4 things you should never speak with others | Buddhism In English — Transcript

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1. 0:01welcome and welcome back to another
2. 0:04video
3. 0:05today I want to talk about something
4. 0:08really important for all of our lives
5. 0:10especially in these days and that is the
6. 0:14things that we should not speak with
7. 0:17others according to Buddhist teachings
8. 0:20now at first you might be thinking well
9. 0:23I'm not a Buddhist so why should I care
10. 0:26about these things
11. 0:27here's the thing these principles can be
12. 0:31applied to anyone's life regardless of
13. 0:34their religion or belief system
14. 0:37so that is why these speeches are called
15. 0:41for unwholesome speeches that is what
16. 0:45Buddha said about these speeches four
17. 0:49unwholesome speeches so without any
18. 0:51further Ado let's Dive In
19. 0:54first of all we have lying now Buddha
20. 0:58said stay away from lying
21. 1:00now I know we all have said white lies
22. 1:04here and there in all of our lives right
23. 1:06but whether it is a white lie whether it
24. 1:09is a black light gray light or a red lie
25. 1:12no matter what the LIE is lying itself
26. 1:15can be so harmful for all of our lives
27. 1:19why is that
28. 1:21when you lie it destroys your trust when
29. 1:26you lie it destroys your character right
30. 1:30so that is why it is very important to
31. 1:34have trust between people in our daily
32. 1:37relationships between people the most
33. 1:39important component of a happy
34. 1:41relationship is the trust
35. 1:44so that is why Buddha said live a
36. 1:46truthful life and it is very important
37. 1:49to have that transparency and honesty in
38. 1:52our relationships so the first thing
39. 1:54that we have to stay away from is lie
40. 1:57and next we have divisive speech
41. 2:01what do you mean by divisive speech
42. 2:04divisive speech is all about creating
43. 2:06drama between people or creating
44. 2:09conflicts between people using your
45. 2:11words right it can be gossiping or it
46. 2:15can be talking behind someone's back
47. 2:17right I might say that when you talk
48. 2:20these words or when you use this
49. 2:22divisive speech it is not a good thing
50. 2:25for your life and and also it is not a
51. 2:28good thing for other people's
52. 2:29relationships so Buddha said do not use
53. 2:33this divisive speech do not break the
54. 2:36relationships between people using your
55. 2:39words most of the time we use the
56. 2:43divisive speech out of jealousy or out
57. 2:46of anger
58. 2:47so that is why it's very important to
59. 2:50stay away from divisive speech
60. 2:52and the third one is Buddha said
61. 2:55stay away from harsh speech
62. 2:59now
63. 3:00when someone is calling you or when when
64. 3:03someone is treating you with rude words
65. 3:05how do you feel now we all have been in
66. 3:08this receiving end of such speeches now
67. 3:11how did you feel
68. 3:13we felt sad we felt depressed we felt
69. 3:17down about ourselves
70. 3:19so that is why Buddha said do not use
71. 3:22your words to put someone down right do
72. 3:27not use your words out of anger this is
73. 3:31all about criticizing and name calling
74. 3:33and putting someone else down with your
75. 3:36words right so Buddha said stay away
76. 3:39from
77. 3:41harsh speech
78. 3:43and finally Buddha said stay away from
79. 3:47idle chatter
80. 3:48what do you mean by idle chatter
81. 3:51idle chatter is all about speaking
82. 3:54meaningless or useless things right now
83. 3:57that doesn't say that we cannot have a
84. 4:00small chat or a fun talk with people you
85. 4:03can you we can do that but we have to
86. 4:06know where our limit is in our speech
87. 4:09right we have to set the boundaries in
88. 4:12our speech right we have to know where
89. 4:15our speech become unproductive right
90. 4:19when you use these words when you use
91. 4:21your words in a meaningful way you can
92. 4:24create a positive life and you can
93. 4:27create a positive emotions or positive
94. 4:30positive feelings in others lives too
95. 4:32right so these are the four unwholesome
96. 4:37speeches that we have to stay away from
97. 4:41that our great teacher Supreme Buddha
98. 4:43taught us according to the Buddha's
99. 4:45teachings right so why all these things
100. 4:48matter why these unwholesome speeches
101. 4:50matter in our life well Buddha said the
102. 4:55words that we speak can create either
103. 4:58positive or negative karma in our life
104. 5:01do not think lightly about this Karma
105. 5:04right you have to be very careful about
106. 5:08the karma so the intention behind your
107. 5:11words really matters in your life and
108. 5:14that is why we have to use our words
109. 5:17wisely because it can make a huge impact
110. 5:21in our lives as well as in others lives
111. 5:24too so words that we speak are like a
112. 5:29knife right you can use the knife to cut
113. 5:32something useful right and also you can
114. 5:36use the knife to kill someone else so
115. 5:38let's use our words to create a better
116. 5:41life for ourselves and for others so
117. 5:44thank you for tuning in I hope you got
118. 5:46some food for thought for your life so
119. 5:50until next time I wish you all may all
120. 5:53of you be well and happy and may all of
121. 5:55you live in peace forever