10 things every stud should do in his 20's — Transcript

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1. 0:00These are the 10 things that if your
2. 0:02life is boring or stale or uninteresting
3. 0:05and you just don't like it. These are 10
4. 0:07things you can do as a man to give
5. 0:09yourself that creativity, that energy,
6. 0:11that vibe, that lust for life back. Some
7. 0:14of them are funny, some of them are
8. 0:16serious. I'll take you on the journey.
9. 0:18Let's do this, brother. Let's start up
10. 0:20here. One adventure per year with the
11. 0:22boys. Not Iba, not Santorini, not Miami,
12. 0:28not the drinking, not the partying and
13. 0:30adventure. There has to be some element
14. 0:32of risk. Skydiving, mountaineering, a
15. 0:35road trip on Harley's with no mechanic
16. 0:37and just a bag full of tools. Stuff that
17. 0:40improves you as a man. This is what men
18. 0:42when they start making money should
19. 0:43spend their money on. Not the luxury
20. 0:45trip, the fivestar with the boys. Yeah,
21. 0:48it's nice. It's nice, but you got to
22. 0:50earn that [ __ ] Do the fivestar for a
23. 0:52couple of days after you climbed Killer
24. 0:54Man Jarro. When you froze your nuts off
25. 0:57on [ __ ] Everest, do it then because
26. 0:59it's all about growth with your boys. If
27. 1:02you go through hardship together, if you
28. 1:04climb a mountain and one of you gets
29. 1:05[ __ ] lost, you run out of food, your
30. 1:07phone runs out of charge, you're stuck
31. 1:09there for a while, you think something
32. 1:10bad might happen, that's when you grow.
33. 1:13That's when you feel alive. I've found
34. 1:15it's only on the edge of something on
35. 1:18the edge of life and death that you feel
36. 1:20most truly alive. Maybe I'm weird. Maybe
37. 1:22you don't want to do that. But I think
38. 1:25every year in your 20ies, you and the
39. 1:27boys, you get together. It doesn't
40. 1:28matter who does what job or who works.
41. 1:29One week of the year, you boys do an
42. 1:31adventure cuz that will change your
43. 1:33life. Number two is a little less
44. 1:35gunslinger adventure Indiana Jones, but
45. 1:38very important to a man's life. It's
46. 1:40these hardships that make you pray. It's
47. 1:42through hard times that we learn to pray
48. 1:45for something bigger than ourselves. And
49. 1:47it doesn't matter what religion you are.
50. 1:49I think everybody should have a faith in
51. 1:50something higher than themselves. My
52. 1:52story was with this. If you don't know
53. 1:54me, my name is Jack as said by the
54. 1:57channel. Jack Hopkins is the is the full
55. 1:59version. Hopkins. Jack Hopkins. I went
56. 2:02to Thailand when I was 22 and I quit my
57. 2:05job and left everything behind. And I
58. 2:07moved there to build a YouTube channel
59. 2:09and become a creator and build a life I
60. 2:11wanted to live and I took a lot of risk.
61. 2:13I didn't know anyone. I got very scared
62. 2:15at times and things didn't work for
63. 2:17quite a few months and I was running out
64. 2:18of money and I was scared. And it was
65. 2:19the first time in my life that I learned
66. 2:22to pray. I learned to let go of things
67. 2:24from my own control and give them to a
68. 2:26higher power and just turn up and do the
69. 2:28things that I needed to do as a person.
70. 2:30I'd do it without the pressure. And I
71. 2:32would pray to that higher power. Pray to
72. 2:34give me the strength. I would ask for
73. 2:36forgiveness for the wrongs I had done or
74. 2:37the discipline I hadn't had or the
75. 2:39things that I'd done wrong to other
76. 2:40people. And I would start to think and
77. 2:42consider my life. Consider what I
78. 2:45wanted, what I was willing to give for
79. 2:48it in order to receive that life. What I
80. 2:50was willing to give up and started to
81. 2:52understand how my actions, the way I
82. 2:55spoke, the way I was with people, how it
83. 2:56affected people, that all came from
84. 2:58prayer, from praying in the evenings and
85. 3:00in the mornings. Five minutes, not
86. 3:02nothing crazy. I would often go to
87. 3:04places of worship as well when I was in
88. 3:06Thailand. That was very spiritual for
89. 3:08me. It was very nice experience. But you
90. 3:11before I go to bed, five minutes I go on
91. 3:13my knees, I just give thanks. Thank you
92. 3:15so much for everything I got today. But
93. 3:17no health issues. All the things that
94. 3:18came to me and and this is what I I
95. 3:20would ask for from my life and I'm
96. 3:21willing to give you this and thank you
97. 3:24for looking after me and give me the
98. 3:25strength to be bolder and more brave and
99. 3:27more courageous. Prayer is big.
100. 3:29Obviously a big side tangent. This might
101. 3:31even be something that God doesn't
102. 3:33recommend, but get a tattoo.
103. 3:36If you want to get a tattoo, just do it.
104. 3:41Doesn't have to be loads. Doesn't have
105. 3:42to be a lot like me, but I can tell you
106. 3:44now, they've only improved my life. A
107. 3:46lot of people are going to disagree with
108. 3:47that in the comments. Tattoos are
109. 3:48terrible. It's body self arm. I love
110. 3:50them. I think they look amazing. They
111. 3:52change your look. Depends what vibe
112. 3:53you're going for. Obviously, I've got an
113. 3:54interesting vibe. I got an interesting
114. 3:56look of the world. I think they make you
115. 3:58more you. If you feel like you're a
116. 4:00different character to how you're
117. 4:02outwardly presented to the world, that's
118. 4:03when you get a tattoo. So, you might
119. 4:05have grown up a bit of a dork, but
120. 4:07inside you felt like, you know what, I'm
121. 4:08a badass. I've always been a badass.
122. 4:11Doing these will make you a badass for
123. 4:12real. The tattoo is kind of the stamp
124. 4:14that goes on the outside that says, I
125. 4:16don't really give a [ __ ] All right?
126. 4:18That's just who I am. That's why I've
127. 4:19got them on my hand. That's why I've got
128. 4:20them on my neck. Do you know what these
129. 4:21are? Unemployment tats. I can't really
130. 4:24get any decent job again. Ideally,
131. 4:26that's what they meant to me. It's like
132. 4:28this is me saying like I ain't ever
133. 4:29doing that [ __ ] I'd rather be homeless,
134. 4:32do my own thing, than have to go and
135. 4:35slave away at a job that I don't like.
136. 4:37Remember I said don't like. I didn't say
137. 4:399 to5's are bad. I didn't say you're a
138. 4:41bad person for doing 9 to5 or that
139. 4:43that's a bad life. I just said that you
140. 4:44don't like. Don't do things you don't
141. 4:46[ __ ] like for long periods of time
142. 4:49without a plan to get out of it. That's
143. 4:51just wasting your life. Do whatever it
144. 4:53takes to get a clearly defined six-pack.
145. 4:55Is mine clearly defined right now?
146. 4:58Maybe. I've been eating a little bit too
147. 4:59much pizza recently. Six-pack will
148. 5:01change your life. Not just the six-pack,
149. 5:03but the arms, the shoulders, getting a
150. 5:05great physique in your 20s, you have to
151. 5:07[ __ ] do this, okay? One time. Once
152. 5:10you get the addiction, whatever it takes
153. 5:12to get that six-pack, once you get the
154. 5:14addiction of having that body and what
155. 5:16it gives you in the world, you will
156. 5:18never go back. There is no excuse. It's
157. 5:20the first thing you're ranked on. If
158. 5:22there's anything you take from this list
159. 5:23and you're anything other than a
160. 5:24six-pack or you are fat right now and
161. 5:26don't have muscle or you're skinny and
162. 5:28don't have muscle, that is your first
163. 5:29job. Anybody can do it anywhere in the
164. 5:32world. You don't even need a gym if you
165. 5:33do the right calisthenics. But I would
166. 5:35recommend going to the gym. Makes it a
167. 5:36lot easier, right? Which brings me
168. 5:38nicely onto my next point. Develop a
169. 5:41scientific level of understanding of
170. 5:43your mind, your body, and the chemical
171. 5:46balance in your body. What I mean by
172. 5:48this, understand yourself
173. 5:49psychologically. What makes you tick?
174. 5:51What takes you off your schedule? What
175. 5:53foods can you eat? What drinks can you
176. 5:55have? How do you feel after alcohol?
177. 5:57Really listen to your body. How do you
178. 5:58feel after alcohol? How do you feel
179. 6:00after too much caffeine? How do you feel
180. 6:01after doing nicotine?
181. 6:03Understand your body like a scientist
182. 6:06and understand your mind like a
183. 6:08psychologist is the most important
184. 6:10lesson you can have. Self-standing,
185. 6:12self-awareness. Know when you are
186. 6:14[ __ ] up and correct course. We're all
187. 6:16going to [ __ ] up. We're all going to
188. 6:17stray from the path. We are all sinners.
189. 6:20all of us. Nobody's but nobody's not a
190. 6:23sinner. Everybody's a sinner. But what
191. 6:25matters is you identify, you
192. 6:27recalculate, and you get back on track.
193. 6:29You have to understand yourself deeply.
194. 6:32Most people are so scared to look
195. 6:34inwards. They spend their whole life
196. 6:36distracted in this surface level noise
197. 6:38of the world. Never spending time in
198. 6:40solitude and understanding who am I? How
199. 6:42do I feel? How can I deal with those
200. 6:44feelings? How do those feelings make me
201. 6:46act? Why am I doing these things? Am I
202. 6:49even in control of my own life? Very
203. 6:52important stuff. Understand your mind.
204. 6:55Train and compete in a combat sport at
205. 6:57least once. Give you a feeling, a
206. 6:59transformation, a new person in your
207. 7:00mind that you've never felt before.
208. 7:02After you fight for the first time, I
209. 7:04thought I think four times
210. 7:05competitively, lost some, won some.
211. 7:08Great [ __ ] experience. You're going
212. 7:10to need it some point. You're going to
213. 7:11have to be able to defend yourself and
214. 7:13have the confidence to back yourself.
215. 7:14And the worst thing I see in the world
216. 7:16right now is bullies and evil people
217. 7:19being able to command people in the
218. 7:21world cuz there's not enough courageous
219. 7:22men to what
220. 7:26down and out baby. So do it. Train and
221. 7:28compete. Do a charity fight. Do
222. 7:29jiu-jitsu if you want to. I'd recommend
223. 7:31a striking sport. I've done MMA, Muay
224. 7:34Thai, and boxing. I'm not a great
225. 7:35fighter, but I can do more than most. Go
226. 7:38after the big vision and go all in in
227. 7:42your 20ies. Build your business to fund
228. 7:45your life. Build your character to
229. 7:47deserve it. And build friendships to
230. 7:50share it. That's the importance. I see
231. 7:52some people just build their business,
232. 7:53never build their character or friends.
233. 7:55They're miserable and lonely. I see some
234. 7:57people just build their character, but
235. 7:59they have no money, no friends. But if
236. 8:01you can do all three, build your
237. 8:03character through these, so you're a
238. 8:04good righteous man, build great
239. 8:06friendships, to share what you have
240. 8:08learned, what you earn with other
241. 8:09people, that is the most greatest joy in
242. 8:11the world, with your family, with your
243. 8:12friends, with the people you love. That
244. 8:14is the [ __ ] thing. It ain't about
245. 8:16having it all to yourself. Get rid of
246. 8:18all that selfishness. That ain't going
247. 8:19to serve you a bit. Things are better
248. 8:20with others. Solitude's important to a
249. 8:22man, but things are better with others,
250. 8:24with the right people. But go all in on
251. 8:25that vision, that dream. You'll only be
252. 8:27in your 20s once, and that 10 years
253. 8:29passes. You can do it in your 30s, but
254. 8:30give it a [ __ ] try. You never know. I
255. 8:33didn't have it all figured out. I didn't
256. 8:34have much money. I didn't know what I
257. 8:36was doing. I figured it out on the way.
258. 8:37My life's become beautiful. Only because
259. 8:40I went all in and took the risk and I
260. 8:41was scared. I actually have my father to
261. 8:43thank for that. Dad, if you're watching,
262. 8:45you [ __ ] legend. I was getting a
263. 8:47little scared about going to Thailand. I
264. 8:49was pussyfooting around. I was one foot
265. 8:50in, one foot out. Oh, Dad, maybe it
266. 8:52wouldn't be too bad here. Maybe I could
267. 8:54get a job and all that. My dad said,
268. 8:55"No, you go. You go and do it, man. Go
269. 8:58and [ __ ] see a bit of the world. Go
270. 9:00and try and if it doesn't work out, you
271. 9:02come back. What a blessing. What a
272. 9:04blessing. [ __ ] believed in me. My dad
273. 9:06did. Absolutely legendary. If you don't
274. 9:09have that person in your life, I [ __ ]
275. 9:11believe in you. Passing it on. You can
276. 9:13[ __ ] do it. All right. Take that
277. 9:15risk. Go and do that thing. I believe in
278. 9:18you. I've seen it. I think it's possible
279. 9:20for each and every one of you. Or you
280. 9:22right now watching this video at home. I
281. 9:24don't know what time it is. Or if you're
282. 9:25in your bed scrolling, this is your
283. 9:27chance. This is that moment that you
284. 9:28just go, you know what? Let's [ __ ]
285. 9:30change it. So, I'm going to wake up and
286. 9:32be a different man. I'm going to start
287. 9:33putting the things in place. When I get
288. 9:35down, I'm going to [ __ ] stay aligned.
289. 9:37Not from my feelings, but from the drive
290. 9:39inside of me, and I'm going to go after
291. 9:41what I want. I believe you can do it.
292. 9:43Fall in and out of love. One of the most
293. 9:46beautiful things in life is love. Is
294. 9:49loving a woman, having a girlfriend.
295. 9:52It's also one of the most heartbreaking,
296. 9:54one of the most testing times for a man
297. 9:56is when he loses that love or he loses
298. 9:58frame for the first time in a
299. 10:00relationship or he lets a relationship
300. 10:01consume his life. Your 20ies is this
301. 10:04experimental ground to understand how
302. 10:06you are going to develop your
303. 10:08relationships, your parenthood later in
304. 10:11your 30s when you do settle down. That's
305. 10:13obviously not the path for everybody.
306. 10:15That's kind of the path I'm taking. 20s
307. 10:17is experimenting. Fall in and out of
308. 10:19love. Never get too down about it. Never
309. 10:22get too up about it, right?
310. 10:24>> Don't get too [ __ ] high and mighty
311. 10:26when you think you found love, and don't
312. 10:27get too down when you think you lost it.
313. 10:29There's plenty more fish in the sea.
314. 10:31You'll be all right. Every breakup makes
315. 10:32you stronger. As long as you stay in the
316. 10:34game, you'll find a better one. But I'm
317. 10:36not saying I'm not the kind of person
318. 10:37that says, "Don't date in your 20ies. Be
319. 10:39[ __ ] disciplined and grind." Half of
320. 10:41my life in my 20ies has been [ __ ]
321. 10:43dating and being with beautiful women.
322. 10:46Best [ __ ] thing ever. And I've been
323. 10:48heartbroke loads of times. It's made me
324. 10:49a better man. I'm not trying to take
325. 10:52that away from you. I don't think anyone
326. 10:54should [ __ ] wait till your 30s when
327. 10:55you've made your money to start dating.
328. 10:57Who gives a [ __ ] Get out there, have a
329. 10:59few dates, [ __ ] some girls, have some
330. 11:01[ __ ] fun, wear a johnny. All right,
331. 11:05it's about as much advice as I can give
332. 11:06you. I have other videos on dating and
333. 11:08women. You can check them out in my
334. 11:10video channel. Go to a foreign country
335. 11:13alone where you do not speak the
336. 11:15language and know no one. Spend 30 days
337. 11:17there and document it. The thing that
338. 11:18changed my life was making videos
339. 11:21because I love it. I have a passion for
340. 11:23it. And the greatest way to make videos
341. 11:25that people care about is to go on a
342. 11:28story and a journey that people might
343. 11:29care about, that you care about, that
344. 11:32changes you as a person. So many people
345. 11:34want to do content for content's sake
346. 11:36these days. Become content because you
347. 11:38made a character, because you went on a
348. 11:40journey, because you had a [ __ ]
349. 11:42adventure. 30 days in a foreign country
350. 11:44figuring [ __ ] out for yourself with
351. 11:46nobody that you know, trying to figure
352. 11:47things out. ideally longer. I went away
353. 11:49on a one-way ticket. It's [ __ ] 6
354. 11:53years later. I never gone back.
355. 11:56It can really carry you. Put your life
356. 11:58out there, man. You're more interesting
357. 11:59than you think with the things you want
358. 12:01to go on about. All my channel is my
359. 12:03interests and my learnings. Built my
360. 12:05entire life around this. My philosophy
361. 12:07on life just from experimenting,
362. 12:09learning. Watch my old videos. I didn't
363. 12:11know what I know now. I knew what I knew
364. 12:12then. And I said that then when I wasn't
365. 12:14big, when I wasn't, didn't have money.
366. 12:16It doesn't matter. You can do it. If you
367. 12:18want to learn the way I did it, you can
368. 12:19check it out. I have a program that we
369. 12:21teach this. I actually have a call after
370. 12:23this for two hours with the boys
371. 12:25teaching this stuff. We have a lot of
372. 12:26success with our students, but I don't
373. 12:28want to go on about that. Buy a
374. 12:29motorcycle. Oh, everyone in the
375. 12:32comments. Oh, it's dangerous. Yes, it
376. 12:35is. It can be heartbreakingly dangerous.
377. 12:36It can kill you. That is why we ride,
378. 12:38right? It is on the edge of life and
379. 12:40death. That's why it feels [ __ ] good.
380. 12:42Everybody knows that. There's a lot of
381. 12:43risk. That being said, I'm not saying be
382. 12:46a [ __ ] delinquent on a motorcycle.
383. 12:48I'm not saying go on it and race around
384. 12:51and try and get yourself killed. That is
385. 12:53usually a problem. Majority of guys that
386. 12:54die on bikes, they ride too fast, they
387. 12:56ride too hard, they get a big bike too
388. 12:58early, and they don't wear gear. Not
389. 13:00always. Tragedies do happen, but that's
390. 13:02often it. It's a lot safer if you learn
391. 13:05to ride on a smaller bike. You learn to
392. 13:08ride safely. You learn risk management.
393. 13:10You learn to anticipate things. You
394. 13:12learn to respect speed. You learn to
395. 13:15respect and manage your ego when you
396. 13:18ride a bike because it can kill you. And
397. 13:20you learn to maintain the bike, to
398. 13:24maintain something, to use your hands,
399. 13:26to check a bike before you ride it
400. 13:28because it could kill you. To maintain
401. 13:30something in your life, to have some
402. 13:32craftsmanship, to have some mechanical
403. 13:34knowledge that is lost our connection
404. 13:37with the world. Riding is connection.
405. 13:40Everything goes electric, right? Ubers
406. 13:42that drive themselves so you can podcast
407. 13:45your life away in the car wash while you
408. 13:47don't touch any machinery. All electric
409. 13:49[ __ ] batteries what they can turn on
410. 13:51and off. What about a Harley-Davidson
411. 13:54with [ __ ] petroleum in it that just
412. 13:56roars and thunders and you have to stay
413. 13:58alert and you have to connect with it
414. 14:00and you have to maintain it and look
415. 14:01after it like it's some sort of wild
416. 14:03beast.
417. 14:06That's romantic, isn't it? You know you
418. 14:08want that. Be careful when you ride, but
419. 14:11don't get too scared off from this. Wear
420. 14:12gear, look after yourself, protect
421. 14:14yourself. But riding bikes, I know it's
422. 14:16dangerous. It's one of the best things
423. 14:18I've ever done in my life. Been doing it
424. 14:19six years now. Owned multiple bikes.
425. 14:22It's changed things for me. I don't ride
426. 14:24crazy. I try and stay safe as possible.
427. 14:26I got some great gear. I'll maybe do a
428. 14:28gear review at some point. Tell you what
429. 14:30I buy to keep myself safe. Tell you how
430. 14:32I ride and how I check my bike to keep
431. 14:34myself safe. But those are my things.
432. 14:36So, 10 things every stud should do in
433. 14:38his 20ies. You just got them. If you
434. 14:40want to rebuild your character, change
435. 14:41your life, you kind of have the road
436. 14:43map. And I'll see you again soon. It's
437. 14:45been a pleasure. Whoop out.