25everything we did that day and then show
27:27up the next day and doing it all over
27:29again with love, with fun, like with it
27:32being fun and exciting. Some of you
27:34might have clicked on this and was like,
27:36"These are five things going to like let
27:38me get ahead and make a lot of money."
27:40This could help you make a lot of money.
27:42This could help you find the career path
27:44that you want. I'm just giving different
27:46ideas that are not what you will find on
27:49ChachiBT. Like these are things that are
27:52unique, you know, understanding that
27:54going on Instagram and looking at what a
27:56creator is going to do for their workout
27:58routine or morning routine or night
28:00routine might not align with you cuz you
28:03have to create your balance.
28:04Understanding that sometimes when you
28:06are working really hard in the winter
28:08time and trying to grind is completely
28:10against what nature is trying to tell
28:12you to do. So, no wonder you feel burnt
28:14out by spring. No wonder you feel unsure
28:17about yourself and where you're going on
28:19like about in the summertime because you
28:22decided to take action when the energy
28:25out there is not align not in alignment
28:29with it. So, you're all on your own
28:30there. You don't have a lot of support.
28:33If you're not honoring sleep, good
28:35quality sleep with a good amount, then
28:37maybe you're going to be faced with a
28:39lot of times throughout the year where
28:41you are sick or you're not feeling your
28:43best mentally, physically, emotionally.
28:46And that is going to halt you because
28:48maybe these thoughts of, "Oh, I'm not
28:50enough. What am I doing? I should try
28:52and find another job. I should try and
28:54I'll do this." And feeling really down.
28:57Not that it could just be only for the
28:59reason of lack of sleep, but that
29:01doesn't help. that doesn't help you gain
29:03clarity. Also recognizing that because
29:05we're human and because sometimes we
29:08need to learn the hard way, there will
29:10be phases in our life when we are
29:14experiencing or we're in the middle of
29:16an extreme. We're not in that balance.
29:18But that extreme is for purpose. It's to
29:21teach us a lesson. It's to allow us to
29:23know what balance would actually feel
29:26like because we know not to go too far
29:29in this direction than this direction.
29:31And lastly, understanding that we're all
29:34gifted this inert desire to be playful.
29:38Like our inner childs let us be
29:41creative. Our inner childs are the ones
29:44if you're feeling a creative block.
29:46They're like pissed off cuz they're like
29:48we're not having fun here. This is not
29:50what I signed up for. So understand your
29:52play personality. Follow Gary Wear.
29:54understand how you can shortcut this
29:59back into creative energy back into
30:01staying ahead by honing in your play
30:05personality. Whether you're an explorer,
30:07you're a creator, you're a storyteller,
30:10you're a connector, you're a jokester,
30:12whatever. That will allow you to be in
30:16this like light energy again, this fun
30:19energy. I hope you guys enjoyed this and
30:22it gave you some insight. Please let me
30:24know in the comments things that you
30:25learned, things that you would like to
30:27focus on because of what I've shared. I
30:29would love to know your thoughts. I'll
30:30see you next week. Bye.
30:34[music]

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