13 Harsh Truths About Men That Women Learn Too Late — Transcript

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1. 0:00a man will treat you according to the value  he sees in you meaning if he believes you're
2. 0:06the most wonderful woman he's ever met you'll  see his dedication and Devotion to you but if
3. 0:11he seems confused and not consistent is because  his intentions with you aren't clear to himself
4. 0:17because someone who believes they found a diamond  doesn't treat the diamond like a regular Stone
5. 0:23but remember that this has nothing to do with  your worth okay it has everything to do with
6. 0:27the way he perceives you and that is harsh truth  number one about men my name is Ismael Gomez I'm
7. 0:33a coach writer and speaker and ladies today I'll  discuss 13 harsh realities about men that women
8. 0:40often learn too late listen to each one of them  carefully because I promise you it will stop you
9. 0:45from experiencing disappointment confusion and  heartbreak in the future okay so let's begin
10. 0:51number two he won't love you unconditionally  ladies never expect unconditional love from a
11. 0:58man okay this is something that ends up causing a  lot of suffering in many women if you think that
12. 1:03someone would love you no matter what no matter if  you fail to meet his needs neglect his feelings or
13. 1:09disregard the balance of give and take in the  relationship you will be setting yourself up
14. 1:13for disappointment unconditional love is for  your children you know your parent it's your
15. 1:17dog but romantic relationships are built on  mutual benefits whether emotional physical or
16. 1:23social by the way this applies to women as well  okay I remember my grandmother told me once the
17. 1:29same advice she she said never expect a woman  to love you unconditionally and I was like what
18. 1:34do you mean Abuela I don't understand and she said  if tomorrow you thrown in prison for life okay
19. 1:40whether innocent or guilty no woman will put up  with that only your mother and I will be there
20. 1:45every week to see you and I laugh now because  old people always come up with the most extreme
21. 1:50scenarios to prove a point but there's a lot of  Truth in what she said so always remember that
22. 1:55principle number three insecure men will destroy  you an insecure man will try to destroy the things
23. 2:04he loves about you why you may ask because he  knows that other men are attracted to the same
24. 2:11qualities that he noticed in you so if you're  playful charismatic and have a great circle of
25. 2:15friends many times he will isolate you and slowly  dim your light and once you become codependent
26. 2:22and boring he will say that he lost attraction  for you without even understanding that he was
27. 2:27the one who caused it so always remember this  whoever you were when he first met you that's
28. 2:32what attracted him to you so don't let anyone  mold you into what they believe is best for you
29. 2:38number four transformation after wealth in their  20s or early 30s a lot of guys settle down with a
30. 2:46woman because she's the best option that they can  find at that moment they find someone who treats
31. 2:51them well and who they think will be a good wife  so they marry her but once a man starts making
32. 2:56some serious money okay which for the average  guy usually happens around their 40s things
33. 3:01often change Big Time suddenly he starts getting  attention from women who never noticed them before
34. 3:07and now curiosity starts kicking in plus a midlife  crisis thinking that he doesn't want to miss out
35. 3:13so the woman that they married when they were  young who seemed like the best that they could
36. 3:17do at that time may not fit into the new picture  of success number five will lie about cheating you
37. 3:25can find a video of your partner cheating on you  okay and many guys will say that someone made that
38. 3:31up with AI you can walk into your house catch  him on your bed with another woman and he will
39. 3:36say that she drugged him that he was unconscious  he doesn't even remember how he got there I mean
40. 3:41I've seen it all if you think that most men will  just admit Hey listen I messed up okay I cheated
41. 3:49I take full responsibility for my actions and I  will work on myself to stop this from happening
42. 3:53again ladies that barely happens and don't get me  wrong okay those cases do exist I've Witness some
43. 4:00guys really you know made a change in their lives  and worked it out with their spouse but that's one
44. 4:05in a million most men would rather face death than  admitting they betrayed you number six he doesn't
45. 4:13care about you being nice if you meet a man who's  truly in love with his partner you know what you
46. 4:20will never hear him say oh I love her because  she's the nicest woman I've ever met you know when
47. 4:26you actually hear those words when somebody leaves  you ah man I I broke her heart but she was so nice
48. 4:31to me you see when men are looking for what they  want in a woman being nice isn't usually top of
49. 4:37the list it's like sure it's great to have someone  who's polite and all but that's just expected okay
50. 4:42they take it as a given what really matters to  them are things like intelligence a good sense
51. 4:47of humor having shared interests and of course  physical attraction and an emotional connection
52. 4:53number seven great guy doesn't equal great husband  some men are wonderful individuals okay everyone
53. 5:01loves hanging out with them their friends think  that they're the best and their family adors them
54. 5:06but when it comes to being a great husband is a  whole different ball game being a great husband
55. 5:11isn't just about being a great friend or you  know fun to be around it involves qualities like
56. 5:16communication skills the ability to compromise  and a commitment to supporting and nurturing
57. 5:22their relationship in ways that go beyond surface  level interactions which reminds me of someone in
58. 5:28my family and I'm not going to say her name but  she always says about her ex-husband he's the most
59. 5:34wonderful guy that you will ever meet just make  sure that you don't marry him number eight has
60. 5:41no direction in life no woman will ever be good  enough for a man that doesn't know what he wants
61. 5:48if a man lacks purpose if he's not driven by his  work his goals and dreams if he's not passionate
62. 5:54about the type of man that he wants to become then  how can you expect him to be passionate about you
63. 5:59if a man is constructing his life as a garden  and that he knows everything that he wants in
64. 6:04it then the moment that he sees a flower he will  appreciate it but if he doesn't know what he's
65. 6:08building for himself then he will only seek you  for relaxation and not inspiration number nine
66. 6:16watch out for the Chasers many men don't want a  relationship ladies they want the Chase and the
67. 6:22conquest understand that a secure man will never  chase he'll Express that he's interested in you
68. 6:28okay but if you start playing hard to get or any  manipulative games he will direct his attention
69. 6:33somewhere else a man that chases you intensely is  someone who likes the feeling of pursuing what's
70. 6:39out of his reach so once he has you a few months  or a few years may pass but eventually in most
71. 6:45cases he'll have to drive to chase someone else  again number 10 will judge your body count most
72. 6:54people both men and women say that they want to  know everything about your past okay including how
73. 7:00many sexual encounters you've had however once  you disclose all the details it usually causes
74. 7:05a lot of friction in the relationship and ladies  I'm all about honesty okay but you don't have to
75. 7:11reveal every explicit detail like every guy that  you kissed and who was the best kisser and I know
76. 7:17that some of you do this to poke a man's ego you  know to make him jealous and even though you might
77. 7:23get his attention in the moment in the long run it  would only lead to toxicity and unhealthy Dynamics
78. 7:28in the relationship number 11 will replace you  instantly as a man I've experienced being replaced
79. 7:36in the past okay women who walked away and quickly  moved on to another guy usually though when it
80. 7:42comes to women this process is gradual okay it  often takes a few months or even years for the
81. 7:48relationship issues to emerge it's like there's a  slow buildup of tension and dissatisfaction that
82. 7:54eventually leads to a breaking point however it's  usually different in male Behavior for many guys
83. 8:00it can happen in a Flash okay they'll meet someone  new one night feel completely infatuated and the
84. 8:06next day they're out the door and you have no idea  what happened or how it happened because you never
85. 8:12saw any signs number 12 he's been brainwashed  by x-rated content many men develop unrealistic
86. 8:22expectations about the partners due to exposure  to x-rated content from an early age Imagine
87. 8:28teenage boys already consuming these things and  this is usually their first experience in sexual
88. 8:34education outside what they learn from family or  school there's a lot of research indicating that
89. 8:39frequent consumption of such content can lead  to the satisfaction in relationships as men may
90. 8:45compare their Partners to realistic standards  for trade online and final number 13 they value
91. 8:53Freedom men value their freedom above everything  else we place a high value on our our independence
92. 9:00and personal space a man feels his power is being  taken away if a woman forces him to commit or
93. 9:07show love to her he needs to do it on his own he  needs to feel that he can leave in order to stay
94. 9:13and let me give you an analogy so you understand  better he needs to walk into a movie theater and
95. 9:18see the exit sign behind him so he can leave if  he wants to but he decides to stay because the
96. 9:23movie is so captivating and worth watching that  he wants to experience it until the end all right
97. 9:28ladies those are the 13 harsh realities about  men that women often learn to late for those of
98. 9:34you who are more experienced let the younger  women know in the comments which ones you've
99. 9:38experienced yourself so they can see the evidence  and learn from you as well thanks for subscribing
100. 9:43to my channel I'm glad that you chosen me to learn  about self- Lov dating and relationship Dynamics
101. 9:48because like I always say for your relationships  to change you need to change have a beautiful day