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0:16All right, everyone, hello. Today we
0:18are in simply a delightful apartment.
0:22It’s so clear that it’s not just,
0:24you know, a designer renovation; it’s
0:26truly stylish. And today we’re going
0:30to be sorting through a nursery for a
0:32girl who has just turned 5 years old.
0:35And, accordingly, we will look at her
0:37toys, let's say, her books, the storage
0:39organization, what’s sufficient, and
0:41what’s lacking. But honestly, when I
0:44walked in, the room was immediately
0:46very inviting. And the layout, in
0:50principle, if we look at the bookcases,
0:52yes, and the shelving here for
0:54creativity and play, it’s everything
0:56we love for five-year-old kids. And
0:59here, regarding this issue, everything
1:00is wonderful. So, we will simply deal
1:02with clearing out toys, see what is
1:04age-appropriate, what to aim for, and
1:06discuss what the child plays with and
1:08what she doesn't. There is a specific
1:10feature here. I don’t see the girl.
1:12That is, I cannot discuss things with
1:14her or see her reactions to this or
1:15that game. Therefore, I will blindly
1:17trust only her mom here. So we will
1:20discuss a little bit about the
1:22child’s character, what she’s
1:24involved in, what she has, let’s say,
1:27already outgrown, what she still plays
1:29with, and we’ll break down her
1:32creative interests. I want to note
1:34right away that the wall bars are
1:36beautifully done. From the perspective
1:38of the room, it’s probably about 11
1:40to 13 meters, plus the built-in closet.
1:42When you set up wall bars like this,
1:45with this kind of space, it’s just
1:48wonderful. And then, when parents think
1:51it’s time to unscrew it, you know,
1:53friends will still be coming over until
1:55the end of second grade, and the prime
1:57period is about to start, and they will
1:59start swinging on these. They will be
2:01using these hammocks. It seems to me,
2:03even in a small room. I haven’t had a
2:06single client—or at least in my
2:08circle, when I visit their homes—
2:10where no one was swinging on this
2:12hammock. It is genuinely in high demand
2:16, but closer to second or third grade,
2:18depending on the child’s temperament,
2:20it is naturally, let’s say, gradually
2:22removed. And usually, they keep the
2:25pull-up bar, or they keep it depending
2:28on whether the girl does dancing; they
2:30might leave crossbars like this, for
2:32example, while removing the rest and
2:34hanging a large mirror. A large mirror
2:37should appear here roughly—let me
2:39think—around second grade. The end of
2:42second grade, the beginning of third,
2:43100%. You remove part of the section
2:45and put a large mirror on the wall. Why
2:47do they start dancing? And in this way,
2:49they work through the fear of ugliness.
2:51The thing that starts in our
2:53adolescence. Prevention is dancing for
2:55both boys and girls. But we hang the
2:57mirror specifically for girls, because,
2:59well, for boys, let them hone their
3:01movements in other ways, like in sports
3:03. And so, here specifically in this
3:05room, I can clearly see that a mirror
3:07goes here, and two desks go here later,
3:09that is, how we plan for a desk and a
3:11non-desk. Regarding this table, in
3:14principle, it is perfectly sized for
3:17children under 7 years old. Well, if we
3:20are talking about dimensions and the
3:22chair, if you suddenly want to change
3:23it, you should just get a proper desk
3:25right away. That is, you don't need to
3:27come up with any other tables. This
3:28setup is more than enough until the
3:30first grade. So, if you are satisfied
3:32with it, and it fits well size-wise,
3:33then okay. If you are not satisfied,
3:35you immediately choose a proper school
3:36desk. The kind that grows with them,
3:38with all these tilting features and
3:40surfaces. I can see right away that you
3:42need to train the child to tidy up
3:44immediately. This applies to window
3:46sills. Here on the window sills, there
3:47are a great many different things. May
3:50I do this? I assure you, in adolescence
3:52, if you don't teach them right away,
3:54the window sill will become the zone
3:56where their whole childhood accumulates
3:58. Anything that isn't sorted out
3:59immediately becomes a bad habit. What
4:02is order, anyway? It is the ability to
4:05self-organize, to set priorities, and
4:08to discard non-priority tasks in the
4:11future. That is, when a person mixes
4:14everything together, we have an age
4:15when that is allowed—at 5 years old,
4:17in fact, up to 7 years old, a child can
4:19allow themselves anything they want.
4:21But even though they can allow
4:22themselves anything, we set priorities
4:25for order. Meaning, what is okay and
4:26what is not, periodically cleaning
4:28things out. If you don't teach them
4:30from the start to keep certain places
4:32clean, believe me, window sills are
4:34precisely the place they won't clean,
4:36where they dump their emotional clutter
4:38, and fail to try to reach a new level
4:40of growth. And most importantly, you
4:43really won't be able to handle it, you
4:45know, every time you could just walk up
4:46and throw everything into the trash.
4:48Therefore, just teach them, for example
4:50, if she collects LEGO, it's clear
4:52there will never be enough space for it
4:54. Buy some transparent containers for
4:56the LEGO. And then you just put these
4:58sets in them; you know, they're like
5:00shoeboxes. They are made of a type of
5:02plastic, you know, not like glass,
5:04strictly speaking, and they don't get
5:06dusty in there. You stack them on top
5:08of each other, and you get a LEGO
5:10section. It's just great. But this
5:12stuff here, it needs to be cleared out.
5:14And if you don't have enough storage
5:16space, since you have a dresser right
5:18here, you just put them here. They cost
5:21—I recently bought some for one of my
5:23clients—1,200 rubles. They are like
5:25little cabinets with drawers. It’s a
5:27stand, you know, on plastic legs with
5:29pull-out drawers. And all her junk goes
5:31in there, because looking at the art
5:33supplies, I can see this won't be
5:35enough. So, I don't know what you have
5:37stored here,
5:38>> it's art supplies. Well, everything is
5:39art supplies, but generally speaking.
5:42So, there are art supplies here, and
5:44art supplies in those drawers, and if
5:45we're talking about not having enough
5:47room for LEGO, you can find them on
5:49Ozon. Like for Alena, a girl who just
5:52turned 8. She ordered a cabinet for
5:55just 8,000 rubles. At the bottom,
5:57it’s the same width, exactly the same
5:58. At the bottom there are these drawers
6:00, and shelves on top. But behind glass,
6:03because if you have LEGO, believe me,
6:05it's better to use a display case so it
6:06doesn't get dusty. I know how
6:09collecting goes, and they end up being
6:11lower down. So, the child sees the
6:13bottom shelf at eye level, and then
6:15there's this exhibit, which she can't
6:16really see anyway because it's placed
6:18there, but it's meaningful. You get rid
6:20of that dust, and then you don't even
6:22need to buy those, you know, sometimes
6:24storage systems, all those organizers,
6:27cost more than buying a proper cabinet
6:29for the room. I'm serious. I have
6:32already, well, I’ve calculated it.
6:35And so, if you put it here—especially
6:37since your wall color is very nice—
6:38that kind of budget furniture is
6:40everywhere, and it assembles in seconds
6:42. You put this cabinet right in this
6:44spot, and half of your storage needs
6:46are solved, and the windowsill is
6:48cleared. So, let's start with the
6:50mistake. Now let's turn our attention
6:52to this cabinet. It's very well
6:54organized for a child, yes. But here we
6:56have an emotional craft from New Year's
6:58, and New Year's was a long time ago,
6:59right? Up there, a 5-year-old child,
7:04from their height, cannot see that
7:06shelf. So it turns out it’s just
7:09clutter for you, and for the child,
7:10it’s meaningless. If something is
7:12emotionally valuable to you, you put it
7:14in an emotional box that you keep up
7:16there on the mezzanine somewhere. Then
7:18you sort through it, take photos, make
7:20a book, whatever you like. And if a
7:22child remembers it, for example, a year
7:24later, they go through it and see that
7:25it’s been saved. Children have one
7:27particular trait. It’s not important
7:28to them, you know, that it sits there
7:30for years. What matters to them is the
7:32simple fact that it was kept. And when
7:33they see that it has been saved, when
7:35we talk about things they put their
7:36effort into. But crafts can be
7:38different. Honestly, I don’t really
7:40see much value in this specific story.
7:42The fact that she just took and glued
7:44on some beads or rhinestones, she's
7:46done that many times. Another point is
7:48who she did it with; if she did it at
7:50some event, or with grandma. If not,
7:53then you know, this is a story where,
7:55when you have a lot of these crafts
7:56lying around, when we sort through a
7:58closet, for example, the child sees it
8:00and we say: "Choose what is valuable to
8:02you." And then they throw away the
8:04things that weren't really special
8:06themselves. So, you know, how would I
8:08do it? I think I’ll get involved
8:10after all. We’ll at least pull out
8:12everything from the top shelves, and
8:14when she arrives,
8:15>> Uh-huh.
8:15>> you and she can sort through this chaos
8:17and put it into large bags without me,
8:18and then you can message me later to
8:20say what percentage it was. And
8:22regardless, children need to be taught,
8:24even if there are some tears, to get
8:27rid of things. Knowing how to part with
8:30things is also a skill that needs to be
8:32taught, especially when you can afford
8:35certain, well, moments. Because
8:38there’s a very common mistake in
8:39business, you know: a person invests in
8:41a project, believes in it, puts money
8:43and time into it, the project doesn't
8:45take off, but they feel bad about the
8:47investments they made. And so they end
8:50up losing even more, right? This moment
8:52, when you teach children in childhood
8:54to get rid of the unnecessary, is about
8:55making quick decisions when we realize
8:57that our investments haven't paid off.
8:59Note that these investments don't just
9:01apply to material things, right? You
9:04lose weight, you gain weight, or you
9:06need to clean out the closet, things
9:08are out of fashion; for instance, why
9:10don't we all wear the earrings from our
9:12Soviet childhood that we all had?
9:14Because that’s not how people wear
9:15them now. And you need to be able to,
9:17uh, get rid of this or process it
9:19somehow, right? It's the same thing.
9:21Let's put it this way. Friends, a
9:22friendship that has run its course,
9:23relationships, when a marriage, excuse
9:25me, or you're living in a first
9:27relationship, you realize it’s not
9:28for you, well, I’ve invested so much,
9:30or something else. So, in reality, when
9:32we talk about order in a room, we’re
9:34implying a huge spectrum of different
9:36relationships. Therefore, you have to
9:38learn, yes, it’s painful. It’s
9:40always painful, unpleasant. Okay, this,
9:42I understand, has something to do with
9:43creativity. Everything related to
9:45creativity should always be accessible.
9:47If we are talking about a creative
9:49child, it cannot be up on the ceiling.
9:51Or perhaps it's something you’re
9:52saving up for something, right? But in
9:55fact, what do I usually put up on the
9:56ceiling? On the top shelf, I put away
9:59games for when they're older. That is,
10:01when we play only with a parent, she
10:02can’t play alone yet, so it’s not
10:04important for her to reach it herself.
10:06The second point is books for when
10:07she's older. Did you remember what the
10:09top shelves are for? It’s the same
10:10thing here. Games for when she's older,
10:12books for when she's older, everything
10:14that is here, everything she has
10:16permission to take for creativity, she
10:17gets it. If you have creative supplies
10:19for the future, then put them in a
10:21separate container so there is no
10:23visual clutter for her. That is, she
10:25already understands, and you know, that
10:27this box contains your treasure that
10:28will be for her later. So I don’t
10:30know where you are going to put it.
10:32>> Well, somewhere lower.
10:33>> Lower, yes. So, again, a 5-year-old
10:36child won’t be able to reach this
10:37here. But she draws a lot right now,
10:39it’s obvious. That means this should
10:42go down for us. So, alright. Again, if
10:44we’re talking about cars, if they are
10:46played with,
10:47>> then they should be down below. So,
10:49here we have a good story. This chest
10:52of tales knowledge, it develops memory
10:54very well. I remember such stories,
10:57they are very rare to find and play
10:59with now, and she has only just turned
11:015. You still have potential in this
11:04game somewhere. I think that, looking
11:06at your games, if you are more or less
11:09engaged, if you, mm, play it once or
11:12twice a week, just a little bit, then
11:15this game will last you half a year.
11:18Then it disappears for you. And,
11:20accordingly, if you don't play with it,
11:22then it also disappears, because, well,
11:24what's the point, right? There. And,
11:26accordingly, we know that the child
11:28doesn't read yet. Accordingly, she can
11:30play this game only with her mom.
11:32Therefore, such a game is safely put on
11:35a higher shelf.
11:36>> We won't put it down below because it
11:37is this way. I can open it.
11:39>> Yes.
11:41>> Here again, we have these wonderful
11:42toys, whether she plays or doesn't play
11:44,
11:45>> of course, since she doesn't see them.
11:47>> Well, she doesn't play because she
11:48doesn't see them. If we say: "Clean
11:50this up." Naturally, she will need it.
11:53>> But in fact, you can just put this box
11:54here, she won't even open it, and say:
11:56"Remember, we give this system to
11:58children who have nothing,
12:00>> and we'll buy you one normal new toy"
12:02that you will want. Believe me, in this
12:04format, this junk is gotten rid of
12:06quickly. But when I come to children
12:09who at least know me, with whom I've
12:10had tea sometimes, I make them put all
12:12this away themselves right in front of
12:14me. Not with any persuasion, but just,
12:17yes, you will get a toy, but they say:
12:19"Oh, I need this horse. Oh, I need this
12:23one here, look, it's a treasure chest
12:25of junk." There. And it's clear that
12:27this has already been played out. Again
12:29, this collection of our wonderful
12:31Kinder Surprise toys. Well, some things
12:34, in short, if they are really needed,
12:36go into a memory box for a year, yes,
12:37because the volume is small. And, in
12:40principle, it's here, well, she clearly
12:41doesn't play with this.
12:43>> But in fact, you can, actually, easily,
12:46well, you can make it so the child
12:48stays. So, here we have an expensive
12:51doctor's kit, of course. I can already
12:53see by the quality. She plays.
12:55>> No, she was given a doctor
12:57>> board games. Yes, there
13:00>> they are, you know, even when you don't
13:02have time, she is 5 years old, you can
13:04find many games, you know, for when
13:06you're lazy, when you don't strain
13:08yourself, but the child figures
13:09something out there. This here is a
13:12waste of time. I can see by you that
13:14this is not your case. You don't need
13:15this. Therefore, you know, honestly,
13:18looking at this, you can do this
13:19without her. And leave a few things for
13:22her to choose from, to train her,
13:24because the volume can be intimidating.
13:26You definitely don't need this. The age
13:27is not right anymore.
13:28>> Oh, excellent.
13:31>> This is Dad's thing, right?
13:34>> This is from her older sister.
13:35>> From her older sister. Usually, such
13:39things, if you don't have a son, girls
13:41assemble once every six months with
13:43their dad, and then they safely leave
13:45it in their memory for life as an
13:47emotional recollection. But to say that
13:50we should dedicate an entire space on
13:52an open shelf to this, honestly, well,
13:55you already get it, right? I think
13:57there is some top shelf in a closet
13:59somewhere, right, where we can put it,
14:01and put it on dad's, you know where? On
14:03the schedule. You should have a
14:04schedule. And some holidays or breaks
14:07start. And you say: "Honey, I'm going
14:09shopping with the girls, with my
14:11friends. You take it out, put it down,
14:13and say:" Take a picture of the
14:14finished model for me. "You assemble it
14:16together, put it away, and that's it.
14:18And then you donate it to an orphanage
14:19for the New Year. Wonderful. But boys,
14:21of course, do assemble these things.
14:23There's nothing even to say there.
14:24Therefore, you see, a shelf is already
14:26clearing up over there. Everything is
14:28great. I want to tell you honestly, for
14:303-year-olds, I don't like it when they
14:31assemble these kinds of things. I see
14:33that this is new, unopened. Yes.
14:35>> And you know what? When going to visit
14:37someone, give it as a gift.
14:38>> Uh-huh.
14:39>> I—Well, we are taking this out of
14:41sight. I'll explain. It's just that
14:43it's not about this Creator set, like,
14:45yes, it's understandable, a puppy, a
14:46squirrel, and so on, but simply, seeing
14:48the child's room, I understand that her
14:50potential is already a bit...
14:53>> Uh-huh. higher. Let her assemble a pink
14:55LEGO Porsche, you understand? It's good
14:58for motor skills, and girls like it.
15:00And you can also buy lighting for it,
15:02>> and it will shine, you know, in the
15:04night, like a nightlight. It will be a
15:05very beautiful LEGO set that will
15:07become a design object. Plus, you have
15:09accents, so it will become for you not
15:11just a toy, but a design element. And
15:14in this way, you are shaping the
15:15child's taste.
15:16>> So,
15:17>> this is what I'm hiding to throw away.
15:20Oh, so this is what—Can we just—No,
15:23wait, this is creativity. This is very
15:26old.
15:26>> This is creativity. So, let's do it
15:29right away. Can we, can we just get
15:31some trash bags? Let's—because this
15:34is an origami craft kit, we need this.
15:36These are crafts for kindergarten,
15:39school, and so on. An adorable room. I
15:42really like it. Honestly, I am very
15:45pleasantly impressed. And I am very
15:47comfortable. Honestly, I didn't expect
15:50that either, we have creativity here, a
15:52magnetic game of skill. Guys, I want to
15:55be honest with you, people really love
15:57to give these kinds of things when they
15:59don't know what to give. I've said many
16:01times that this is a one-time thing,
16:03which is better to take to a summer
16:05house or give to those who have a big
16:07house where it can be put. But you
16:09don't take it out. It is
16:11>> very rare. Honestly, regift 10 items at
16:17a time.
16:18>> And the same thing. Here we are again
16:19trying to hit it with our hand, right?
16:21No, play checkers.
16:23>> Uh-huh.
16:24>> This can go here too. Well, all the
16:26more reason. So why should we waste
16:28time on this?
16:29>> Okay, let's move on to the ceiling.
16:31Here we have LEGO. This is, well, I
16:33don't know, more interesting. Well, or
16:35see for yourselves. It seems to me, if
16:37this is her theme, you definitely don't
16:39play this anymore.
16:40>> Uh-huh. This is what we play from three
16:42to five. This is a cool story, but
16:44>> it's for growing into.
16:45>> It's not for growing into, it's to play
16:48now.
16:49>> But she gets scared. Well, that's
16:50exactly why she needs to get over the
16:51fear through play.
16:52>> Oh, yeah,
16:53>> she will work through the fear this way
16:54. She's sitting with you, the parents,
16:56it's safe, everything is great. Just
16:58these sudden things, it pops up there,
17:00right?
17:00>> These sudden things. Well, let her work
17:02through it through play. On the
17:04contrary, it needs to be played out now
17:05. If your child is afraid of something
17:07in a game, it's better for them to
17:08experience these fears with you, you
17:10know. What are horror movies for? To
17:13train the nervous system for teenagers.
17:17You learn through a safe experience,
17:19and your body's reactions don't
17:21overwhelm you later when you actually
17:23encounter something, well, here it's
17:26about suddenness, right, that someone
17:28suddenly started drilling and that's it
17:30. We'll make everything look nice here
17:35now. Honestly, if we are talking about
17:39LEGO, I would choose some girlie themes
17:41, you know the ones I like more for
17:43girls. And I would recommend, look, if
17:46your girl really loves nature, is
17:49obsessed with animals and so on, that's
17:51one thing. But if she builds LEGO, but
17:55isn't obsessed with it, age 5 plus, I
17:57would still collect those sets where,
17:59even if no one is playing with the LEGO
18:02, she at least, by building these
18:04castles, these, let's say, LEGO has
18:06these whole cities, right, girlie ones,
18:09where there's a cafe, a hair salon, a
18:11beauty salon, a car, a vet clinic—
18:13while the child is building, they are
18:16already fantasizing about how they are
18:18playing with it. And this spark of
18:22imagination gives us a much better
18:24return on the same investment than
18:26assembling these 5+ sets. They can be
18:29beautiful, cool, and look great in an
18:31interior. That’s one thing, but when
18:33you accumulate a lot of them, see,
18:35it’s not just one, you realize, well,
18:37it has value, but if you can assemble
18:38something that brings more benefit to
18:40creativity, I’m all for making your
18:42money work more effectively, so to
18:44speak. Honestly, I would pass this on
18:46to someone.
18:47>> Uh-huh.
18:47>> And I would buy something that...you
18:49get it, right? Yes,
18:50>> a meaningful plot. They don't play with
18:52this. It's like boys with a police
18:54station. They pretend they're going to
18:56play with a LEGO police station. No,
18:57they won't play with it. It will keep
18:59breaking, and they'll lose interest.
19:01How they actually start playing. But
19:03while he’s rebuilding it, he’s
19:04already played through the stories in
19:06his head of how he would play with that
19:07police station. I can't take" Assemble
19:09the Pattern "away from you right now,
19:11because if we’re talking about games
19:13that really make you think, these are
19:15the ones neuropsychologists recommend,
19:17even up to teenage years. tasks. So
19:20here you have a booklet, and you start
19:22with simple tasks, with four cubes, but
19:24not by shape anymore. There are
19:26elements there, right, you have to
19:27assemble it, there’s a little sample
19:29for you, and you have to assemble it,
19:30please, right? And then without
19:33dividers. Therefore, if at some point
19:36you really want her to put her brain to
19:37work, you have one wonderful box, and
19:39I’m putting it on top. Why? Because
19:42children don’t reach for games like
19:43this on their own. Well, you have this
19:45album right here,
19:47>> so just take it, and you don’t need
19:49this small album anymore.
19:51>> I mean, if you’re planning another
19:52child, you can just set them aside
19:54because, well, what's the point,
19:55they’re in good condition? Here is
19:57another puzzle, yes, cool and quick.
20:00It’s very cool and fits her age
20:03really well. And now look, precisely
20:05because we have this cool" Airport "
20:07puzzle, that is why I am putting away"
20:09Little Red Riding Hood, "because it’s
20:11a bit too young for 5 years old. This
20:13says they played it. She'll get through
20:17these stories too quickly if we engage,
20:19so we don’t need it. Again, based on
20:22what the child already has, yes, now
20:24I’ll take a look at what you have
20:25here. These are pure Nikitin blocks.
20:29>> Take them. This is the same thing. We
20:31have three toys. They are roughly the
20:34same. When we say you have a limited
20:36budget, look carefully at what you're
20:38buying and for what age, because it’s
20:40all the same thing. Here, we've already
20:43saved 1,000 rubles. And when we clean
20:45out closets and see repetitive things
20:47—sometimes, believe me, I have
20:49clients who buy everything without
20:50looking, and there’s 200,000 worth of
20:52stuff on the shelves that is all
20:54basically the same. Since we have a
20:56good foundation here, right, but these
20:58are travel games. We'll just keep these
21:00for travel. This one is finished.
21:02>> It’s a relic
21:04>> for her. I’m keeping this because
21:06there should always be some kind of
21:08travel game, you know, even up to the
21:09teenage years. This is some kind of
21:11memory, I see she got it from somewhere
21:13, yes,
21:14>> this goes in the memory box. How do I
21:15determine if an item doesn't have much
21:17emotional value? It's just lying on a
21:19top shelf somewhere for no reason. But
21:21as soon as a child sees some memories,
21:22and you can see this is a postcard
21:24brought back from a trip, it’s an
21:25emotional piece, but it has served its
21:27purpose. So let it stay in the memory
21:29box, and that gives us the right kind
21:32of relief, knowing that everything is
21:34okay. Winter songs.
21:37>> She sings and plays.
21:39>> Well, she sings and plays. Let's leave
21:40this for New Year's. Let the winter
21:42theme stay for winter. Children enjoy
21:44doing this very much. Is the graphics
21:47tablet working?
21:48>> Anymore. No.
21:49>> Why am I asking? Because they usually
21:51break down very quickly. We need to
21:53know if it works or not." Cheese Castle
21:55"can be played with children if guests
21:57come over this year, and then you put
21:59it away. In your case, specifically in
22:02your case, it’s a good game, but some
22:05children need to move on, right?
22:09Everything here is clear and
22:10understandable. I’m going to tidy
22:11things up for the final result. The
22:13game is in perfect order. Well, at most
22:15, there's just a little bit left to
22:16play with friends. So, friends will
22:18come over, she'll play it, and it's a
22:20good game, really. Well, Quoridor is
22:22just that. Quoridor is essentially a
22:24strategy game, but you said she already
22:26plays chess. Yes.
22:27>> Yes.
22:27>> Are you still playing Katamino or not?
22:30>> See, the foundation you mentioned that
22:32you play with is a good one. If you
22:34play with it, you are already satisfied
22:36. This, well, will stay for friends.
22:41When they come over to see her this
22:42year, the start will begin. This is the
22:44formation of friendship, if they move
22:46to another level of games, I really
22:48hope so. You have this" Don't Wake
22:51Daddy, "and also, well, in short, you
22:53will remove it, but for now it stays,
22:56right, why? Because they start with
22:59this,
22:59>> you know, to have fun, to giggle. But
23:02as soon as you lead them to some more
23:04sensible games, I am counting on this,
23:07you take this and just quietly move it,
23:09right, to another place. Well, look,
23:12here is just an example for you. Your
23:15girl can reach this shelf, on this
23:17shelf stands this box, it is quite
23:19heavy. On this box there is a pile of
23:21clutter. I mean, I immediately
23:23understand that, well, it's the same
23:25for a child, it's an instant
23:26devaluation of what's inside and what's
23:28outside. It's not just Valya coming
23:30over as some, you know, neurotic who is
23:32tidying up for you. I am showing you
23:34how you are taking away from your
23:36children the value of money, the value
23:38of work, and the value of objects. Guys
23:40, things like this cost 150 rubles.
23:42Each child has a separate place for all
23:44their drawings. Drew something, folded
23:46it, drew something, folded it, drew
23:48something, folded it. When it's full,
23:50you sort through it, throw away what's
23:52not needed, and put what is needed into
23:54a memory box. And in this way, your
23:56child learns from the start to treat
23:58their own creativity with value. Value,
24:01you see, this is how it's formed. And
24:03you won't have visual noise. And
24:05separately, you have some instructions,
24:07some manuals that are currently in use,
24:09and that's it. Color Code. Has she
24:11finished playing with it or is she
24:12still playing?
24:13>> Still playing.
24:14>> Yes, we leave this, Color Code. But
24:17since it's Color Code, right, I've
24:19already realized that this is a story
24:21where she can do it herself, so it will
24:23need to be moved to a lower level. We
24:25will get to that now. So, Alias Junior
24:28needs the adult version, but she is on
24:32the threshold of 5 years old, so in the
24:35near future. There. What is the
24:37children's version? When a child cannot
24:39read, they look at the picture, right?
24:41Therefore, as soon as she learns to
24:43read, you switch to the adult version.
24:46Okay, for now I'm leaving it, but I'm
24:47putting it up high. Why? Again, so the
24:50child sees it; I don't put it on the
24:52very top, so the child can know what
24:53they have, point a finger, and say,"
24:55Let's play this. "But because this game
24:57can't be played without parents. Well,
24:59this one can't be played without
25:01parents either, so we'll play this here
25:03too for now. Are your board games only
25:05kept here? Yes.
25:06>> Yes.
25:06>> Got it, I just wanted to know what and
25:08how to do things. Rummikub. Well, for
25:11trips, this is just a delight. But you
25:13have to take it out, you know, like if
25:15you want to use a treadmill, it has to
25:17be in plain sight, not tucked away
25:19under the bed. If you want your child
25:22to take photos and learn how to use
25:24this device starting at age 5, they all
25:26do it perfectly fine. It has video and
25:28everything else, too.
25:29>> Just take it out of the box and put it
25:31somewhere for her, like
25:33>> in an area, well, let's say in a low
25:35zone. Well, you know, if it's lying
25:38there, I want to tell you, as an adult,
25:40it's very heavy. It's not just heavy,
25:43it's very heavy. And accordingly, even
25:46if the child needs it, they won't be
25:47able to get it, which means they've
25:49already given up on those toys. I think
25:51that this torn stuff, teach your
25:53children that when an item is ruined,
25:54either you fix it,
25:56>> or you, or you throw it away. These
25:59half-measures in a beautiful interior
26:02are basically giving yourself
26:04permission to settle for mediocre items
26:07, so you aren't setting a standard for
26:09yourself. You know how people pride
26:12themselves on having a mug for 20 years
26:14that's chipped and so on." But this is
26:16my mug. "But maybe it's time to switch
26:19to a new mug and say," Please bring me
26:21an exclusive mug from some country. "Is
26:24this the mug, then? Yes, this mug. But
26:27then again, just so you understand, I
26:29threw it away and Dima says," Where?
26:31Where is it? "In short, from the Czech
26:33Republic. We don't have Moser in Russia
26:36right now. It's Czech glass, I collect
26:39expensive glasses. And they were shaped
26:41like Darth Vader, these big glasses.
26:42And they had chips right, you know, at
26:44the level of the, I was putting them in
26:46the sink and slightly...
26:47>> chips. I threw them away. He says," But
26:49they were... "I say," It's nothing,
26:50nothing, it will be a goal to bring new
26:52ones, get them, find them. "I say," But
26:53these aren't to be kept, this is about
26:55your attitude toward yourself, because
26:57that's how a decline in, let's say, a
26:59decline in standards begins, and that's
27:02not good. "And a decline in the quality
27:03of life. Let's not get the child used
27:05to such moments. Oh, what interesting
27:07LEGO. My goodness.
27:09>> Yes, it's...
27:11>> Wow, how beautiful. Dad,
27:14>> I understood, I won't touch it. This is
27:17just like, you know, something you
27:19should put on a shelf, buy one, and set
27:22it up right at the start of the school
27:24year. Well, I would put this on the
27:26dresser. Here we have everything for
27:29working, and here for decoration. Well,
27:32up to 3 years old, again, only if you
27:34want to give it to another child, but
27:37do you know what to do first? Wash it
27:39in the washing machine in a lingerie
27:41bag.
27:41>> Uh-huh.
27:42>> Do you know how LEGO gets cleaned? You
27:45buy large laundry bags with a zipper,
27:47not a drawstring, because the strings
27:49come undone and everything spills out.
27:51And basically, you set it to a regular
27:53wash cycle. Your LEGO will be as good
27:55as new. And if you decide to sell it,
27:57because many moms have this LEGO piling
27:59up and list it on sites like Avito by
28:00the bag, for example, it's clean and
28:02everything is the same. We wash mosaics
28:04in exactly the same way. So that’s a
28:06life hack for you; look at how empty
28:07our shelves are now, because while some
28:09things will go there, half, the main
28:11half, is already being cleared out.
28:13Okay, only balls or stuff like that
28:15here.
28:15>> Right, I get it. Now, things with
28:18instructions, those stay in a separate
28:20folder. All your instructions are kept
28:23here. Now we’ll get to some puzzles.
28:26Yes. The size is a definite no. No, not
28:31for anyone at all. I wouldn't even
28:33recommend re-gifting this to anyone.
28:35There is absolutely zero benefit in
28:36these puzzles. They are very large.
28:38They’re just, you know, you’ve
28:40spent your time, you only have 24 hours
28:41, I always say. There are
28:43hyper-intelligent, developed children,
28:44and there are children who are given
28:45everything, and it’s like the
28:47question is, what have you provided for
28:48their development? This has 24 pieces.
28:50Definitely no. I’m even curious to
28:52see the size. The same thing,
28:53absolutely no. Here we have a T-P
28:56puzzle, 54 pieces, small, cute. I would
28:59keep this, well, for variety, for
29:01example, if we go somewhere. If she
29:03likes puzzles and puts them together.
29:05260 pieces. When she is assembling 260
29:07pieces, she won't be assembling
29:09unicorns anymore. She will be
29:11assembling completely different
29:12pictures and themes. This story is, you
29:15know, neither here nor there; it
29:17doesn't fit into either age category
29:19for us. So, you know what, we’re
29:22getting rid of it. This has 30 elements
29:25. Definitely, for a 5-year-old girl.
29:27Why do 30 elements not suit us? It
29:29doesn’t suit us for the same reason.
29:31Here is a brain teaser. Look, we’ve
29:34taken it again, this is what we have,
29:36um, for both hands, only after an
29:38electroencephalogram. Just in case,
29:41I'll say this, but I won't dwell on the
29:43topic. Honestly, I don't think it's
29:45necessary for parents to engage in such
29:47games. Usually, you should go for a
29:49consultation with a neuropsychologist.
29:51If a neuropsychologist recommends it to
29:53you, then you do it and try; there are
29:55these materials for using both hands,
29:57yes, but without a specialist's opinion
29:59, don't use these things. That is
30:00precisely why when I receive a workbook
30:02, for example, for children, I look
30:03very closely at the percentage of such
30:05tasks inside. If there are too many
30:07tasks, even if it's a good workbook, I
30:09won't advertise it. Honestly, let's
30:10just put this away. Okay, I don't see
30:13the child, you don't have a diagnosis
30:15right now, so apart from diagnosing the
30:17children's room,
30:19>> this just isn't our topic. Honestly,
30:22just don't. And if your child assembles
30:26puzzles and loves doing it, guys,
30:27please pay attention to the aesthetics.
30:30I like this one, for example, but the
30:32question of their size is also
30:34important.
30:38>> When I show you a puzzle, I always bet
30:41on that and show you exactly these sets
30:43. Guys, come on, no, just no, what is
30:47this? Definitely no. Look, we've
30:52cleared out a huge box for arts and
30:54crafts. We need this. This is a
30:56treasure. These are pencil cases. 80
30:59pieces, 5 plus. Yes, this one, yes, and
31:0380 pieces, by the way, the theme fits
31:06her, how should I put it, fits her
31:08interests. And here we have some small
31:11boxes. You know that these boxes
31:13usually cost pennies. But this stuff,
31:15what we're throwing away now, is worth
31:17about 5,000 rubles. Because these boxes
31:20, the ones we threw out, we've already
31:22basically calculated that 15,000 rubles
31:23could have been invested in some other
31:25things. I will speak in terms of money
31:28so that parents understand, because
31:30many people think this is New Year's
31:31theme, so I'll put it aside for New
31:33Year. Okay?
31:35>> Because for New Year we keep separate
31:37games, separate boxes, some workbooks
31:39that you didn't finish coloring for the
31:41New Year, you take them out at the end
31:42of November, in December, and the child
31:44sharpens their skills while getting
31:46emotionally ready for the New Year. But
31:48if it lies around in the summer and all
31:50year round, then at New Year, kids
31:51usually don't want to go back to the
31:52old" new "stuff. So, we've freed up a
31:55box. Well, this Cinderella one is also
31:58fine. There are good pieces here. Again
32:00, a useful item can cost pennies.
32:02Nothing special. I know this one. This
32:04is for this little thing here. Do you
32:08know where to put them? When you have
32:09things like drumsticks, put them in the
32:11box with the learning materials, right
32:13where the instructions are. That way
32:14they don't get lost. Because here they
32:16were lying in a box that wasn't here
32:18nor there. So, we don't need things
32:20like that. Yes. Okay, let's move on.
32:22Now look. Everything where the nanny's
32:24materials are. She has no right to get
32:26into it anywhere else.
32:27>> Uh-huh,
32:28>> got it. This is the child's space. Why
32:30didn't I end up here?
32:32>> Everything for the nanny, everything
32:34for you, everything done together,
32:35always gets put away up high. Let's go
32:37through the games. Storytelling from
32:39pictures. A very useful thing, but you
32:41have to work on it, yes. And if it's
32:43not Anya coming to you to work on the
32:45materials, honestly, I would work on
32:47this until school starts. And if she
32:50tells you that in a year, her
32:52vocabulary and memory capacity—
32:54because we lay out the pictures, you
32:56have to build a cohesive story. It goes
32:58in order of increasing difficulty. If
33:00she shows a really good result over
33:02this year, you can put it away. But
33:03honestly, I would make this a mandatory
33:05task for the nanny, because these
33:07things are very useful, they cost
33:09pennies, the benefits are immense, but
33:11few people do it. Look and remember
33:14once a week. Also for toddlers.
33:16>> Toddler stuff. Well, yes. I'm looking
33:18at that too. I'll tell you later what
33:20else to buy. Don't worry.
33:22>> So we'll just have this played
33:25periodically, yes, but I don't know if
33:28you play it or not. We use these for
33:30neuropsychological testing, among other
33:32things. Play this periodically too, but
33:35as soon as you realize she's orienting
33:37herself quickly,
33:39>> you put this toy away, just like the
33:41materials, and either wait for the next
33:43child or give it to someone. This one
33:45is mega-useful. These two games cost
33:48little and provide a lot of benefit. So
33:52, mandatory until school. Do you play
33:54with the balancing toy?
33:55>> Yes, she loves it.
33:56>> We'll keep it, because it also trains a
33:58lot of things before school. True or
33:59False: The Human Body. I love such
34:01games in general myself. Are they all
34:03yours here? Yes,
34:06>> that's wonderful. It's an Uno Frozen.
34:09Well, Uno stays with you for life, you
34:10know, she'll be taking it to camps
34:12until her teenage years. When you don't
34:14know what to do, take out Uno. Yes, a
34:17wonderful box. I really like it from
34:18the perspective of—I have the same
34:20organization myself. Actually, I even
34:21have the exact same box. And here again
34:24, there's some sort of, well, like a
34:25keychain, most likely an emotional
34:27souvenir, bought somewhere abroad. And
34:29look, I'm putting these puzzles away
34:31here. They fit perfectly right here.
34:33Here is a box appropriate for our age.
34:35And since it's clear the child plays
34:37with this with her parents, we'll put
34:40it closer here, yes, not in the corner.
34:43In the corner, we'll put the things she
34:46plays with by herself. I don't like it
34:49when games are packed in plastic bags,
34:50to be honest. Either we buy—I've
34:53shown you many different types of these
34:55puzzle envelopes. It's just that, let's
34:57say, I was heading to see older
34:59children today, so I don't have them
35:00with me. So, if anything, here are
35:02these kinds of containers. This way
35:03your game is well-packed and it's easy
35:05for the child to use. Everything is
35:07packed away immediately, and it's great
35:08. Here we have all the educational
35:10games. But, see, I've blocked the box
35:13that the child plays with. I've blocked
35:16it, it's accessible, but it's in the
35:18very corner. What the child plays with
35:20and what needs to be played with in the
35:22near future should be in sight. That's
35:24why we put it closer. So, this stuff of
35:27ours practically disappears. Look, this
35:29thing here cost about 340 rubles on
35:33Ozon. If you have it on your windowsill
35:36or you don't have enough space, and you
35:38need the child to have a system for
35:40drawings, manuals, workbooks, or
35:42something else—this is for when it's
35:44a total disaster. I'll leave this to
35:46the mom's discretion. Mom will tidy it
35:48up herself later. Look here, the child
35:50is proud of this, carries it everywhere
35:52, so it clearly holds more value for
35:54her than this. Let's put it in a
35:56prominent place. And this, for example,
36:00is the same as the LEGO. You've freed
36:02up a box, and all the LEGO that is like
36:04this goes in there. Make sure that your
36:065-year-old learns to color. This
36:09scribbling—when she does it, look,
36:11you should sit her down and teach her
36:13to color at least one small element,
36:15showing her an example. At 5 years old,
36:17she should already be paying attention.
36:19This is a volitional component. Every
36:20coloring book should actually work well
36:23. She likes these subjects because
36:25children usually scribble over them
36:26like this when they've outgrown them.
36:27Chukovsky at 5 years old. A water
36:29coloring book is, of course, absolutely
36:31amazing. Especially if I see this kind
36:34of mess. So, that's me. Oh, a sliding
36:36puzzle. My goodness. This...
36:39>> Never, ever throw this away for
36:41anything in the world. Let the child
36:44use it. Yes. Here we have the LEGO
36:46instructions. I see some LEGO lying
36:48nearby. Accordingly, this goes here.
36:51Okay, the box with the instructions.
36:53Here is its place. It's at a level
36:56where a child can reach it like this.
36:58Or if we look now, we can put it here
37:00instead. Like this. And everything is
37:02wonderful. And what is in this box?
37:05>> Valentin. Stuffed animals that she
37:07doesn't play with, but won't let me
37:08throw away. And I'm looking at them.
37:10>> Take them off the windowsill. Just take
37:11them off the windowsill today. She
37:13won't even remember them. Just move
37:15them, but then emphasize that they are
37:17going away somewhere and buy her one
37:19new toy. Alright. Instead of all these
37:21soft ones, well, we already talked
37:23about LEGO, right? I mean, guys, when
37:25you buy big sets, like buying this Star
37:27Wars starship or this airplane, you
37:29should think about the fact that this
37:31stuff will be sitting there for two
37:33years. Once, Sasha bought the Death
37:36Star. No, not the Death Star, that
37:38Falcon thing. It was just a
37:40gray-colored thing. It was about a
37:43meter and ten centimeters long. He got
37:45tired of it himself. He had to start
37:47dusting it with those little brushes.
37:49You can't put it in a container later,
37:52so thank God he realized he needed to
37:54get rid of it. And thank God he didn't
37:56have space for the Death Star. This
37:58year LEGO remade it, and it's huge,
38:00this Death Star, because, well, all
38:02this is great, but then you have to
38:04live with it.
38:06>> Uh-huh.
38:06>> Well, all these little things, she
38:08surely sorts through them. It's a good
38:10stress reliever. So I'm putting this in
38:12this box here, yes, she will see that
38:14everything is hers, and we'll put the
38:16same sliding puzzles in here too. Well,
38:18there's LEGO, I won't take that apart,
38:19but about the windowsill, you
38:20understand, right? How is she going to
38:22glue things for New Year's when it's
38:24already New Year's?
38:25>> Well, you'll peel it off, remember that
38:27. I haven't seen one like that, I
38:28wasn't sent one. It's Simand. I really
38:31liked the finger gymnastics here and
38:33the fact that we also have these tests
38:35by neuropsychologists, where a child
38:37comes in and many in elementary school
38:38can't do them. Good stuff, definitely
38:41remember this. You need to put
38:43everything into a separate storage area
38:44. Meaning, you put it away and forget
38:46about it. There it sits for you. It's
38:48good for the nanny, and good for you.
38:52There. You have no windowsill. Why
38:54would you need a windowsill? We have
38:55something for creativity here as well.
38:57>> Yes, there's a whole, well, just the
38:58day before yesterday they gave her a
38:59whole suitcase with paints and pencils.
39:01>> Well, when you have a whole suitcase,
39:04paints and pencils, yes, we put that
39:06where it’s supposed to be stored.
39:08Well, here, of course, your
39:10organization is very poor. I mean, how
39:11is she supposed to find anything in
39:13here? There’s already some assembled
39:15LEGO that she’s probably forgotten
39:17about. This, if you’ll excuse me, can
39:19be regifted. You really need to, you
39:21know, get in here. I won’t sort
39:22through it, I’ll just see what
39:24we’re clearing out of here. Ah, a
39:25Nutcracker. That’s for New Year's
39:26under the tree. So, we’ve started on
39:28the New Year’s theme. A set of dolls
39:29made from a sweater. Finger puppets.
39:31You won’t be using these, take them
39:33away. So, paints with paints, pencils
39:35with pencils. Buy organizers, sort them
39:38out. You have a lot of space here.
39:41These pencils are gorgeous, aren't they
39:42? They’re gorgeous, but I don’t
39:45recommend things I wouldn't use myself.
39:47But you remember the main rule, only
39:49what’s in my frame. Remember? Yes.
39:52I’m just saying, just in case. It
39:55applies to all teaching aids, only
39:56what’s in the frame, because this is
39:58mega cool. This thing here
40:01>> no, it has, it’s loud.
40:03>> I understand. That’s it, then put it
40:04away. Why? If it’s loud, it’s just
40:06sitting there. Again, we have New
40:08Year’s bows for the New Year. What do
40:11we have here? New Year. Beautiful
40:14snowflake butterflies. These go with
40:15the hair clips. She needs to have an
40:16organization system for her hair clips.
40:18Look, a child needs to draw, and you
40:19have the set just lying here.
40:20>> She doesn’t draw. And if
40:23>> does she draw with those thick
40:24children's ones?
40:25>> Also no.
40:26>> Also no? Well, let’s get rid of them
40:28then. They dry out, after all. But
40:30she’ll get used to this one. You have
40:31to get her used to it now, when doing
40:33letters. Blue, red. You are writing
40:35letters, after all. Let her do it there
40:37sometimes too. Since you have a decent
40:39theme, let’s remove this, and leave
40:40this one here. And as for the LEGO,
40:43we’ll take a small box now. We’ll
40:45move some craft supplies in here. But
40:47you really need to, how should I put it
40:49,
40:50>> get it together and, you know, just do
40:52it in the moment. Now I’m leaving.
40:56Take it.
40:57>> Oh, wow.
40:58>> I’ll show you many finds here. You
41:01know, when I come over, parents usually
41:03say:" Oh, I was looking for that. "I
41:04think this is part of some small barrel
41:06that you don't need. I place these
41:09toilet paper rolls in plain sight for
41:11the child, so she can develop her
41:12creativity when she sees them. So, all
41:15this kind of stuff shouldn't just be
41:16lying around. A child opens it, sees it
41:18, and that's it—the process has
41:20started. I'm taking it out now, look
41:22how. I can't just clear everything away
41:24at once here. And frankly, I don't
41:25really want to. Half of this needs to
41:27go. This is for the hostess, for
41:28creativity—it's just as it happens,
41:30right. But, for example, I see that the
41:32paints haven't been sorted here. So I
41:34went ahead and sorted just the paints
41:36and pencils. See, they're already lying
41:38in a separate box. There you go, that's
41:39your creativity. And in general, at 5
41:41years old, such things should be more
41:43visible to us. He sees that he has it.
41:45It acts as a trigger for his impulses,
41:48so to speak. As soon as you create the
41:50environment, for a child, it becomes
41:52the norm. If you hide the markers and
41:54pencils away, don't be surprised that
41:56the child doesn't like them. But if
41:57they are lying around everywhere
41:59appropriate for his age, then the child
42:01is drawn to them. And if you teach him
42:04how to use them, to color and draw,
42:06then that skill carries over, right?
42:09That is, if you don't show how to use
42:11it, the child won't use it. Well, this
42:13is all girly stuff, but there are so
42:15many drawings here that need to be
42:17thrown away or recycled and put away
42:20somewhere. Just do it without me. Just
42:23for me. Alright. But look, the game is
42:25at the very bottom under a pile of big
42:28junk. In theory, she might even play
42:29with it. I've been hoping for that for
42:32years now.
42:33>> Well, if it lies there under a pile of
42:34junk, and there are two more at the
42:35dacha. Is she playing with it—it's
42:37lying in plain sight. She's playing.
42:38Let's play.
42:40>> See, Mom wants to clean up herself now.
42:42We end up with games that are
42:43accessible. There's her free time.
42:45There's her shelf. It suits her height,
42:48at eye level. She doesn't need to reach
42:50anywhere. There are the games, she just
42:51looks up and sees everything. These are
42:53her main spots. And at the bottom is
42:55all this little stuff. And the craft is
42:57right in front of her eyes. Done.
42:59Hooray. This book still won't fit here
43:04now. But everything else will. Well, we
43:13handled the New Year stuff, didn't we?
43:15Do you know how many of these
43:17containers you need? They will fit
43:19perfectly into your drawer. Two
43:20containers, and here you'll just put
43:23things in boxes. So, two of these
43:25containers for each drawer. Or you need
43:27to get them a bit wider. And you'll
43:28have one type of junk here and another
43:30type of junk there. But creativity is
43:31always about junk. So, look, you have
43:34LEGO instructions here for sets she has
43:36already built. Make this a rule for
43:38yourself. As soon as your child gets
43:40into LEGO, all instructions go into one
43:42box immediately, because otherwise
43:44you’ll get overwhelmed, and your
43:45whole apartment will become a mess. I
43:48always had this collection, my boys
43:50always had an endless amount of LEGO.
43:52And from a very young age, they had a
43:54habit of keeping all the instructions
43:56in one place. And when they sold sets
43:58or traded them for something later,
43:59they always knew where they could find
44:01them. So, this whole organization story
44:03—she finishes playing, the
44:05instructions go here. Now, the same
44:07thing with the medals. Look, the room
44:09is beautiful, the room is lovely.
44:11Things like this should be hanging in a
44:13prominent place. This is about her.
44:16This is the age when she should be
44:17seeing this. It’s not about these
44:20magnets,
44:21>> this is what should be displayed. So,
44:22why not hang this, for example, right
44:25here, right? Right here. No. I mean, I
44:28walked in and I didn't even notice she
44:30had awards. But this is actually very
44:32significant for children, especially
44:34after the age of five. All parents,
44:35every room I visit, make the same
44:37mistake. Trophies way up near the
44:39ceiling, medals shoved somewhere down
44:41low. This is her achievement, this is
44:42her pride. She should—this is the
44:44first thing that should catch your eye
44:46when you walk into the room. Where did
44:48the New Year's pie go? That's for New
44:50Year's. That goes up on the top shelf.
44:54This is a theater for a specific fairy
44:56tale. It’s a shadow theater, Harry.
44:58This should be kept right here. This
45:00fits her age, and the nanny can use it
45:02for reading time. The fact that Little
45:04Red Riding Hood is in a full version is
45:06great, but it’s an infantile edition.
45:08We need to get the child to want to
45:09read, but this is clearly, you know,
45:11just for the very first stages of
45:12reading. She’ll finish reading these
45:15toddler books, and then you should
45:17immediately switch to, how should I put
45:19it, normal literature, in a standard
45:21edition. A photograph,
45:23>> yes, I’ve already understood. Well,
45:25when we have photos displayed like this
45:27, I recommend you either put them in a
45:28prominent place since you just arrived,
45:30or put them in an" emotions box, "you
45:32understand? Especially since I can see
45:35this is old history. Yes.
45:37>> You see, it’s sitting here, and well,
45:39why is it lying here? An emotions box
45:41or photos? A box for photographs.
45:43>> Aha.
45:44>> Can I set this aside? You decide for
45:46yourself what to do with it. Usually,
45:47in our house, everything gets taken
45:49down to the first floor, to the
45:50windowsill, and people pick out what
45:51they need themselves. When you don't
45:53know what to do with a toy, and you
45:55realize it's just clutter, but taking
45:56it somewhere to drop off is too much of
45:58a hassle, just take it downstairs and
46:00leave it there. They get picked up in
46:01seconds. You have no idea how much
46:04stuff gets collected. Etiquette.
46:06Wonderful, right? It's wonderful. I'll
46:09set it aside later to see what we have
46:11on medicine for little ones. I don't
46:13even know why she's like that. Why
46:14didn't Phoenix send me these? These are
46:18actually so interesting.
46:19>> These are interesting, right? I mean,
46:21they send me a ton of stuff. Valya is
46:22sorting through it. But they didn't
46:24send me the good ones. Moomins. Have
46:27you read them already?
46:28>> No. Well,
46:29>> read them while you can.
46:31>> That's good, because Moomins are for up
46:33to six years old; after five, we need
46:35exposure to a different kind of
46:36language.
46:37>> Uh-huh. I mean, specifically from the
46:39perspective of information processing,
46:41if you want to invest your reading time
46:43wisely, this book is strictly for
46:45before age six. Try to finish it before
46:48the school year starts. I'm serious.
46:51That doesn't mean the book is bad or
46:52anything. It just means that we are
46:54investing our time differently now. A
46:57different age requires a different
46:58investment. The" House of Turning "(The
46:59House of the World). This is what she
47:01needs to read right now, if you haven't
47:02read it yet.
47:03>> If you've read it, then put it away.
47:05>> There's no need to go back to it.
47:06That's all my questions regarding
47:07>> I would rather read this one right now
47:10than keep reading the Moomins. I want
47:12to be honest with you, honestly.
47:14>> Well,
47:15>> well, never mind, without me. But I
47:17would switch over to this story right
47:19now. Winnie the Pooh. Well, you don't.
47:24>> Robinson Crusoe. Well, I understand,
47:26it's an old story. Not right now, it's
47:28for
47:30>> well, you definitely won't be reading
47:31this in the next two years. Although,
47:33if I were to develop my reading,
47:34Robinson Crusoe. Sasha read it during
47:36elementary school, but that doesn't
47:38mean everyone is like that; well,
47:39Krylov's fables, that's clear, and
47:41she'll be covering that in school
47:43anyway. That is a wonderful story
47:44overall. All of this is useful. Read"
47:47Wind in the Willows "as well. Musical
47:49instruments. The Big Book of Water
47:51belongs with the encyclopedias. Try to
47:53separate them, you know, divide them
47:55into encyclopedias and fiction. Yes,
47:57have you read Mowgli yet? No,
47:59>> didn't land well, maybe too early. Well
48:01, that means you should read the" House
48:03of the World "right now, and then
48:05gradually switch to Mowgli. And if it's
48:07too difficult, you can read it
48:09alongside another book that's a bit
48:10easier. For example, you read a little
48:13bit of that, and a bit more from the
48:15main book, right? Just to keep the
48:17brain trained. We always have three
48:19books going at once.
48:20>> So, for example, you can definitely
48:21give her The Jungle Book right now. All
48:23parents should have a shelf or a
48:25cupboard called" gifts. "When you've
48:27been given something you know isn't
48:29right for your child, just re-gift it;
48:31if it's a good book or edition, don't
48:33let it gather dust, give it to someone
48:34else. But guys, it's impossible to read
48:36all the literature out there. You know
48:37what I mean? I'm still, how should I
48:39put it? Reading certain books,
48:42there’s an endless amount of reading
48:45to be done. This here is what she can
48:47read, you know, independently, on her
48:49own. So, add the Tale of the Priest and
48:51of His Workman Balda, and The Tale of
48:52the Dead Princess here. This is truly,
48:54yes, her whole collection, including
48:56The Steadfast Tin Soldier. Well, in
48:58short, all the books here, I like this
49:00selection. The books are read, you can
49:02keep them, but you should have the next
49:05shelf of literature in her sight that
49:07she is about to read, which will lure
49:09her with pictures, titles, and stories
49:12—just put them out. And then there
49:14are no questions about it, because it
49:15fits her age. But since you've read
49:17these, there must be something there
49:19that you will read
49:20>> ahead of time. You can just hand out a
49:22wish list to all your friends. Take a
49:24series of encyclopedias—I had videos
49:26where a series was already selected—
49:28so you don't have to think, and give
49:30one book to each person. That's it, and
49:32you have something new, it's an
49:33investment, it's useful, and everything
49:35is great, because this, all of this
49:37>> is for independent reading, right?
49:39>> But how much can you have for
49:40independent reading? She’ll never
49:42read all that in her life.
49:44>> Sort through the independent reading
49:45list with the person who knows her, who
49:47works with her, who is teaching her to
49:49read. You have a tutor coming over, or
49:50a nanny, or someone, right?
49:52>> It’s their job to sort through it.
49:53You don't need to keep all of this.
49:55It’s too much, way too much for
49:57independent reading. As soon as she
49:59masters the technique of reading by
50:00syllables—meaning, you know, she
50:02reads slowly syllable by syllable—she
50:03moves on to literature that actually
50:05interests her. And that’s when you
50:07have, pardon me, a selection here,
50:08including Harry Potter,
50:10>> which she is already reading the first
50:11part of, and these books she reads on
50:13her own, just a little bit at a time,
50:15paragraph by paragraph. This doesn't
50:17mean we start with something difficult.
50:18We start with something easy, but it
50:20has to pass quickly, quickly, quickly,
50:22quickly
50:22>> otherwise. What kind of interest in
50:23reading would there be? I'm reading
50:25nonsense that I read when I was three.
50:27What's the interest in that?
50:28>> Uh-huh.
50:29>> In the beginning, it needs to be easy
50:31so that reading comprehension forms
50:32faster. But as soon as her reading
50:34technique is established, as soon as
50:36she gets the hang of reading by
50:38syllables, we move on to literature
50:40that interests her, meaning her
50:42favorite book. But she reads just a
50:44little bit: three lines, five lines,
50:46six lines, a paragraph. But she reads
50:48what interests her, otherwise children
50:50stop reading later on. So, sort this
50:52out, keep a few books, I agree, but not
50:54in this volume. There’s an
50:56encyclopedia here, I see an
50:57encyclopedia, for example, yes. Let's
50:59take a look inside. They are more for
51:01little ones. Actually no, the
51:03information inside is fine. In short,
51:05everything you have is great. See, we
51:07even cleared out the books in just a
51:09few seconds, yes, and then you'll be
51:10able to handle this yourself. I can put
51:12this here like this, so you know that
51:14this goes here. In principle,
51:17>> we have it empty here.
51:18>> And you have two empty drawers there.
51:22Just organize, well, containers, clear
51:24everything off the windowsill, and then
51:26really think about a larger desk so
51:28that for her, since she studies like
51:30this, at least a meter twenty. At least
51:33a meter twenty. And regarding depth,
51:37look, if she has everything set up like
51:38this, for example, one shelf is
51:40stationary, yes, standing by the desk,
51:42and the other one has the lift
51:43mechanism so that her eyes, this tilt
51:45level. But with all that, if there are
51:48pencils on the desk, there is no need
51:49to constantly put them away like you
51:51are doing.
51:52>> And accordingly, it’s great here from
51:54a storage point of view. And later your
51:55husband will take the airplane here,
51:57and I will write you a list of toys,
51:59please, everything you have is
52:00wonderful. And don't forget to remove
52:01the stuffed animals from the windowsill
52:03. And remove the stickers, agreed.
52:05That's it. quiet

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